Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So I’d expected to get all serious as I got older, elegant dinner
parties and profound political conversations. No. I read about
science and world events and I think deep thoughts, but around
other people, really, it’s the more ridiculous the better. I spend
a lot of time with friends, and sure we do deep stuff like the
National Gallery and talk about our feelings and all that, but the
best times are the over-the-top dramatic karaoke songs, and the
horrible board games, and the water gun and nerf gun fights, and
the really, really bad movies. Anything where you hurt the next day
from laughing so hard. One time, we were playing Game of Things at
Hintonburg Public House and it devolved so severely that the
middle-aged ladies at the next table actually ran away to another
table at the back.
A coworker told me I was both brilliant and ruthless.
Things I like:
- Taking gorgeous photos of nature and architecture.
- Art museums.
- Anything new. I will try almost anything at least once just for
the heck of it. And I will probably throw myself into it headfirst,
because it’s go big or go home.
- Any excuse for costumes. Opera concert calls for gown, long white
gloves and lots of giant jewelry. Trailer Park Bingo calls for
various inappropriate outfits. Christmas party calls for lovingly
hand-decorated terrible sweater.
- Shiny things.
- Value Village.
- Color. My living room walls are near-fluorescent green.
- Reading. Must always have something to read on me.
- Putting Songza to Today’s Urban Latin Hits or something and
having my own one-person dance party in my living room.
- Putting a couple of hours straight on piano practice on a rainy
day (Bach's Toccata and Fugue in D minor on organ!).
- Making order out of chaos. Making obsessively detailed
alphabetized and categorized lists and spreadsheets of all things.
Or alternately, injecting chaos into the situation to see what
Hah, one of these questions asks if personal growth is important to
you, and I said critically important, then started to worry you’d
think I’d be yelling at you to get your act together and make
something of yourself, you slacker. Ok, no, what I mean by personal
growth is extreme enthusiasm for doing, trying and learning
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've travelled a lot (lived overseas when I was little, 6 months
backpacking in south-east Asia), but I don't travel as much now - I
love new places, but I find being a tourist gets old fast. My
favorite trip is lots of time to drool over art museums and
architecture, also local culture and nature. Up next: Japan and
South Korea in a year or so, I think. Also Central America or
Caribbean this winter, someplace with great snorkeling.
Fitness-wise, full disclosure, I'm kind of a slacker. Always trying
to do better, and I do love dance and outdoors stuff, but, well...
It's possible having someone who's a good influence in my life
would help, but I can't make any guarantees.
My job is pretty good - too much to do, unfortunately, but most of
it feels useful and interesting. And the people I work with are
In the summer, I volunteer with a nature group and, in the winter,
I sometimes volunteer with a musical theater group. Thinking of
getting back into political volunteering.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a pretty good singer and dancer, pretty decent at writing,
drawing and taking photos.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Singing or whistling to myself in the kitchen at work as people
walk in. Practicing the Charleston to the Maple Leaf Rag all by
myself at the bus stop as someone walks up. Um, hi. Stuff like
that. And apparently I have a contagious laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: SF+F, especially stuff that's really hard-edged and
clear-eyed about what people can do to each other, without being
relentlessly bleak – like John Barnes' Occitan books, Charles
Stross' Glasshouse, Cory Doctorow's For the Win. Also comedies like
Terry Pratchett. Classics – slowly slogging through Middlemarch,
very good but very dense going. Lots of non-fiction – economics,
psychology, history, art, science, all over the map. Biographies of
neat people – reading Buzz Aldrin now. Cheap books at Value Village
are very dangerous. I love NewScientist magazine.
Movies and TV: Love BBC miniseries based on classic novels – just
finished The Way We Live Now. Nerd stuff like Big Bang Theory and
Heroes. British comedy like Jeeves and Wooster. Musical comedies
like the South Park musical, Little Shop of Horrors, Chicago. Sharp
satire, oldies, historicals, foreign stuff. Just got Netflix!
Orange is the New Black was great, also The 100, House of Lies and
the first three seasons of Being Human. Oh, and 30 Rock - I do tend
to quote Liz Lemon.
Music: Lots – classical, folk, old jazz, showtunes, kickass rock.
Hip-hop, reggaeton and other street for dancing to. Pretty well
anything with some life. Trying to learn the lyrics of Mari-Mac for
karaoke, wish me luck.
Food: Melted cheese. Pretty well anything vegetarian, except tofu
and fake meat (yuck). I cook a lot, try to eat in season because
it's fun trying weird ways with weird vegetables. 30 spices in my
spice rack. I don't have anything against non-vegetarians. Eating
ex-animate stuff, muscles and tendons and all, just creeps me right
out - it's like zombie food :) I don't drink but I don't have a
problem with others drinking. I just hate the taste and I'm way too
stubborn to force myself to get used to it just because it's
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
plants, sunshine, fun people, music, new experiences, color
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I once tried to design a religion that could preserve modern values
if modern civilization ever fell apart. How people think, history,
societies, how it all fits together. Telling myself stories.
Schemes. Designing architecture and costumes that will never see
the light of day outside my head (until the day of personal 3D
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating the best pizza in town from Bread & Sons and watching a
good movie. Board games, karaoke, Funhaven, or Shameless at Babylon
with friends. I was going quad skating regularly until I messed up
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I drool when I sleep. Sometimes I fall asleep on the bus. And
You should message me if
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I don’t want to have a giant checklist of who I’m looking for. I’m
coming to realize that there’s just a few big things that are
really important, and the rest kind of works itself out. So here’s
the mini-list: kind, ethical, smart, interested in all kinds of
things and lots of enthusiasm for new things, unconventional, goofy
sense of humor, reasonably sane, fairly positive. And someone who
wants kids, that’s pretty well a must-have. Drat, that’s not so
mini, is it? Awkward.
Fair warning, I’m not a massive fan of dogs. I don’t despise them,
I just think they’re so very, very high-maintenance. Though I've
become more tolerant of them recently from being around some
extreme dog people.
Turn-offs: People who take themselves waaaay too seriously.
I am a huge sucker for science nerds who are also well-rounded
enough to be into arty things. And also for a great smile :)
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