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35 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 31–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 10:57am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body type
Not at all
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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So I’d expected to get all serious as I got older, elegant dinner parties and profound political conversations. No. I read about science and world events and I think deep thoughts, but around other people, really, it’s the more ridiculous the better. I spend a lot of time with friends, and sure we do deep stuff like the National Gallery and talk about our feelings and all that, but the best times are the over-the-top dramatic karaoke songs, and the horrible board games, and the water gun and nerf gun fights, and the really, really bad movies. Anything where you hurt the next day from laughing so hard. One time, we were playing Game of Things at Hintonburg Public House and it devolved so severely that the middle-aged ladies at the next table actually ran away to another table at the back.

A coworker told me I was both brilliant and ruthless.

Things I like:
- Taking gorgeous photos of nature and architecture.
- Art museums.
- Anything new. I will try almost anything at least once just for the heck of it. And I will probably throw myself into it headfirst, because it’s go big or go home.
- Any excuse for costumes. Opera concert calls for gown, long white gloves and lots of giant jewelry. Trailer Park Bingo calls for various inappropriate outfits. Christmas party calls for lovingly hand-decorated terrible sweater.
- Shiny things.
- Value Village.
- Color. My living room walls are near-fluorescent green.
- Reading. Must always have something to read on me.
- Putting Songza to Today’s Urban Latin Hits or something and having my own one-person dance party in my living room.
- Putting a couple of hours straight on piano practice on a rainy day (Bach's Toccata and Fugue in D minor on organ!).
- Making order out of chaos. Making obsessively detailed alphabetized and categorized lists and spreadsheets of all things. Or alternately, injecting chaos into the situation to see what explodes...

Hah, one of these questions asks if personal growth is important to you, and I said critically important, then started to worry you’d think I’d be yelling at you to get your act together and make something of yourself, you slacker. Ok, no, what I mean by personal growth is extreme enthusiasm for doing, trying and learning everything.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've travelled a lot (lived overseas when I was little, 6 months backpacking in south-east Asia), but I don't travel as much now - I love new places, but I find being a tourist gets old fast. My favorite trip is lots of time to drool over art museums and architecture, also local culture and nature. Up next: Japan and South Korea in a year or so, I think. Also Central America or Caribbean this winter, someplace with great snorkeling.

Fitness-wise, full disclosure, I'm kind of a slacker. Always trying to do better, and I do love dance and outdoors stuff, but, well... It's possible having someone who's a good influence in my life would help, but I can't make any guarantees.

My job is pretty good - too much to do, unfortunately, but most of it feels useful and interesting. And the people I work with are pretty great.

In the summer, I volunteer with a nature group and, in the winter, I sometimes volunteer with a musical theater group. Thinking of getting back into political volunteering.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a pretty good singer and dancer, pretty decent at writing, drawing and taking photos.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Singing or whistling to myself in the kitchen at work as people walk in. Practicing the Charleston to the Maple Leaf Rag all by myself at the bus stop as someone walks up. Um, hi. Stuff like that. And apparently I have a contagious laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: SF+F, especially stuff that's really hard-edged and clear-eyed about what people can do to each other, without being relentlessly bleak – like John Barnes' Occitan books, Charles Stross' Glasshouse, Cory Doctorow's For the Win. Also comedies like Terry Pratchett. Classics – slowly slogging through Middlemarch, very good but very dense going. Lots of non-fiction – economics, psychology, history, art, science, all over the map. Biographies of neat people – reading Buzz Aldrin now. Cheap books at Value Village are very dangerous. I love NewScientist magazine.

Movies and TV: Love BBC miniseries based on classic novels – just finished The Way We Live Now. Nerd stuff like Big Bang Theory and Heroes. British comedy like Jeeves and Wooster. Musical comedies like the South Park musical, Little Shop of Horrors, Chicago. Sharp satire, oldies, historicals, foreign stuff. Just got Netflix! Orange is the New Black was great, also The 100, House of Lies and the first three seasons of Being Human. Oh, and 30 Rock - I do tend to quote Liz Lemon.

Music: Lots – classical, folk, old jazz, showtunes, kickass rock. Hip-hop, reggaeton and other street for dancing to. Pretty well anything with some life. Trying to learn the lyrics of Mari-Mac for karaoke, wish me luck.

Food: Melted cheese. Pretty well anything vegetarian, except tofu and fake meat (yuck). I cook a lot, try to eat in season because it's fun trying weird ways with weird vegetables. 30 spices in my spice rack. I don't have anything against non-vegetarians. Eating ex-animate stuff, muscles and tendons and all, just creeps me right out - it's like zombie food :) I don't drink but I don't have a problem with others drinking. I just hate the taste and I'm way too stubborn to force myself to get used to it just because it's expected.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
plants, sunshine, fun people, music, new experiences, color
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I once tried to design a religion that could preserve modern values if modern civilization ever fell apart. How people think, history, societies, how it all fits together. Telling myself stories. Schemes. Designing architecture and costumes that will never see the light of day outside my head (until the day of personal 3D fabricators, trala!).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating the best pizza in town from Bread & Sons and watching a good movie. Board games, karaoke, Funhaven, or Shameless at Babylon with friends. I was going quad skating regularly until I messed up my ankles.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I drool when I sleep. Sometimes I fall asleep on the bus. And drool.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I don’t want to have a giant checklist of who I’m looking for. I’m coming to realize that there’s just a few big things that are really important, and the rest kind of works itself out. So here’s the mini-list: kind, ethical, smart, interested in all kinds of things and lots of enthusiasm for new things, unconventional, goofy sense of humor, reasonably sane, fairly positive. And someone who wants kids, that’s pretty well a must-have. Drat, that’s not so mini, is it? Awkward.

Fair warning, I’m not a massive fan of dogs. I don’t despise them, I just think they’re so very, very high-maintenance. Though I've become more tolerant of them recently from being around some extreme dog people.

Turn-offs: People who take themselves waaaay too seriously.

I am a huge sucker for science nerds who are also well-rounded enough to be into arty things. And also for a great smile :)