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Daenerys

28 Portland, OR Woman

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  • Ages 18–100
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My details

Last online
Yesterday – 2:09pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Status
Seeing Someone
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently), Russian (Poorly), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I once would brag and honor myself in this box. I did it over and over again through the years with many different styles.

I'm pretty accustomed to myself now, and I'm not impressed by the things about me people seem to find impressive.

I'm playing Torchlight II a lot lately. Summer makes me keep buying sandwiches, potato salad, and peach or strawberry sweet tea. I wish it would make me go swimming. Who can go for a swim anymore? Everybody's all in the water, obsessing. Well they always have been -- just look at a world map. All those capitals, sitting by the rivers and oceans. What a bunch of jerks.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I don't know, most of us don't, don't pretend you do, your job doesn't count, hanging with friends doesn't count, what are you doing even.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have brown hair, and glasses, which seems to be a popular type for the old, "I know someone who looks just like you."

Never tell people this, even if you hate them: it's playing dirty. If you are a hair-puller or ball-kicker then you go on ahead.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane
A Thousand Clowns
Sherlock
Cocorosie
a mango I stole off a tree once
[game]
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This question is so boring that I have never, ever read an interesting response to it. It turns perfectly intriguing people into dullards. It needs to go. TAKE A NOTE, STAFF!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Mark Ruffalo is a sexy sexy man.

Sexy Link 1: www.youtube.com/watch?v=9z0o_MAU0ao
Sexy Link 2: www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUwAnDj9fIo

He all give me shivers with his "when the friction comes to have its own machine"s.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My favorite book is War and Peace. Yes. It is! Well because it's so fucking good. No REALLY!
...FINE, it's Harry Potter and the Pillow of Down.

~

Not really bi. Heteroflexible. Added it so I can see people who restrict viewers based on orientation (you twitdicks).

~

As someone with firsthand experience of how the legal system loves to screw over good fathers, I hate third-wave feminist extremism -- you are not Malala, you are a whiny middle-class bitch. (That's not sexist: I meant it extra for males.)

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On the pronoun thing: what the fuck am I supposed to do with you people? You are the group I used to identify with. Now you have your own idiotic Internet cult that wastes your energy on semantics. "This girl looks cool," I'll think, and then Mitra comes down and spits in my face as the profile continues, "DO NOT call me by the pronouns he/him/his. I will accept [being fucked in the ass by King Triton]." But where is King Triton, I ask? He is the holy grail of the millennial generation. And where is Sir Galahad? Zhe prefers "Lady".

Members of this cult are extremely weak on logic and tend to swiftly deteriorate into angry yelling, so I apologize for the following, but let's give it a go.

Dear SJW: Debunking Gender & Pronoun Politics

1. Calm down.

2. It's OK. There are many people in the world who will love you for who you are.

3. Gender is not a social construct, but a biological approximation. Gender roles are a social construct. Imagine we're in a lab filled with rats. When a scientist calls a rat "he", they are referring to the rat's biological makeup -- the possession of male organs, a good amount of testosterone, etc. If a female rat acts aggressively and humps females, the scientist is still going to call her "she". It doesn't matter how animals act: male is male biology and female is female biology. The same is true of humans.

4. While there have been anomalies in the world, such as hermaphrodites, they are extremely rare. Exceptions to the norm do not invalidate the norm. For example, if I say to you, "Rats have two eyes," it would be obtuse to go, "Nuh-uh. What about that rat there? It has THREE. Rats can have as many eyes as they want!" Pointing to a person who has extremely feminine features, breasts, and a penis, in order to claim that you, a person whose body is clearly male, are female, is the same. The exception to the rule has nothing to do with you. A two-eyed rat can't believe its way into three-eyed ratdom. It can have three eyes if it gets surgery, but right now, it remains two-eyed (or biologically male).

5. Whether someone has a penis or vagina should have nothing to do with their restrictions in terms of personality or opportunity. You're the ones aiming for pronouns to be connected to self-perception and gender roles. You're actually strengthening gender stereotypes -- you've just broadened them so that a man can more easily embrace the female stereotype, and vice versa. The demand that “he” or “she” should mean something beyond bare biology is sexist. After all, if it isn't biological, what is gender? All in the mind? Then "she" and "he" could not be anything but gender stereotypes, or else they would lose concrete meaning. If you feel male, and male/female are only social constructions, you're necessarily saying that you feel like the male stereotype. You're reinforcing the hell out of the stereotypes by attempting to disconnect "he" and "she" from biology and make them solely mental. (Incidentally, without a load of help from scalpels and drugs, this cannot work. People with vaginas need to see gynecologists. People with penises need to get their prostates checked. You can't just wave a flag of Dr. Who with boobies about and yell, "Fuck you science and doctors! We're redefining biology!") Instead you should focus on moving away from gender stereotypes altogether (not by making a universal pronoun for all -- that's only acknowledging that people are sexist and hiding from it) and allow people to be people. Not when men can wear dresses or knit without censure, but when a dress or knitting are not "feminine", will you have accomplished your goal.

6. I'm sorry if you don't like your body, and you can try to hide or change it if you want. But don't ask people to play your game by calling you a pronoun that doesn't fit your biology, because it won't change your body or their perception. It will only change their words and help you hide from the reality of your body. Purposeful misattribution is like a game to most people. You’ll find that even if you succeed in getting everyone around you to call you “she” when you are male, you can’t change their perception of you. In other words, you’re forcing them to lie to you. And if you get furious or vehemently self-righteous when they don’t use the pronoun you want, you force their hand or threaten to create a rift in a human relationship. When we refer to a drag queen as “she”, we know that truthfully it’s “he”, but we are choosing to play along. There's enough bullshit already.

So can we get back to dancing on empty trains, playing impromptu games, and being courageously ourselves (rather than embracing who a minority tells us to be), now? Cuz I'm losing swathes of you to formulaic mistruth and geek worship.
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I'm gonna use this space to explain my username.

When I first joined OKC, it was back when it was an experiment by the people behind thespark.com. Daenerys was an obscure name, and OKC was a funny, well-designed site populated by oddballs. Now, HBO has made A Song of Ice and Fire into an infamous sex-violence drama, and OKC is owned by match.com.

Dammit.