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My self-summary
Hi there! I thought I'd start with a concise list of important things you should know before reading on,
'cause I rather like it when others do the same:

Songwriter/composer, cynic with a cartoon sense of humor, sex-positive, goth-ish, intersectional feminist, former sideshow performer, genderfluid, BDSM switch, improv accompanist, agnostically theistic with bouts of nihilism and slatherings of existentialism, introvert with social anxiety, amateur photographer, vegetarian, klutz with ironically good balance, formal education in world religion, cave-dweller, yoga teacher, and lover of puns, the like of which could make a stadium full of vaudeville comedians groan in agony.

I'm attracted to cis women, queer/fluid/androgynous women, and transwomen. Basically just not into anyone resembling cis men.

When going out I like a symphony, ballet, occasionally a rock or electronic concert; I like zoos, aquariums, and museums; I also like being around trees and driving long distances. When staying in I like old cheesy movies, reading, playing frivolous card or board games; Not a big fan of bars, clubs, and other noisy, crowded places (unless I'm performing in them and getting paid), although I will occasionally go to a goth club to dance.

Open to both polyamory and monogamy, and would ideally someday at least have a primary partner to share my most intimate self with.

I'm pretty misanthropic, but I believe strongly in the virtue of compassion. I'm not what you'd call a happy person, but I'll try to make you laugh no matter what mood I'm in. My heritage is primarily British, Russian, and Jewish... I mean, sweet Jesus, I never had a chance.

I've been studying religion for going on 15 years. I have a B.A. in Comparative Religion. Conservative religious fanatics and people who hate religion to an ironically dogmatic degree (anti-theists) are both going to have problems with me. I have my beliefs (a lot of which are rooted much in Daoist cosmology, as well as Buddhist and Christian philosophy, Hindu and Sikh mysticism, and of course nihilism if I'm in a bad enough mood), however, I maintain an agnostic personal philosophy in that I don't believe any "higher" questions of meaning, life purpose, or ontology will ever be answered in any empirical or objective sense, therefore imposing a theology or belief onto others is completely unethical and out of the question. I'm not a blind believer, nor am I a rationalist. I'm like... a skeptic who prays and meditates.

I don't drink or use any drugs. Folks who drink the occasional beer or smoke the occasional joint are cool with me, but I don't put up with heavy users. They talk all stupid-like.

Oh, and Rey is my new hero.

Play me off, Larry! *cue out-of-tune ragtime piano*
What I’m doing with my life
Composing and recording music, and attempting to find artistic fulfillment while making money. It's tricky. Stereotypical starving artist right here!

Learning to navigate the raging cloud of pure evil that is independent marketing for my projects... so, so evil.

Currently working on scoring an amazing audio drama.

I play piano, bass, guitar, accordion, ukelele, balalaika, and trumpet passably well. I have a flute that I was thinking of giving a try...

I'm slowly but surely learning to speak Russian (I want to be able to tell Putin in the language of our people that he's a poo-head.)

I teach yoga and meditation occasionally, and I work at a yoga/pilates studio.
I’m really good at
Writing music. Goofing around onstage. Memorizing random facts about animals, religion, sociology, and the dialogue from movies that I watch way too often. Seeing so many sides of an issue that my opinions and insights become neutralizing and pragmatically useless
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall and very thin. Hard to miss that.

I'm 6'2'' with the ghostly white pallor of Northern Europeans and Slavs, and depending on where you find
me, I might be the tallest person in the room wearing a dress or I might be the tallest person trying to blend in by presenting as a cis man out of social anxiety.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Religion (academic and scriptural). Zoology. Sociology. Anthropology. Russian history. Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal. Harry Potter. The Millennium trilogy. LOTR. Calvin and Hobbes. Sherlock Holmes. Dracula. Neil Gaiman. Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Hellboy/BPRD comics. Harley Quinn comics. Some Batman. I was a theatre kid, so I'm still a sucker for Shakespeare, but prefer watching it to reading it (they're fuckin' plays, after all).

