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DandyAndFine

26 Hackney, UK Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–32
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:35am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English, French (Okay), Hindi (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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UPDATE: I've been poly for about the past 8 months - currently looking for people who are comfortable with ethical non-monogamy for now, though I wouldn't rule out monogamy with the right person :)

I'm a writer/campaigner, I like lucid dreaming, inventing words, Milan Kundera, Oliver Sacks, beautiful paintings, philosophy, masked balls and the fractal geometry of the Romanesco Caulliflower. Most of my time is spent covered in facepaint/glitter, lounging in parks, curled up with books, at folk/jazz/other gigs, dancing around the kitchen and/or engaging in Kate Bush mime-dance competitions, exploring London ducks and dives, and hanging out with my 11 housemates and in pubs.

I like dark humour, surrealism, and affection for human foibles. I want to adopt Leonard Cohen so he can give me words of meditative wisdom.

I just made a lifesize llama out of cardboard. I sometimes inflitrate religious groups to see what they're up to, in an attempt to become Louis Theroux.
What I’m doing with my life
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I coordinate a national food waste movement which means I'm often picking wonky veg on farms, help run a soup kitchen type thing at a homeless hostel in South East London, and I'm writing a book with vaguely radical environmental leanings.

I occasionally cause activist mischief, and there's a video of me dancing to YMCA in front of tank somewhere.

I also perform occasional stand up comedy, write/play music and write bits of poetry/fiction.

(I like lefty politics, but won't go on about it if politics isn't your thing)
I’m really good at
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Flamboyant hand movements
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been described variously as like Noel Fielding, Eddie Izzard and Richard E. Grant (though I'm a bit more chilled than that implies). Visually I veer between Jarvis Cocker, Devendra Banhart and Shaggy from Scooby Doo. I have been complemented on the dance floor for my "free" dancing (I don't know if this is an insult or a complement). Flamboyant hand movements.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: 'The Unbearable Lightness of Being' by Milan Kundera
'The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat' by Oliver Sacks
'The Master and Margarita' by Michel Bulgakov
Borges, Dostoyevsky, Joyce, Nietzsche

Politics: Feminism, food sovereignty, neo-Marxism, anarcho-curious.

Also: Roald Dahl, The Harbs, and the Moomins. The Drowned Man!

Music: Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Can, Suede, Catatonia, Bowie, Nina Simone, Gomez, Portico Quartet, The Penguin Cafe Orchestra, Caravan Palace, Melt Yourself Down, Fela Kuti, Nick Cave, Billy Holiday, The Incredible String Band

Films: Persepolis, Amelie, Frida, Lost in Translation, Moonrise Kingdom, Withnail and I, Mirrormask, Pedro Amaldovar, Woody Allen, David Lynch, Wes Anderson, Hitchcock
You should message me if
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You're interested in the world, weird, creative, and into the arts/what makes people tick. Warm, witty and experimental. I like people with a strange perspective on the world, make nests out of their rooms, are driven, impulsive and fiery, and come up with something funnily unexpected.

Or, you know, you could be like a real person who's quite nice, rather than my projected fantasy image. That'd be grand too.

Polyamory
For past 8 months I've been ethically non-monogamous/polyamorous/whatever you'd like to call it. I'm looking for anything on the spectrum from casual to friends with sexiness to deeper relationships, just not necessarily exclusive.

I'm definitely of the school that believes consent, trust and establishing some kind of mutual agreement on boundaries is a good thing in polyamory, rather than some of the schools that believe there should be no expectations at all. I've found it refreshing how open, honest and free of jealousy the poly relationships I've had over past few months have been.

(If you're a polyamory ninja with thousands of mind-expanding sexual politics articles to expand my mind, please send them my way.)

I'd also consider a monogamous relationship if a great person who wants that comes along, and was until recently in a monogamous relationship for 3 years.