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45 Chicago, IL Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Oct 1
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm funny, kinder than I should be, good at boundaries, but willing to explode them; an adventuresome soul that seeks out like-mindedness, art and literature, the willingness to have a connection.

*a minor update from May, 2015. If you are a man, please don't message me. I am a polite person, and yet it's tiresome to respond to people who by definition are not what I am looking for on what is inherently a dating Web site. I have tons of male friends, and male energy in my life. That's not why I am here or what am seeking. Thanks!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a little perplexed by this question's broadness. I'm living life to the fullest of my abilities, seeking out the good in each day.

The past year was one of radical transformation. Badically, I am attempting a 180 after years of doing something I am good at, but not very passionate about to earn a living. What that looks like is still unclear. Return to school? Work short term, part time gigs and freelance while volunteering? Other? All? It's a good time for changes!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Actively listening to music of all genres, saying the perfect thing imperfectly, making connections, touching my toes, continuing to talk when silence might be best, trading bad poetry, whispering to cats, and public transportation from 'a to z' without blinking at connections.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically? My hair, eyes, and my voice. Yes, it is natural. Gingers get asked that about one a day, so let's clear that up right now, K? The voice thing confuses me. I think I sound normal, but many strangers have asked me what country I'm from. Weird.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: Films that reinterpret 'the ugly duckling' archetype. Examples: Strictly Ballroom. The Sound of Music. Harold and Maude.

Literature: I tend toward poetry (especially early 20th C.), non-fiction, and history. Late 18th and 19th C. British novels. I made a pilgrimage to Yorkshire to celebrate that love. Live theater. Thrift store text books.

TV: Sometimes. I like to watch shows in blocks, and don't believe in scheduling life around a box, but adore Buffy. Seriously. I delight in its writing and wit, love introducing it to new people, and watch it on rainy days.

Music: I love hunting for the perfect three minute song. My quest covers everything from classical to jazz, pop to electronica. It's out there, and I will find it! Lately, it's been all about finding songs the suit me at Karaoke and belting them out every Sunday like a banshee. I also love figuring out folk versions of popular songs with friends.

Food: I'm a picky but adventurous eater.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends and family.
Poetry and song lyrics. When not engaged in active conversation I am reciting something, singing something or writing something, very quietly to myself.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. much I think? I have a tendency to over think everything.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...avoiding the typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why spoil the mystery of discovery? I don't like providing the map without gauging the territory.
You should message me if
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you want to grab a drink or coffee and see what happens? You're charmed and want to know more? Beyond that, I am seeking women to date, and by date, I mean ACTUALLY date, find a connection, enjoy the explosions that happen when a switch is flicked.