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49 M Melbourne, Australia

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:34pm
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
When drinking
Atheism, and very serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Dutch (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Tall, articulate, well educated inner city man. I love my area with its live music, green politics, cafes, pubs, the fascinating people who wander Smith Street or hang out in Edinburgh Gardens.

Hard to describe myself but a quick survey of friends says: I'm kind, gentle, insightful, wise, a polymath who is easy to talk to, and have a good (if slightly wicked) sense of humour. I am passionate about social justice, fascinated in how humans work and especially the dance of relationships and how they interact together, love a lot of diversity, and use the word "celebration" a lot!

In a happy and long-term non-monogamous relationship (with nthrnexposure) so not looking for another one of those but not into random hooks up either, feel happiest when getting to know and connect people in a holistic way.

A random poetry quote based on the Daedalus myth:

"Daedalus watched the birds on high,
And wished that he could also fly;
But he did more than wish, bright man,
He studied wings and made a plan."
What I’m doing with my life
Worked mainly in community services including as a relationships counsellor, overseas development worker, disability worker etc

I have a PhD in Literature and am currently employed in University administration.

Have absolutely no interest in sport - I try and fake it in order to fit in with certain crowds but generally fail badly. I do love art, broad range of music, sunsets, music festivals, and a balanced mix of time completely alone and just hanging out with interesting people ...
I’m really good at
Hugs, putting people at ease, bringing out the best in others, back massage, looking at different sides in an argument, rambling conversations in beer gardens on summer afternoons, cooking roast dinners, and a few other talents I may show you if you ask nicely ...
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall, kind hearted, easy smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love many authors especially James Joyce, T.S Eliot, Maragret Attwood, Jeanette Winterson, Paul Theroux, Gabriel García Márquez, Cormac McCarthy, Tolkien, Harper Lee, George Orwell, Jack Kerouac, Hunter S Thompson, Ursula LaGuin, Madeleine L'Engle, Stephen Fry, Philip K Dick, JG Ballard, Salman Rushdie, Annie Proulx, medieval literature and history, poetry (not usually the simple rhyming-type seen above), philosophy, anything about relationships (including The Ethical Slut, Opening Up), travel books (Paul Theroux, Bill Bryson, Bruce Chatwin), it goes on and on ...

Like alternative music - Triple RRR, love Meredith/Golden Plains Music Festivals. Looking at what I've recently listened to: Beth Orton, Bombay Bicycle Club, Ben Folds, Radiohead, Martha Wainwright, Nick Cave, Regina Spektor, Tame Impala, Spiritualised, Grimes, Leonard Cohen, Tame Impala, Chet Faker, Dave Matthews, 10,000 Maniacs, Fleet Foxes, Florence and the Machine, Cat Power, Imelda May, White Stripes, Ryan Adams, Flaming Lips, The Go-Betweens, Cruel Sea, Bon Iver, Interpol, Death Cab for Cutie, Belle and Sebastian, Antony & the Johnsons ...

Don't see many Hoyts type of films or much commercial television, more into Nova and ABC/SBS ... Some favourites: No Country for Old Men, Fargo, Kill Bill, Pulp Fiction, The Big Lebowski, Take This Waltz, Shortbus, Lost in Translation, Pulp Fiction, Darjeeling Express, Moonlight Kingdom, anything Monty Python, The Fifth Element, Donnie Darko, some early Woody Allan, Truly,Madly,Deeply, The Big Chill, A Fish called Wanda, Celeste and Jesse Forever, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Garden State. On television, besides documentaries and news shows, will be easily seduced by a DVD marathon of an HBO show - Breaking Bad, Dexter, Boardwalk Empire, the Wire, Treme, Deadwood
The six things I could never do without
My relationship, my boys, iPad, alone time, music festivals, something to read
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Places I would love to visit, politics, my relationship and other's, history, gender politics, sex and sexuality and random things I have read on wikipedia
On a typical Friday night I am
Either at a pub or club on Smith or Brunswick St, Fitzroy or tucked into bed with a good movie
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex
You should message me if
You have read the profile, we are a good match (above 85%?), you are curious and feel like a chat over a drink some time, you respect (and hopefully understand) my open relationship and realise that those pictures (as I keep being told) do me no justice at all :-)