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34 Oakland, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 9:09pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
My self-summary
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I'm from here, back in school, which has reminded me of my passions: intersectional feminism, the coming enviro-petrocalypse, and advocating for the insane. Trying to find work that I can sustain, that supports me, and is sustainable in the world at large.

I'm cajun, partially, and if you ask nicely, I'll tell you what's wrong with every oyster po'boy and cup of gumbo I've had in the Bay. I'm a big talker, which coming from that side and the Irish is pretty dominant. Family is important to me and present of my life, and my definition of family of of the broad, hippie sort.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, Eating- my family is from New Orleans- communicating with household pets and non-verbal children, editing, explaining without mansplaining (I hope!), tours of the east bay, working with Autists.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It may not be the first thing that people notice about me, but it seems to be the first real either or: either they think the words coming out of my mouth are hugely entertaining or that I should shut up and enjoy the drive. I wanted to put this out there before anyone got in a car with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: Thai, Cajun, Calfresh, Soul, Cracker, Italian, ect.
Books: Letham, Butler, O'Toole, Percy, Kundera, Robbins, Hunter, Pirsig, Buk, Hemingway, Camus.
Music: Dead Prez, Wayne, Kendrick, Trinidad James, Postal Service, A$AP, Eliot Smith, Jenny Lewis, Blackstar, Die Antwood, Mike Jones.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My oldest possession is a Chef's Knife my sister gave me on our eighteenth birthday.
Twin power, generally.
Family- my mother and stepfather, along with the aforementioned.
A typer, (really a computer with the internet- I tried going without and relying on the library recently, but I didn't get enough done).
More important is that I really don't like things much, ( And I don't want to try to get around the problem by saying that the most important things in my life are intangible objects like family, as I just did). I don't have a lot of them, and I'm not making a point out of it, nor do I think anything is wrong with you if you pursue fine things, but if it's your primary interest we won't have much in common.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Which I hope you took as a funny joke.
But I meant in that a lot of my thought process are epistemological or ontological, so I really do spend a fair bit of time thinking about thinking.
I think that, as a white man, trying to wrap my mind around racism and feminism are ongoing projects, so I make an effort to stay current, similar with cognitive disability issues except reversed in purpose, teaching me how others think about me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Shunning normalcy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have been diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome. It doesn't seem that private to me- but finding out has upset some people, especially since I can usually "pass " early on. So I figure best to get it out of the way here, although I fear it's past the intended TMI rating of this question.
You should message me if
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If you message me with something to open a conversation, I will be overjoyed.