Songwriter, composer, feminist, genderqueer heterosexual, former sideshow performer, sex-positive, philosophically agnostic, emotionally theistic, intellectually pantheistic, introvert with social anxiety, gallows humor, laughably goth at times, amateur photographer, improv accompanist, vegetarian, klutz with contrarily good balance, formal education in world religion, cave-dweller, yoga teacher, Russian soul, English heart, American head, kinky (though unfortunately not well-immersed in kink, owing to lack of interest from former partners), and lover of puns, the like of which could make a stadium full of vaudeville comedians groan in agony.
If you've made it through the above, then thank you and God be with you!
I'm fairly reclusive. Wherever I am I like it to be relaxed and conducive to a good conversation with good people. Although crowds and noise tend to exhaust me, I do still go out - I like a symphony, ballet, burlesque show, rock concert on occasion; I like zoos, aquariums, and museums; I like the smell of trees and going to places where there's lots of them. When staying in I like old cheesy movies, reading, playing frivolous card or board games; Not a big fan of bars, clubs, and other noisy, crowded places (unless I'm performing in them), although I will occasionally go to a goth club to dance; I like baseball and hockey games, but by no means am I a huge sports fan.
I have a propensity for cynicism, and I tend to take everything way too seriously... which contrarily lends itself well to lampooning everything under the sun (Basically, I'm Russian... no matter how miserable I am, I'll still make you laugh).
I wholeheartedly embrace the notion of gender fluidity. Whatever the currently reigning theories on gender and sex may be, I find that dualistic "roles" and expected behaviors are very subjective, and I have no desire to be held to them or hold anyone else to them. I identify with what they call "genderqueer." (Yes, I'm heterosexual, attracted to cis and queer women, and I'm also genderfluid. I know, it's a crazy world we live in).
I've been studying religion for over a decade. I eventually got a B.A. in Comparative Religion, and what academically examining the subject taught me most is that fundamentalism, from believers and nonbelievers alike, is the enemy of pragmatism and progress. Real, effective change in the world will come from believers and nonbelievers working together to push shared, basic, humanist values, and not through everyone converting to one formalized archaic system nor by everyone becoming anti-theists (both are equally ridiculous and delusional solutions). Humanist values and interfaith cooperation is gaining more and more ground in liberal and moderate religious circles today, and I am so elated by this. I'm philosophically agnostic, in that I don't believe in imposing any theology/belief on others, but I do have an active spiritual life, though I'm not religious in the traditional sense of the term. All I ask is that my beliefs be respected.
I'm very socially liberal, as you could probably tell. If you're not sex-positive, feminist (in action if not in title), pro-LGBTQI rights, and at least a little environmentally aware, we're not going to work.
I don't drink or use any drugs. Casual use of the softer stuff doesn't bother me, but I don't put up with heavy users. They talk all stupid-like. If you don't know how to have a good time without drinking, we're not a good match.
Something I've noticed is always important to mention early on when it comes to dating: I have a pet tarantula (ya know, a big fuzzy spider). She stays in her terrarium and doesn't bother anybody, I swear.
...Okay, so I can be a bit of a goth cliche at times, and laughably so. I cannot deny it however hard I try.