I was practically raised on Star Wars and Star Trek... I'm grateful to my parents for this. British comedy (Richard Curtis, Monty Python). Kevin Smith. The Marx Brothers. Universal classic horror (Dracula, Frankenstein, Wolf Man). The Muppets (but NOT the Jason Segal movie. Don't bring it up... just don't...).

Documentaries on nature, religion, Russia; The Addams Family, Star Trek, 90s sitcoms (Titus, Dinosaurs, NewsRadio, 3rd Rock from the Sun, etc.), British sitcoms (Spaced, The Good Life, Fawlty Towers, etc.). Sherlock Holmes (the Jeremy Brett series and movies). Bob's Burgers (can't believe I like something current!)

Some favorites: Marilyn Manson (favorite artist), Nine Inch Nails, Depeche Mode, Rufus Wainwright, Scarling, Jack Off Jill, Tchaikovsky (favorite composer), Shostakovich, The Cure, The Beatles, Scott Joplin, Flogging Molly, Prokofiev, Rob Zombie, Tech N9ne, Peaches, Yusuf (Cat Stevens), Squirrel Nut Zippers, Joby Talbot, FKA Twigs, Black Sabbath, Russian folk music, and a little bit of everything else. Yup, even country, before the great collapse of the post-Garth Brooks era.

Thai, Indian, Greek. I've been a vegetarian for 15 years, and that ain't gonna change. On top of that I have a pretty screwy digestive system, so I'm not a very adventurous eater.
The six things I could never do without
Friends / family
The smell of trees
My instruments and something with which to record them
Spirituality / philosophy / utter existential misery
Decompression time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How Yoda came to sound like he was a peasant from Elizabethan England.

The ultimate answer: 42.

Is listening to Isaac Hayes while browsing OKCupid a bad idea?

Why so many people on this site think sarcasm is a skill. I mean, most people have mastered verbal irony by the age of 8 or 9.

Oh God, a bunch of apes escaped from the zoo and they're running around with guns!! Oh God, they've lost their hair! Oh God, they're standing upright!! ... Oh God.

When people say they should've been born in a previous era, I always want to ask, "Is it the cholera, the small pox, the lynchings, or the legislated sexism that you find most romantic?"

"Why the fuck is it so hard to make the cymbals sound right in this song? ARGH!!!"

The Oxford comma, and its usefulness.

Why I'm 31 years old and still think Beavis and Butt-Head are so damn hilarious.
On a typical Friday night I am
Providing the musical accompaniment for an improv troupe, writing or recording new music, relaxing at a friend's house, roughhousing with my friends' kids (I'm the uncle that gets beat up a lot), seeing an orchestra or a ballet, staying in because I'd rather go out on weeknights when there are fewer people around, laying on my couch with a book or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have social anxiety and general anxiety. I also have depression (to make things even more fun!) Because of this, I need a little more downtime than most folks, and I need to decompress after socializing a lot, but I'm still a very sociable person when I've got the energy, and my friends seem to like havin' me around. But I can be a real cave dweller at times (I just can't be "on" all the time).
You should message me if
-- You have a compassionate heart and a goofy side.

-- You like skinny bodies.

-- If you want to go see a ballet or a symphony.

-- You're a feminist (intersectional and trans-inclusive!), sex-positive, preferably kinky, and like to talk about your sexual preferences and desires before engaging physically with a potential partner (Communication! It's a good thing!)

-- You like goth or goth-ish stuff, or can readily embrace that I always default to black clothes and makeup.

-- You are genderfluid, queer, or understand and are embracing of gender fluidity

-- If I randomly yelled "Duck season!" and you know the appropriate retort to this... oh God, please message me.

--If you haven't stopped questioning things.

-- If you still possess some genuine compassion for other people and sentient beings, despite the fact that we all might be nothing but a bunch of meaningless amalgams of atomic stuff, haphazardly tossed across the void by the Watchmaker (...whoops, my cynicism slipped out there).