Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
There really isn't enough space here to cover even the first few
years of my life, so I'll keep this brief - if you want to know
more about me, just ask. (I don't use the IM, so send a
I was diagnosed with synovial sarcoma a couple of years ago. So far
I'm winning but you never know how long for, so I'm trying to make
the most of every moment just in case they find something nasty on
the next scan.
Most of the time I tend to be fairly easy going and optimistic, but
now and then the black dog gets his teeth in for a while,
thankfully the up side is very much winning these days. I bore
easily so I try to keep myself busy and distracted as much as
possible. That does tend to mean I'm pretty busy and don't have a
lot of spare time but that's just the way I am. I'm doing an OU
degree at the moment so prone to disappearing into my books
depending on how soon the next assignment is due.
I'm kinky, polyamorous and pagan - so don't bother contacting me if
you're narrow minded. I'm not evangelical about any of them, but I
also don't hide what I am and that does have a tendancy to break
brains. Please note that this does not mean that I am desperate for
a shag and will automatically say yes to whatever lewd suggestions
you want to make - I have several rather fabulous partners already
so can get all the shagging I want without resorting to random
strangers from okcupid. That's not saying I'm not open to offers,
just that I'm only likely to accept really good ones! I'm
definitely not looking for or interested in casual sex - friendship
is far more important, so please don't bother messaging just to hit
If that hasn't put you off completely you can also find me under
the same username on Livejournal and facebook.
I am Poly, Heathen, and possibly Chocolate Flavoured
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to enjoy as much of it as possible. Sounds really cliched,
but I figure if you're not at least trying to enjoy yourself,
what's the point?
To help me enjoy it, some of my favourite distractions are
, badgirlz larp
, chinese food
, comedy clubs
, dinner parties
, dork tower
, encaustic art
, great sex
, green & black's
, johnny depp
, murder mysteries
, naked jacuzzi parties
, rocky horror
, stand-up comedy
, stone circles
, terry pratchett
and many many more....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Saying YES when a saner person would say NO! Wasting time online or
roleplaying. Cooking delicious meals I can never repeat because it
was all improvised. Making "stuff" (I knit chainmail for fun and
dabble at any craft I can get the materials for). I'd like to think
I was good at writing but I guess thats a matter of opinion - I've
sold a few erotic stories that have appeared in actual books so I
can't be totally awful, and I write LARPs for various roleplaying
conventions. Some of which people even enjoy! I like long winding
conversations and enjoy a good arguement but am pretty good at
staying friends even while totally disagreeing with someone.
Other than that - try me :o)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm short and tend to be a bit quiet in crowds or around folks I
don't know so quite often folks don't notice me. Although if I'm
wearing the right outfit or have added a corset the cleavage has
been known to cause well known authors to walk into posts...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - I'm a text junky, I read pretty much anything. but I guess
the default setting for fiction is SF - Pratchett, Banks, Gaiman
for preference, or Crime fiction and Mysteries (research for the
Movies - the Princess Bride and Rocky Horror are all time
favourites, but I also love musicals.
Music - I like all sorts of music, but live is best.
Food - I like most food, especially anything spicy or tangy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Actually, I'm pretty good at doing without - but I don't suppose
that's what the question is really getting at so...My glasses (I
need to see), My partners, My friends, Access to the internet, a
warm bed to snuggle into at the end of the day and something new
and shiny to keep life interesting.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life. What I'm supposed to be working on. The people I care for.
Things I want to do. Fun things I've done recently. Why life is so
unfair, What I can do to make things better.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, laughing and having fun - or on my way with one
of my partners to somewhere nice for a weekend of hot sex and
funtimes. Or maybe at home with hubby, watching the usual rubbish
on TV and spending too much time online. Maybe at the local munch
hanging out with my fellow kinksters. Maybe at the local comedy
club. Maybe heading off to a gaming convention or prepping for a
Fridays are kinda fluid really - they depend on what else is
planned that weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours :)
I used to work as a human lie detector so I'll know if you're being
honest with me!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You think you're someone I'd find interesting. You're not narrow
minded. You can do silly as well as serious. You don't think that
me replying to you automatically leads to a shag. You use real
words and grammar not text speak. You have experience of synovial
sarcoma especially if it's a positive story. You have suggestions
for updates I should make to my profile.
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