Or your own.
I am here for the reasons I have stated on my profile. If you have not taken the time to read my profile before you contact me (via im or mail) then chances are you are wasting my time.
Someone recently posted that there should be 'dealbreakers', a category of qualities without which or the presence of which would exclude a person from a relationship with an individual. While OKCupid has not instituted this, yet, here are some of mine.
Honesty is of paramount importance to me. I will always do my best to be honest with you, do me the same courtesy.
I am pagan. If you are not at least willing to let me have my rituals and be respectful of my beliefs, then there is not point in seeking a relationship with me. By the same token, I do my best to be respectful of the beliefs of others, with the exception of evangelical fantatics of all stripes and creeds. I have no use for people who are determined to spread the word (whatever the word may be).
I am poor. If you want a sugar daddy, look elsewhere. And again, by the same token, I am NOT looking for someone to support me. My finances are my problem, and i will do my best to solve them. I will buy dinner for a date sometimes, though I tend to prefer to cook.
I am poly amorous. I have no steady girlfriends, right now. However, I do have a number of people with whom i am friends that I occasionally have sex with. This is unlikely to change, anytime soon. I am safe, and i am careful. And my friendship with these lovers is important to me. If you are the jealous type, then you do not want to be with me. And I am NOT the jealous type, so if you have other lovers as well, that is okay.
Related to the above, I have children; they are and will remain very important to me. Two of them are step kids, and I have and will continue to have a close relationship with their mother.
I am a sexual being. I like sex. I enjoy making my partner... happy. If you are not or do not, then have fun and seek your pleasures elsewhere as you will.
I like to eat and drink. Everything from microwave hot dogs with chili and hawaiian punch (a glorioius christmas feast) to a seven course chef's tastings selection with wine pairings are part of my experience and my future.
I have made mistakes in the past, and will probably continue to do so. If you are not willing to let me make mistakes and try to learn from them, we have no business being together. If you are expecting me to be brutal and unforgiving of your mistakes, then we have no business being together.
I have been married, and some aspects of my marriage and my exwife continue to affect me.
I am still growing, learning, changing. If you want someone who is done with all that, then you do not want to be with me. If you are finished with all of that, then I do not want to be with you.
This is an incomplete list of my dealbreakers. What are yours?