Count me amongst those not happy with too few choices for sexual preferences. I identify as queer, but bisexual is my best option on OKC.

I can connect with people on a bunch of different levels and I really enjoy finding out how my relationship with each person will be unique.

Things I love doing: laughing, dancing, talking, kissing, playing, reading, exploring, musicking, cuddling, learning, playing ultimate frisbee, riding my motorcycle, and doing things that scare me. I'm kind of terrified of heights but I really want to go hang gliding.

I also like to examine the rules we live by and break them if they don't make sense, or just to see what will happen sometimes. But mostly I really thrive on forming and building relationships with other people. Life is enriched through interaction with others; being open and available for real connections is frightening and thrilling. I'm really enjoying being alive lately and a key part of that, I think, is my curiosity about other people.

I want to meet more people with whom there is that spark of excitement and find out what happens when we fan it to a flame, find out how our interaction is unique and amazing.

I love living in San Francisco. It feels more like home than any place I've been before. I don't know if I'll be here the rest of my life, but being here has enabled me to grow in ways I never expected I could.

Honesty is incredibly important to me. Relationships where I've been able to be completely honest and trust that the same is being done for me have been the most wonderful experiences of my life.

Trying to unashamedly be myself. This has been a very long process for me!

Learning to meditate, trying to get up and do it every day, and trying not to judge myself when I don't.

Striving to be a better friend/lover/companion to those around me.

(Also boldly splitting infinitives.)

Making a pint of ice cream vanish into thin air.

Maybe my hair or my eyes? People I meet from OKC keep telling me that I really look like my photos, so I guess that's what they're noticing.

Trying to choose favorites of anything stresses me out, so I don't do it. But I can go on for a while about things I like...

Books: I'm always in the middle of a couple of books and my tastes are pretty varied. Right now I'm in a spree of reading all of Iain Banks's works since knowledge of their existence has eluded me until recently. A greatly, in my opinion, under-appreciated favorite is Oakley Hall's Warlock. Go read it and talk to me about it! Also a friend recently introduced me to Robert Anton Wilson. If you like his work, we need to meet! At the moment PKD is cracking my head open with Valis. In high school I was a total Tolkein geek, it makes me happy to see him getting popular again. Other authors that have meant a lot to me at various points in my life: Dostoevsky, Bowles, Murakami, Márquez, Bill Watterson, LeGuin, ..

Music: All over the place. I tend to go through phases of voraciously looking for new music and nesting with what I know. I used to spend a lot of time in avant garde clubs in NYC listening to really interesting music and trying to define music as broadly as possible. I'm a lot more likely to listen to things I can dance to now, but my collection is still pretty broad.

Food: I'm a vegetarian (but don't mind eating with omnivores). I think eating can a wonderful experience that I too often give short shrift by doing something else at the same time. Sharing a meal with someone seems like such a fundamental way of connecting and forming bonds and community, so I love to go out to eat and have food adventures with people. I don't make as much time to cook as I used to, but that too I find to be a really wonderful way to spend time together. I recently gave up coffee. I'm still not sure how I feel about it.

As far as what food...I have an inherent distrust of beets and I'm apparently allergic to quinoa (sad sad sad). I love so many kinds of food it doesn't seem fair to single any out. I was raised on a lot of Italian food and that seems to have formed a habit. Anything made with fresh yummy non-beet veggies will probably get my vote, though. I miss sushi.

- My loved ones
- Adventure
- Dancing
- Music
- Books
- Hot showers

I think a lot about social constructs (like monogamy, gender, consumer culture), how they influence my life and how I can free myself from them. Similarly I often question why we do things the way we do and what better ways there might be.

I spend a lot of time trying to be aware of the assumptions I make about others and how that influences my interactions with them. And, of course, how to stop making those assumptions!

Sometimes I'm trying to figure out how to think less and just enjoy the moment I'm in.

Dark matter. The kind out in space. That is some mind blowing stuff.

Out on a date, at a party, dancing, out with friends, or happily spending some time home alone.

I always get excited when I buy new soap.

Also when we were young (and on the east coast, before we'd ever heard of the park), my sister pronounced Yosemite Sam "Yoze-mite" Sam. Now every time I see the word written out, I pronounce it like that. When I accidentally say it out loud I try to play it off like I'm being funny but really that pronunciation seems to be completely hard-wired into my brain.

-You're ok with or curious about open or poly relationships
-You get charged up about trying new things
-You like kissing
-You like chocolate
-You've ever been to the Audium and loved it.
-You want to meet downtown for lunch or a coffee (tea!) date sometime
-I'm a queer, sex-positive, GGG, feminist. Please be these things yourself (ok, queer-friendly is good enough).