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Albuquerque, New Mexico
Back in the spring of 2003, my first friend in Albuquerque
introduced me to an activity I'd never heard of: international folk
dancing. I tried it out and have been hooked ever since. The
variety is astonishing. There are actually a handful of social
dance groups in town that do international folk dances, and between
them you can learn dances from nearly every country and ethnic
group on Earth, from Azerbaijan and Bedouin to Pakistani and West
African to various styles of Gypsy. Many of these dances come from
towns and villages all round the world and have been done for
generations. Others are new creations by choreographers of various
ethnicities. Many are done in circles or short lines, either
holding hands or individually; others are done with partners, and
some are mixers. They also usually throw in at least one each of
swing, waltz, contra, and Latin dance (such as rueda or meringue)
each evening. The dances range from slow and simple to fast and
furious. The initial learning curve can be a little steep, but all
these groups provide instruction every night, so if you go often,
you catch on quickly. No membership or previous experience is
required. One of the best parts is that it's so inexpensive! They
usually ask for between $1 and $5 per night and
meet every week. You can't beat a deal like that.
Here are some of the groups I've been to, with links to web pages
when I have them:
AIFDF, or Albuquerque International Folk Dance Foundation. This
is the one I attend most often, and is probably the largest of the
international folk dance groups in terms of attendance. AIFDF
certainly has the widest variety of dances of any group I've been
to, and it also has the largest age range of attendees (i.e.
pre-teens to 70s), with several parents bringing their kids. (They
even have a kids dance lesson once a month). The group has existed
for some 30 years or so, and if you put together the collective
knowledge of everyone who's been dancing there for years, they
probably have well over 1000 dances that can be done on the spot.
They have far more dance tunes than that in their recording
database. All the dances are done to recorded music, except on
occasion when a traveling group of musicians comes through and
treats us to live music from Romania or wherever the visitors
happen to be from. AIFDF meets every Saturday night, with teaching
starting promptly at 7:15 p.m. (so be a few minutes early) and
request & program dancing from 8:15 until about 10:30 or so.
They meet at the Lloyd Shaw Dance Center, 2 blocks south of Central
and 2 blocks east of San Mateo on a little spur of Coal Rd (not the
main one-way street). There's a map at their web site. They ask for
$2 each Saturday from everyone who can afford it. This group is
actively looking for new people, and is starting up a
beginner's class this Saturday, January 23. You
get nine weeks of lessons for $25, which is
ridiculously cheap. For more about that, go to their web site,
or read Stacy's event post here
on Duke City Fix.
Here's a picture of some of us at AIFDF doing a line dance, with
Gary Diggs, our lead teacher, in front. I'm the guy in the red
shirt and glasses (though I no longer need those due to having
Lasik a few days ago):
Several smaller groups have information listed at the above group's
web site, here. These include an international folk dance
group that meets in the east mountains at the Cedar Crest Fitness
Center on Sundays from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. ($1 per night; mostly
attended by mid-high and high school students and their families);
another that meets at the social hall of First Unitarian Church on
Carlisle & Comanche, currently meeting on Friday nights at 8:00
(also $1 per night, with lots of Balkan and classic Israeli dances;
this is the longest running folk dance group in Albuquerque, having
been around more than 50 years); and two groups of more focused
ethnic dances that meet at Lloyd Shaw on alternating Wednesdays at
7:30 p.m.: Scandinavian and Hungarian, with a focus on couples
dances. The lead teacher of AIFDF, Gary Diggs, also teaches
Argentine tango on Monday nights at Lloyd Shaw. I've attended all
of these groups at least once. When I first started, I attended
both AIFDF and the group at First Unitarian every week, so I got up
to speed fairly quickly. I enjoy it all, I just don't have time to
do everything. (If I didn't have to work, I'd be dancing all the
time.) The attendees of all these groups and others in the region
get together and hold a yearly dance camp in August. To raise money
for it, AIFDF holds a costume theme dance party each spring called
the Scholarship Ball. We really have a lot of fun together as a
community.
There is a more focused folk dance group called the New Mexico Folk Music
and Dance Society, or FolkMADS, which specializes in
contra dances and English country dances with
live music. Having a live band is a real treat,
and there are a few different bands that play for this group.
Contras are partner dances that have many movements in common with
square dancing, but the sets of 4 (or sometimes 6) are arranged in
long lines, or reels, and partners progress up and down the line,
so you get to dance with just about everyone in the room. They walk
through every dance before doing it, and there is a caller to shout
out what comes next. You don't have to have a partner with you; you
can dance with whoever is there, and this group is very well
attended. (I would go more often, but my calendar just won't hold
everything I want to do!) They typically dance in Albuquerque on
the first and third Saturdays and the second Sunday of each month
at 7:00 p.m. at the Heights Community Center, with the Saturday
nights starting with half an hour of basic instruction. This group
has a membership option and is just a wee bit more expensive: $8
per night, or $7 for members. I'm not a member of the group, but
I've been to a few of their dances and it's great fun.
And this is just international folk dance. There are many, many
other dance venues and styles in Duke City. If you want to dance,
there are more opportunities than you can shake a stick at. I
encourage anyone who is interested to check out the beginner's
class at AIFDF in the coming weeks. This activity exposes you to
new cultures as well as getting your heart pumping. Visit the
entire world without leaving town!
Just finished reading a delightful book: "Gods Behaving Badly" by Marie Phillips, from London. The Olympian gods live in a dilapidated house in modern London, as they themselves diminish due to everyone's lack of belief in them. The hijinks are hilarious: Artemis is a professional dog walker; she finds a tree that is actually a person who had refused a sexual advance from Apollo. Aphrodite is a phone sex operator; plays a prank on Apollo (a TV psychic with an enormous ego) by having her son, Eros (Cupid), shoot him with one of his love darts, only Eros has become a Christian and keeps asking himself, "What would Jesus do?" It's pure fun. Two mortals are introduced into the story (and I identify with the guy, Neil, very well), and end up sort of reenacting the story of Orpheus and Eurydice, only with a happy ending. The author states the ludicrous with a deadpan style that made me laugh aloud many times.