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53 South Bend, IN Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–80
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello! Thanks for visiting.

Me? Long story, way so short:
I was born in Colorado and educated in Indiana. Raised on a farm (Green Acres style), I've lived in downtown Chicago and meta-lived in Minneapolis and Toronto. I have a master's degree. I am a one-person marketing dept by day and I make music by night. I've been to India this year and I've worked in Mexico City. I have a mortgage with less than nine years to go, songs on iTunes and my own car. I was born on the Day of Irreverence: just coz I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm not serious.

The best breakfast I've ever had was in Big Sur after camping during a PCH roadtrip. The best steak I ever had was at Christian's, a desanctified church in New Orleans. I've seen the ball drop in Times Square—for the actual millennium. I had a "moment" with Margaret Atwood. I stood back stage with Loretta Lynn not <—this far—> away from me. Within one calendar year, I traversed the continental US, Seattle to Key West, by car. My senior year as an undergrad, my school won the men's Div I basketball national championship. Of course, there's more ;)

I get invited to a lot of parties. It helps to be a P.U.N.K.: Professional Uncle, No Kids.

I am the sibling (of five) who has power of attorney for our parents (now, only our mother). Irreverent does not mean irresponsible.

Who knows if an algorithm* is able to find a truly compatible match, but here I am, trying. Real World introductions require a bit more serendipity, so I'm hoping a post on a free dating site demonstrates an earnest intent on my part. (Paid dating sites feel unseemly, but I suppose there's that “putting your money where your mouth is” component.)

I'm a romantic, sure. I suspect everybody here is sensual to one degree or another (I may be vanilla for some, habanero for others). I'm intellectually curious—always open to try/do new things—and artistically inclined. I enjoy dancing, too.

Funny is oh-so attractive to me, a clear sign of intelligence, but so is the female archetype. Entertainment or endearment, either seems compelling.

What I’d like most is to learn more about you, behind the pixels, as it were.
Meeting you in person is my eventual goal.
A chat here or an encounter there can lead to a great memory or an adventure better than we've ever imagined.

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
learning new-to-me songs, writing, shoveling snow, fixing things around the house, selling gear online
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
coming up with useful, actionable ideas: aka "fun things to do!"
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my eyes (hence an additional photo) and my good humor (hence the additional photo)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I own hundreds of books, but I do prefer those by Neal Stephenson or Margaret Atwood. Elizabeth Bishop has a clarity and precision in her writing second to none. Shakespeare and Vonnegut, natch.

I will always subscribe to New Yorker and Guitar Player magazines.

I enjoy movies. Samsara speaks to me. Though it's not my favorite, "When Harry Met Sally" is like a friend rather than an entertainment (feel free to ask why).

“Shows”? New Girl is closest to screwball comedy in a LOOOOOoooooong time, I fon't watch too much TV per se (I sometimes don't get around to my Netflix in a month).

I own hundreds of recordings (LP, casette, CD, iTunes/MP#s, even a couple of 8-track tapes here and there). Since I perform it, which can be different than what I choose to listen, my tastes are broad and, occasionally, deep. For my wake: Beethoven's Ninth, Queen's Bohemian Rhapsody, Buckley's Dream Brother, Dylan's Highlands, Cohen's Anthem.

Food: Thai, Lasagna, angel food cake, crème brûlée; craft beers and spirits, fine wine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Wifi connection, rock and roll music, hiking boots, my passport, WAM, towel
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
“What is love? Love is the absence of judgment.”—The Dalai Lama

as opposed to

Dataclysm —OKC founder and president Christian Rudder
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
available for shenanigans
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I own a lot of shoes
You should message me if
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• you like and share long, even writerly, responses

• you want to know what my private OKC answers are, irrelevant or otherwise

• you’d like to meet in person and messaging offers some background

While my experience w OKC has been, well, OK, I'm not a fan of the poorly worded, ridiculously limited or "would you rather" questions. I tend not to answer (or privately answer) them, so of course message me for direct, private admissions ;)