Also: despite my irritation with labels, most people would (fairly) consider me and the way I have relationships to be quite poly. There are several people in my life right now who are not primary/life/whatever partners (they have their own lives and partners) but who are nevertheless very important to me and will continue to remain in my life as friends and lovers. I am open to and available for a serious life partnership with someone if I should meet the right person but only within that context.
That said, I can connect with people on a bunch of different levels and I really enjoy finding out how my relationship with each person will be unique. Meaningful relationships come in all sorts of forms. I'm trying to find them all.
Things I love doing: laughing, dancing, talking, kissing, playing, reading, exploring, musicking, cuddling, learning, playing ultimate frisbee, riding my motorcycle, and doing things that scare me. I'm kind of terrified of heights but I really want to go hang gliding.
I also like to examine the rules we live by and break them if they don't make sense, or just to see what will happen sometimes. But mostly I really thrive on forming and building relationships with other people. Life is enriched through interaction with others; being open and available for real connections is frightening and thrilling. I'm really enjoying being alive lately and a key part of that, I think, is my curiosity about other people.
I want to meet more people with whom there is that spark of excitement and find out what happens when we fan it to a flame, find out how our interaction is unique and amazing.
I love living in San Francisco. It feels more like home than any place I've been before. I don't know if I'll be here the rest of my life, but being here has enabled me to grow in ways I never expected I could.
I used to work at home a lot and would take long breaks in the middle of the day to go for a walk in the park or go to a museum. I don't have that luxury anymore but the trade-off is that I now work downtown (instead of the South Bay). It's interesting to be part of the downtown scene now. I'm grateful to be near the Embarcadero so I can take breaks and walk along the water. I can also bike to work! I finally sold my car recently. After 20 years of owning one it was very difficult to let go but it feels freeing now that I've taken the leap.
Honesty is incredibly important to me. Relationships where I've been able to be completely honest and trust that the same is being done for me have been the most wonderful experiences of my life.
I love love love being outside. I can walk to the beach from my apartment and that makes me really happy. I've spent a lot of time up on Mt Tam, but still not enough.