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ArdentWanderer

35 Philadelphia, PA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:26pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Law
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Tasteful yet unrefined. A lover and a fighter. And a workaholic.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Legal assistant at a Center City law firm by day, gonzo blogger by night, and an existential detective year-round...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
lending an ear when you need to vent. Photography. Billiards (okay, not *really* good). Back rubs. Writing public records requests. Maybe a Chris Walken impression. Procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I listen well. Boisterous laugh. Intermittent smartassery. Beard. Reserved at times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:
Non-fiction (particularly biographies and history), noir fiction.

Movies:
Far too many to list, but here goes:

Chinatown, L.A. Confidential, Mulholland Falls, Serpico, The French Connection, Rushmore, Moonrise Kingdom, Gangs of New York (long live the Dead Rabbits!), Buena Vista Social Club, The Big Chill, The Insider, Boogie Nights, There Will Be Blood, Michael Clayton.

Television:
House of Cards, The Newsroom, Homeland, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, The Walking Dead, and rewatching old X-Files seasons is sheer bliss.

Music:
Lots. Top choices: Lord Huron, Holly Golightly, Clinic, Holy Fuck, Arcade Fire, Nine Inch Nails, Max Richter, The Fall, The Coup, The War on Drugs.

And Portishead for making out.

Food:
Anything spicy. Craft beer. Pizza.

I burn pancakes. Halp.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Philadelphia. I love this damned city the way one might love a longtime friend.

My special needs dog and neurotic cat.

Books, films, photography, craft beer, cuddles/foreplay, and pizza.

And yeah, that's 10 items. Sue me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Anarchism. Corrupt cops. Privilege. Why I work too much instead of stopping to smell the roses a bit more. Why I'm growing comfortable with my life for the first time after years of wanderlust and risk-taking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
checking out a film, hitting a bar or show with friends. Walking the streets with no particular destination in mind. At home writing an article. Reading on the patio or in a park. Netflixing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've experimented with respectful non-monogamous relationships, and generally enjoyed them.

I don't mind going to the movies alone.

It's a shame OKC jettisoned the "pen pals" option.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
this excellent essay, "Dating Tips for the Feminist Man", resonates and appeals to you: http://www.mediacoop.ca/blog/norasamaran/19018

Or if you just feel like saying "Hey".