Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Disclaimer: I've been poly for about a year - currently looking for
people who are comfortable with ethical non-monogamy for now,
though I wouldn't rule out monogamy with the right person :) I'm
ideally looking for deeper longer term connections, but open to
flings too, as long as there's consent and mutual connection. See
where things go, innit.
- The fractal geometry of the Romanesco Caulliflower
- Masqued balls
- Hanging out with my 11 housemates
- Reading "Sex at Dawn" on buses, and gauging whether people think
I'm reading a book about polyamory or a Mills and Boon porno
- Uninhibited dancing to gypsy music and electro swing
- Life drawing
- Oliver Sacks (RIP) for looking like a cross between Freud and
Father Christmas, and being one of the best human beings to not
mistake his wife for a hat.
- Occasional bookish reclusivity
- My Freud finger puppet, and what he would have thought of the
symbolism of putting a finger...
I want to adopt Leonard Cohen so he can give me words of
meditative, and grumpy, wisdom.
Nearly got in trouble with the council for playing Kate Bush too
loudly at my interpretive dance party. How many ASBOs has Kate Bush
I sometimes infiltrate religious groups to see what they're up to,
in an attempt to become Louis Theroux.
What I’m doing with my life
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Food waste campaigner, wonky veg liberator, soup kitchen
pretend-chef. I occasionally cause activist mischief.
Improv comedy has filled my life of late, and I make/do music and
poetry and storytelling..
Enjoys smashing the kyriarchy, patriarchy, capitalist tyranny, etc.
(whilst being acutely aware that I am a middle class straight
privileged white male, whoops)
I’m really good at
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The first things people usually notice about me
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Some people seem to think I come across like a cross between Noel
Fielding or Russel Brand. Visually I veer between Jarvis Cocker,
Devendra Banhart and Shaggy from Scooby Doo.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: 'The Unbearable Lightness of Being' by Milan Kundera
'The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat' by Oliver Sacks
'The Master and Margarita' by Michel Bulgakov
Borges, Dostoyevsky, Joyce, Nietzsche
Also: Roald Dahl, The Harbs, and the Moomins. The Drowned
Music: Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Can, Suede, Catatonia, Bowie
Films: Persepolis, Amelie, Frida, Lost in Translation, Moonrise
Kingdom, Withnail and I, Mirrormask, Pedro Amaldovar, Woody Allen,
David Lynch, Wes Anderson, Hitchcock
You should message me if
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You're interested in the world, weird, creative, and into the
arts/what makes people tick. Warm, witty and experimental. I like
people with a strange perspective on the world, make nests out of
their rooms, are driven, impulsive and fiery, and come up with
something funnily unexpected.
Or, you know, you could be like a real person who's quite nice,
rather than my projected fantasy image. That'd be grand too.
For past 8 months I've been ethically
non-monogamous/polyamorous/whatever you'd like to call it. I'm
looking for anything on the spectrum from casual to friends with
sexiness to deeper relationships, just not necessarily exclusive.
Consent, trust, sharing - all very important.
(If you're a polyamory ninja with thousands of mind-expanding
sexual politics articles to expand my mind, please send them my
way. Also, if you'd like to see the Duke of Burgundy with me (not
50 Shades of Vom), let's go!)
I'd also consider a monogamous relationship if a great person who
wants that comes along, and was until recently in a monogamous
relationship for 3 years.
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