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40 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 13
White, Other
6′ 3″ (1.90m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
April 2015

**Seeking a sweet n casual romance with a flirtatious fox. **

I am a rare and unique creature seeking a match for delicious dates, magical nights and transcendent Sunrises.

6'4, 210# 420+ heart conscious, hard body, fresh and freaky, Shaman, Father, Artist, Entrepreneur and Explorer.

Cats over dogs,
)(ome in SF.

Seeking a hot, fit, freaky, high integrity, 420+, open minded, kind, enlightened, hot, stylish, versatile, modern, capable, hilarious and self aware woman for the best of times.

Maturity a must, age unimportant.
I am attracted to dusky eyes, dark hair and a firm body.

I'm not into bars, bros, team sports, or drinking.
Read on if this resonates...

**I am a cat person.**

I am honest, hard working, loyal and kind.
I was a husky (chunky/chubby), shy, picked on kid, it sucked, now I'm not.
I am handy, can build stuff, break stuff,
and then clean it all up.

Happy and hunky,
I am grounded, centered, self aware,
and take care of myself, physically and spiritually.
I love life and am a realist who sees
life as 3/4 full.

Hilarity is with me daily, (on a deeper level, I am hilarious)
Humor is my shield and sword,
If shields and swords were used for
making laughter and jokes.
Quirky, topical and irreverent,
I weedle, not stab, embrace not exclude.

On the serious side, I read the WSJ* everyday.
Front page, plus op-eds. Have for 15 years.

Please have an awareness of life outside your local bubble.

I love to camp, in the woods or in the desert. I enjoy music festivals, Ren Fair, solstice parties, playful gatherings and celebrations.

If this helps you out... I'm a Scorpio, year of the Tiger, and an ENTJ/INTJ, water sign, Libertarian, Capitalist, Artist, Entrepreneur, Shaman, Leader and Lover.

I am youthful, playful and peasent. I am also wise and evolved beyond my years and behave like an older man.
I enjoy late nights, rolling into sunrise, or early mornings stretching out till dusk.

* Wall Street Journal (it is a newspaper)

**If you are "damaged" in a deep way and are not well on the road to healing and evolving... please go do that before we connect. You will feel good and so will I. **
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a successful small business owner in SF.
I started a Frozen Yogurt company 2 1/2 years ago, where I create and hand craft our unique flavors. Its been quite a success and I opened a second shop 8 months ago.

I am a great and loving father to 3 kids, which is where I spend much of my time when not working.

My physical fitness matters to me. It is a priority. I spend 60 to 90 minutes a day physically active... Bikrahm, heavy bag, lots of jump rope, hills, kettle bells, medicine balls, dance, and Crossfit like workouts.

I am an Artist at Heart.
A Creative type. Arty. Eclectic. I see the world from unique angles. However I am also logical, thoughtful and honest with my emotions, while feeling them truly.

*SOME BALANCE: All the awesome stuff about me is fun to write... However, I want to be clear...I am not perfect. I have cavities. I make mistakes. I just try not to make the same one twice. I get sick. I get hurt. I have flaws, as we all are imperfect. It is a journey, not a destination, so I try to take the long view and improve a little bit every day.*

That being said, I am Mostly Awesome.

Life also has a way of surprising you with what you need, when you need it... regardless of when you think you should get it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Witty banter, British style.
Creating laughter.
Being a Father.
Treating my own injuries.
Hosting parties.
Making Frozen Yogurt.
Taking soulful Portraits.
Being prepared. Being a friend. Being a Mensch.
Being a Lover.
Pulling your hair.
You know what I mean.

Making you feel safe.

Being a Man*

*With a softer self aware side that loves kittens, stickers, bubbles, glitter and connection.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is my kind, smiley blue green eyes.
I have been told many times that I "glow like a light", "fill up a room with my energy" and "radiate".

My outfit...I tend to be dressed up, with style and panache.

I also smell good.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Free to Choose by Milton Friedman, The Artists Way by Julia Cameron, Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, Zingerman's Guide to Giving Great Service by Ari Weinzweig, Shakespeare

Movies: Anything with Will Ferrel, Loopers, Movies set in the future/on a ship/at war
Many of the animated films. Comedies.

Music: Eclectic with a focus on EDM. Also enjoy Country, Show tunes, and A Capella. (I sing and dance...) Dancehall, Dub, Reggaeton, Hip Hop, Swing, funky breaks and more.

Food: Dairy. Protein. These are two of my favorite things. I like the lighter, veggie heavy cooking of Thailand and Vietnam. Pho has been a recent discovery and I love it. Greek yogurt. Oatmeal. Eggs.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
new ideas.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
having Shabbot dinner.

Then going out to dance with friends,
camping in the woods,
traveling the world,
shooting a party, attending a party, throwing a party.

Could be Im tuckered out from the week and going to bed at 9pm.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is I am 20 pounds lighter now then when I was in 7th grade.
Yes, I could do the truffle shuffle** back then, now I can do the Tough Mudder.

**Truffle Shuffle: From Goonies. The saddest dance ever.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you like the cut of my jib.

You think we share Core Values.

You can dance unselfconsciously,
take care of yourself,
be taken care of,
love yourself,
love others,
are fit, athletic, in your body,
grounded, positive,
fun and freaky.

You are sexually mature and happy with your body, using it as God intended for love and light. Your sexual being matters to you and you spend time educating yourself about its uses and functions. You embrace your inner self. Plus you can laugh about it while being serious.
You want a romantic connection mixed with an activity partner, to explore life and enjoy each other. This appeals to you great... lets get together.

Confidence is hot.

I am reliable and a man of my word. I expect open and honest interactions... Opposite of shady. So if you get off on drama, crazy antics, and intrigue... keep on clicking.

I tend to get along with artists, makers, crafters, athletes, dancers, yoga teachers, body workers, Burners, explorers, New Yorkers, science geeks, type A women, womyn who run with wolves, performers, gypsies, actors, multi-faceted misfits and really happy people.

A busy full life leaves little room for back and forth email over weeks. If I contact you its because I want to meet in the real world and see if we have a chemical connection too... see where it goes. If it only is a shared tea, at least we had a moment, hopefully a laugh.

Truth in advertising. Be you and love yourself.

I am kind, smell good and have a big heart. I treat others with dignity, respect and honesty. If this resonates, with you,
message me.

People have tastes.
Embrace them.
I am attracted to dusky eyes and dark hair.

May your search be fruitful,

**I am a cat person.