I'm married to buttercups13. Yes, we met here. We're entirely open with each other about whether and how we interact with others, so I'm not comfortable with "discreet" arrangements.("Discrete" is okay though -- I'm definitely not a unicorn hunter) Most of my OKC time has less to do with "cupid" and more to do with finding boardgame partners.
I like to think of myself as even-keeled, but OKC calls this "less emotional" instead. I'm intensely loyal, but tend to be on the slow side when it comes to adding people to my social circles.
My sense of humor tends to be sardonic, opportunistic and observational. Some people think I have no censor on my inner voice, so it's a good thing they haven't heard the comments I didn't say. My rule of thumb is that anything non-hurtful is fair game. For those of you who saw the Boondock Saints and want to tell me where the phrase "rule of thumb" comes from, you should read the I spend a lot of time thinking about section first.
Physically, I traded the glasses for laser enhanced 20/15 vision a couple years back, and the blue eyes have been getting a lot of attention. My hair has gotten past the awkward middle length and is now long by most definitions, but after an unfortunately "styling" the day of the wedding, it has a tendency to go frizzy when the humidity rises. I look like a clean, well-dressed hippie, or maybe a short biker in corporate clothing. I'm okay with that. I don't expect to lose the beard again, but it will change sizes and shape depending on my mood when I shave. I've historically been athletic and competitive in racing and field sports, but adjusting my personal expectations as I age and my fitness declines has been a challenge to my humility.
Most of my hobbies aren't nearly so manly. German and German-style board games, crafting, teaching and linguistics top the list, but other items like cooking, Swedish massage, the latest Bemani, social groups, poker and the like can get added to my perennially overbooked schedule at any time. My latest new language is Mandarin.
Boardgames: Outsiders who hear the terms boardgame
and boardgamer assume that these entail rolling dice and moving
a marker around a circle, but the boardgames I play tend not to
have dice and are authored by esteemed people such as Wolfgang
Kramer, Reiner Knizia, or Sid Sackson. The games generally take
ninety minutes to three hours to play and are both socially and
intellectually stimulating. I regularly attend two boardgaming
groups, so message me if you think you might like to be introduced
to the hobby. You'll probably know after the first night whether
this is for you. These days I only play socially, but back in the
twentieth century I played the intense two-player games like Trax,
Go, and Chess. I went overboard with Trax and made it to world rank
Crafting: I have done latch-hook, counted cross-stitch, painting ceramics, bitmaps and pixmaps, an OKC test (click on "tests" atop my profile to take the test yourself), and I have a matchstick lighthouse kit in the queue for when I finish my current project. Celtic knots are a motif throughout my art, especially the Caer Nichol, which appears in the first page of my OKC test. I used to belong to a weekly crafting group, but it was scattered to the four winds by entropy. Now I'm part of a monthly group, but I need a little more frequency than that. I'm still looking to join something in this area.
Poker: I have a World Poker Tour card and have participated in my first WPT Main event. 2006 also marks my first World Series of Poker event in July (Razz and Stud hilo8). Playing at this level has pretty much killed social poker for me. The mindset of playing to take someone's money versus playing to socialize are just too different to reconcile. Deep down this was probably an attempt to look scruffy and disreputable, like the long hair. Now that poker is on all the cable channels, however, it's become downright respectable. I'll have to try something else.
Honourable Mention in Mid Libs 2008
Mi ne estas Esperantisto, nur Esperantanto. La lingvo estas bela kay forta, sed mi ne usas.
Aprendí español en Argentina y mi escuela en los estados unidos. No quiero hablar con la practicala de un porteño, pero la "ll" de calle puede ser una "ezhe" unas veces conmigo. Mi esposa primera nació en BsAs, y después del divorcio, paré harblarse mucho y mi fluidez ha deteriorado.
Jina langu ni Mel. Hatusema kiswahili nyumbani, lakini tunasoma.
I am insightful, open, and direct
I'm well-read and well-travelled, but I've missed a whole lot along the way by rushing into an ill-conceived marriage as an undergraduate and then allowing all sorts of experiences to just not happen over a decade and a half. My user name is getting less and less descriptive of me (I did remarry...), but the account was instrumental in my transformation to a second adulthood and I can't bear to delete it.
I've stopped trying to get into athletic shape and started trying to get into shape, period. This doesn't actually involve different actions; just different expectations. I've put enough wear and tear on this body that I figure I owe it some TLC from now on. It's been good to me, all in all, in spite of all the broken bones, cuts and contusions.
I'm going back to school in the fall to get a graduate degree in Education and explore this more fully. I know this belongs in the "doing with my life" section, but I like it better here.
Movies: Krieger und Kaiserin, Pay it Forward, Being John Malcovich, Brazil, 6th Sense, Rear Window, The Secret of Roan Innish. I like comedy, but nothing specific is coming to mind. I have a definite sweet tooth for Buckaroo Banzai, Big Trouble From Little China and three of the God of Gamblers movies (the two with CYF and the prequel).
Music: My musical tastes are in flux. I've been listening to a lot of spoken word (the sort of things you'd hear at a poetry slam) and then instrumental-only western bluegrass. My collection has a lot of 60s rock in it, but it's sitting idle. This whole area is likely to change without notice.
Foods: thai curry, fungi, rare steak, sautéed asparagus, capsicum, spice, garlic
With all the thinking and work I've done you'd think that I'd have accomplished a lot, but once I figure something out I tend to move on to the next thing before I follow through and write up my results, so I guess I'm just a flake. I'm okay with that. I'd rather play with language than make it a job anyway.
In the service of these experiments, I've applied (mild) electric shocks to the palms of people (well, grad students, which are kinda like people) and shoved medical tubing up my nose far enough to swallow it. This isn't nearly as crazy as it sounds out of context.
If you have a romantic objective, please respect that my relationship with buttercups13 is primary and not going anywhere.