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My self-summary
I've been in a relationship with SidekickEmpress since October of 2011. We're polyamorous. I was a bit skeptical at first, but it's turned out to be nothing but awesome sauce. She, her husband and I are all coparenting a lovely little boy, who I adore and can't give enough kisses to.

I grew up in Marin, moved out to the east coast for a couple years, and then moved back here in 2012. Chorus of angels descending from the sky, etc.

I turn the nerd up to 11. I can spell sesquipedalian.

I have a degree in Audio Engineering and I work in the tech industry. My job has nothing to do with my degree... I used to have an electropop band with my sister, who's a trans woman. She once put me in drag for halloween; I make an incredible bearded lady.

I also like cute things, so send me pictures of your babies and puppies and we shall squee together. Every now and again I indulge myself a baseball game, though that's more about the warm nostalgia and memories of eating garlic fries with my Dad than the brotastic broness of broing to sports games with the bros.

Lastly, I'm pretty busy these days, but I have pockets of free time here and there, and am looking for someone to spend those pockets with. Preferably moving in some manner - walks, hikes, runs, bicycling, yoga, whatever - and preferably with someone with whom I have the possibility for some sort of physical attraction. Because touching people is fun, and so is being touched.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in San Francisco but live in the east bay, so I am one of those listless drones on BART who doesn't make eye contact with anybody in the morning. Maybe we can be BART buddies! Do you /also/ commute from the East Bay to the city in the morning? Let me know! We'll have an actual conversation on a public transit service.
I’m really good at
Great at picking things up and then putting them down, reaching stuff on high shelves, snuggling, and knowing way too much about silly science fiction books/movies/video games.
The first things people usually notice about me
The red beard, the height, the breadth of my shoulders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Asimov, Herbert, Ursula K. Le Guin, Phillip K. Dick, Tolkien, AA Attanasio, William Gibson, Neal Stephenson, Silvia Federici

Movies: Let The Right One In, Zombieland, Waynesworld, Back to the Future, Ghostbusters, The Big Lebowski, American Beauty, The Matrix, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Shrek, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The 40-Year-Old Virgin, Little Miss Sunshine, Star Wars, The Town, Iron Man, Shrek, The Godfather, The Dark Knight, The Princess Bride, Tron, Boondock Saints, Fight Club, Star Trek, Alien, Serenity, Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure, LA Story, Attack the Gas Station, Lost in Translation

Music: Muse, Radiohead, Hockey, Splashdown (NO ONE HAS HEARD OF THEM, BUT GOOGLE THEM RIGHT NOW BECAUSE MELISSA KAPLAN IS THE BEST), CunninLynguists, Sonnymoon, Empire of the Sun, Massive Attack, Metallica, The Beatles, Save Ferris, Frank Sinatra, Broken Bells, Tool, A Perfect Circle, Beck, Lily Allen, The Killers, Dredg, The Who, Alabama Shakes, Depeche Mode, David Bowie, Modest Mouse, Gorillaz, Nine Inch Nails, Lily Allen, Alice in Chains, The Rolling Stones, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Sublime, Johnny Cash, Charles Mingus, Infected Mushroom, John Coltrane, Thelonious Monk, Ray Charles, Queen, Girl Talk, Pink Floyd, No Doubt, The Doors, Mr. Bungle, AC/DC, Snoop Dogg, Faith No More, System of a Down, Bob Marley, Dr Dre, Michael Jackson, Sigur Rós, BT, Stevie Wonder, Jeff Buckley, Rock Sugar, Universal Hall Pass, Hybrid, a gazillion more. I'll listen to anything good, regardless of genre.

TV Shows: Dexter, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, South Park, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Battlestar Galactica, Dr. Who, Torchwood, The Walking Dead, Planet Earth, Breaking Bad, Top Gear, The Boondocks, MythBusters, It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, Futurama, The Simpsons, Arrested Development, Fringe, Robot Chicken, Family Guy, The Office, Star Trek, Dollhouse, The Daily Show, X-Files, Buffy: The Vampire Slayer, Angel, Firefly, Will & Grace, Psych, Game of Thrones

Food: I looove Thai and Mexican. Also sushi. Once upon a childhood I was a picky eater, but my palette really opened up once I hit my 20's. Lately I've been slowly discovering the awesomeness of weird foods. Still have a thing about mushrooms, though I know it's completely psychological. Can't eat them if I know I'm eating them.
The six things I could never do without
My girlfriend, SidekickEmpress, who I'm madly in love with. Her husband, zjapa, who is one of the most hilarious people I've ever met and a great friend.


Things that plug into the wall and make a whirring noise.
Ways to entertain myself.
Uuuuhhhh.... Gizmodo?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The inevitable heat death of the universe. This gave me a panic attack once.
On a typical Friday night I am
Saving the world, nursing a glass of wine, clamoring obnoxiously about, bothering my friends, entertaining the masses.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My name is a killing word.
I'm a feminist.
I love wine.
You should message me if
You're a strong personality. You're intelligent. You're not afraid to tell me to shut the hell up when I inevitably say something idiotic. These are my only requirements. Everything else is just potential conversation starter material.

You think that if my car threw a rod in the desert and we had to fix it with parts stolen from a nearby junkyard guarded by rabid dogs and shotgun-packing locals that this would be a fantastic bonding experience.

You're down with the poly thing. You don't have to currently be seeing multiple people. Or ever really plan on it. But you have to be cool with me seeing more than just you.