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53 South Bend, IN Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–80
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:59pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Welcome to my little corner of OKC.

Long story short
I'm good-humored, creative and bright. A compelling conversationalist, I make friends anywhere. Sure, everybody’s sensual, but I live in the moment, mindful in my day-to-day experiences. Rather than merely having a life, I’m making a Life. I enjoy the friendship and perspectives of women, but I miss the conspiratorial companionship of a one-and-one relationship, be it for a dinner or something deeper. And, I'll dance with you!

The rest of this section is for you who like the devil-may-care in the details.

Born in Colorado, I was mostly raised and formally educated in Indiana. I've lived in Chicago and spent significant time in Toronto, Minneapolis, Indianapolis and Milwaukee. I am at a point in my life where I am ready to move anywhere, or not, for personal growth and continued prosperity.

Though childless, I regularly attain Cool Uncle status and "have a lot of young" in me, according to one of my nephews.

I’m spiritual, not religious: my karma ran over my dogma! I went to Catholic grade school and spent years attending mass, but today I am a philosophical seeker of beauty and truth.

By day, I ply my talents professionally as a creative content developer for a small tech firm; by night, semi-professionally as a guitarist/bassist. The combination leads me to new and interesting adventures, personally and professionally. FWIW, I have songs on iTunes and I finished NaNoWriMo.

Not only performing, I seek out live music events—from concert halls and opera houses to the diviest bars with the diciest Brown-Eyed-Girl bands—fine dining, movies, theater and art museums. I am not a sports fan, but I am an American football fan. I enjoy live Shakespeare in Stratford, Ontario, and a game-winning touchdown in Notre Dame or Lucas Oil Stadiums.

I like traveling (recently returned from New Delhi), roadtrips in particular. "Near Me"? With pleasure!

Mature enough to preëmpt drama, I am practiced at the adult roundelay, cultivating connections without possession. I am immature enough to have Big Fun and show you a very good time.

While certainly open to a long term relationship, the hallmarks of my personality—curious mind, good humor and easy generosity—I hope to see reflected in whom I may discover here or anywhere.

But what I want most is to learn more about you. A chat or an encounter can lead to a great memory or the adventure you've always imagined. Namaste!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
recovering from jet lag, preparing for a recording session
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
using my hands
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
are my eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Authors: Wm Shakespeare, K Vonnegut, TS Eliot, Neil Stephenson, Margaret Atwood, Mary Doria Russell, William Gibson, Elizabeth Bishop, Brooke McEldowney, Jack Kerouac (BA in English, so there are *plenty* more). Presently, I'm reading the book by OKCupid cofounder and president among the three or four I'm juggling

Movies: space operas, screwball comedies, "serious" films, indie, foreign
(Princess Bride, Brazil, Once among top favorites)

TV Shows (if/when I watch): The Daily Show (online; I don’t have cable), New Girl, Game of Thrones; back in the day perhaps Firefly, Lost, Fringe. I have hulu+ and Netflix.

radio/podcast: This American Life, Marketplace, On Being

Music: Queen, Beatles, SCOTS, QOTSA, Led Zeppelin, Muse, Leonard Cohen, Jeff Buckley, Miles, Ludwig, Mozart, Rach III, Tunstall [college, classical or jazz on the radio]; WXRT, WTTS, WFHB, WGCS

Food: Thai, angel food cake, lasagna (no seafood or fresh tomatoes, please: I'm allergic)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Poetry, humor, a strong Plan B, my own transportation, my passport, a spare set of strings
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Dating and Dataclysm
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
as likely to be at a movie as a live music performance as in front of my TV or computer as beginning a roadtrip as—well, you get the idea...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can pack for an overseas trip in a single carry-on bag when called
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you want want an adult conversation that just might slide into some filthy kid stuff :D

I support choice in partners and what one does with/for/to one's body. This may be important to you to know.

While my experience w OKC has been, well, OK, I'm not a fan of the poorly worded, ridiculously limited or "would you rather" questions. I tend not to answer (or privately answer) them, so *of course* message me for direct, private admissions ;)