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35 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 32–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Today – 6:29am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Not at all
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Update: My life is complicated right now, so dating would be too. But not necessarily impossible :)

So I’d expected to get all serious as I got older, elegant dinner parties and profound political conversations. No. I read about science and world events and I think deep thoughts, but around other people, really, it’s the more ridiculous the better. I spend a lot of time with friends, and sure we do deep stuff like the National Gallery and talk about our feelings and all that, but the best times are the over-the-top dramatic karaoke songs, and the horrible board games, and the water gun and nerf gun fights, and the really, really bad movies. Anything where you hurt the next day from laughing so hard. One time, we were playing Game of Things at Hintonburg Public House and it devolved so severely that the middle-aged ladies at the next table actually ran away to another table at the back.

A coworker told me I was both brilliant and ruthless. I am totally getting a t-shirt made with that.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've travelled a lot (lived overseas when I was little, 6 months backpacking in south-east Asia). My favorite trip is lots of time to drool over art museums and architecture, also local culture and nature. Up next: Belize or similar this winter, someplace with great snorkeling.

Fitness-wise, I have been something of a slacker much of my life but I am making it a summer project to focus on – lots of long walks in nature, yoga, zumba.

My job is pretty good – too much to do, unfortunately, but most of it feels useful and interesting. And the people I work with are pretty great.

In summer, I volunteer with a nature group and, in winter, I sometimes volunteer with a musical theater group. Used to volunteer at music festivals. Thinking of getting back into political volunteering, or there's a group that tutors new immigrant kids that sounds nifty.

I try to spend loads of time outside in summer. In winter, I'm slowly working on some piano pieces (Bach's Toccata and Fugue on organ setting is epic, and I try not to use that word lightly.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a pretty good singer and dancer, pretty decent at writing, drawing and taking photos. I'm very good at organizing things and making order out of chaos. Though it's sometimes also fun to inject chaos into the situation to see what explodes...
The first things people usually notice about me
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Singing or whistling to myself in the kitchen at work as people walk in. Practicing the Charleston to the Maple Leaf Rag all by myself at the bus stop as someone walks up. Um, hi. Stuff like that. And apparently I have a contagious laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Mostly reading non-fiction these days – economics, psychology, history, art, science, all over the map. Biographies of neat people – Chris Hadfield was great. I love NewScientist magazine. Before that, the fiction I read was SF+F, especially tough but not utterly bleak stuff like John Barnes' Occitan books, Charles Stross' Glasshouse, Cory Doctorow's For the Win. Also comedies like Terry Pratchett. Classics – slowly got through Middlemarch, very good but very dense going.

Movies and TV: I watch a lot of Netflix with half an eye while doing something else. Some semi-recent faves – Grand Hotel, Parks & Rec, Orange is the New Black, Brooklyn 9-9, Don't Trust the Bitch in Apartment 23, The 100, 30 Rock, Orphan Black, Continuum, Big Bang Theory, Sherlock, House of Lies, Leverage, White Collar. Sharp satire, oldies, historicals, foreign stuff, SF+F. I've been having fun discovering Bollywood movies on Netflix :)

Music: Classical, folk, old jazz, showtunes, kickass rock. Hip-hop, reggaeton and other street for dancing to. Pretty well anything with some life. Trying to learn the lyrics of Mari-Mac for karaoke, wish me luck.

Food: Melted cheese. Pretty well anything vegetarian, except tofu and fake meat (yuck). I cook a lot, try to eat in season because it's fun trying weird ways with weird vegetables. 30 spices in my spice rack. I don't have anything against non-vegetarians. Eating ex-animate stuff, muscles and tendons and all, just creeps me right out - it's like zombie food :) I don't drink but I don't have a problem with others drinking. I just hate the taste and I'm way too stubborn to force myself to get used to it just because it's expected.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
laughter, dancing, friends, sunshine, plants, color
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Planning events with friends. Schemes. Telling myself stories. Designing architecture and costumes that will never see the light of day outside my head. How people think, history, societies, how it all fits together. I once tried to design a religion that could preserve modern values if modern civilization ever fell apart.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Quiet night in with take-out and a good movie. Or board games, karaoke, Funhaven, or dancing at Babylon with friends. I was going quad skating regularly until I messed up my ankles, hoping I can get back to it this summer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I drool when I sleep. Sometimes I fall asleep on the bus. And drool.
You should message me if
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I don’t want to have a giant checklist of who I’m looking for. I’m coming to realize that there’s just a few big things that are really important, and the rest kind of works itself out. So here’s the mini-list: kind, affectionate, ethical, intellectually curious, lots of enthusiasm for new things, unconventional, goofy sense of humor, reasonably sane, fairly positive. Drat, that’s not so mini, is it? Awkward.

I am a huge sucker for science nerds who are also well-rounded enough to be into arty things. And also for a great smile :)