Its so much easier to observe others mistakes even while excavating ones own demise. But mostly I'm paying attention and always ready to improve my game.
I'd much rather get together somewhere for a chat and a cup of tea, or some other beverage, or even a stroll around a local park or really where ever your comfort level may be in meeting a stranger.
A much more genuine way, I feel, to discover a possible connection.
Gotta go play now.