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30 M West Covina, CA

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  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 30
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Not at all
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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My profile is lengthy for the following reason: I recently went out on a first date with a woman who turned out to be both homophobic and a racist. To say the least, it was... uncomfortable. Consequently, I think it's best we both start out with a fairly well-detailed profile encompassing basic outlines of our views so as to avoid said discomfort in the future. I mean, no offense to any racist homophobes who might be reading this, but you just wouldn't be that into me. I'm doing you a favor here, really.

I'm a songwriter, composer, singer, improv accompanist, yoga teacher, and former sideshow performer. Like most folks, I can go from quiet, moody, and withdrawn, to loud, goofy, and obnoxious. It's all circumstantial (how pretentious was that??)

I'm fairly reclusive. Wherever I am I like it to be relaxed and conducive to a good conversation with good people. When I do go out I like a symphony, ballet, burlesque show, rock concert on occasion; I like zoos, aquariums, and museums; I like the smell of trees and going to places where there's lots of them. When staying in I like old cheesy movies, reading, playing frivolous card or board games; Not a big fan of bars, clubs, and other noisy, crowded places (unless I'm performing in them), although I will occasionally go to a goth club to dance; I like baseball and hockey games, but by no means am I a huge sports fan.

I have a propensity for cynicism, and I have a tendency to take life far too seriously... but that kind of makes it funny to me. (Basically, I'm Russian... no matter how miserable I am, I'll still make you laugh).

I totally embrace the notion of gender fluidity. Although there is undoubtedly some biology at play, gender "roles" are very subjective, and I have no desire to be held to them or hold anyone else to them. And yes, that is important enough to me that I include it in what could be your first impression of me.

Religious conservatives and religion-haters alike do not get along well with me. I have a B.A. in Comparative Religion and what college taught me most is that fundamentalism is the enemy of pragmatism. Whether you're religious or non-religious, if you're a prick about it, I want nothing to do with you. (Someday I hope Richard Dawkins and Pat Robertson get into a fist fight... and that they knock each other the fuck out). I loosely call myself an agnostic existentialist with theistic tendencies. I pray often, even though I'm not always sure anyone's there (Don't tell anyone, but I really hope there is).

I am not without my prejudices, but I actively try to rid myself of the ones I know to be rooted in our faulty culture or my own bad experiences. I'm pro-LGBTQ rights, a feminist, inherently befuddled by racism (although my ethnic heritage is very important to me, and no, I do not see a discrepancy therein). I could never be in a relationship with someone who wasn't on board with those particular things.

I don't drink or use any drugs. Casual use of the softer stuff doesn't bother me, but I don't put up with heavy users. They talk all stupid-like.

Something I've noticed is always important to mention early on when it comes to dating: I have a pet tarantula (ya know, a big fuzzy spider). She stays in her terrarium and doesn't bother anybody, I swear.

...K, so I can be a bit of a laughable goth cliche at times. Oh well.
What I’m doing with my life
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In early 2013, I abandoned plans for grad school in favor of making music for a living. Music is my life and it took till I was nearly 30 to finally admit that to myself. Stereotypical starving artist right here! At the moment I'm trying to learn to navigate the raging cloud of pure evil that is independent marketing and make things happen for myself.

I'm slowly but surely learning to speak Russian (If you're real sweet to me, I might teach you how to insult people in Russian).

I teach yoga and meditation occasionally, and I work at a yoga/pilates studio.
I’m really good at
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Writing music. Seeing so many sides of an issue that my opinions and insights become neutralizing and pragmatically useless. Goofing off on and off stage. Memorizing random facts about animals, religion, sociology, and the dialogue from movies that I watch way too often.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall and I'm thin. Hard to miss that.

One of my best friends says I look "eccentric." I don't know exactly what she meant by that, but I do know that in Hollywood I don't stick out at all, whereas in most other places I do.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Religion (academic and scriptural). Zoology. Sociology. Anthropology. Russian history. Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal. Harry Potter. LOTR. Calvin and Hobbes. Sherlock Holmes. Dracula. Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Hellboy (yeah... the comic). Shakespeare, but preferably onstage.

I was practically raised on Star Wars and Star Trek... and you know what, I'm grateful for this! British comedy (Richard Curtis, Monty Python). Kevin Smith. The Marx Brothers. Universal classic horror (Dracula, Frankenstein, Wolf Man). The Muppets (but NOT the Jason Segal movie. Don't bring it up... just don't...).

Documentaries on nature, religion, Russia; The Addams Family, Stark Trek, 90s sitcoms (Titus, Dinosaurs, NewsRadio, 3rd Rock from the Sun, etc.), British sitcoms (Spaced, Coupling, The Good Life, Fawlty Towers, etc.). Sherlock Holmes (the Jeremy Brett series and movies). 15 years later, I just started watching Buffy - I like it.

Some favorites: Tchaikovsky (favorite composer), Marilyn Manson (favorite artist), Nine Inch Nails, Depeche Mode, Rufus Wainwright, Scarling, VNV Nation, Shostakovich, The Cure, The Beatles, Scott Joplin, The Sex Pistols, Prokofiev, Rob Zombie, Run DMC, Tech N9ne, Yusuf (Cat Stevens), Squirrel Nut Zippers, Joby Talbot, Black Sabbath, Russian folk music, and a little bit of everything else. Yup, even country, before its terrible downfall of the mid-90s.

Thai, Indian, Greek. I've been a vegetarian for 14 years, and that ain't gonna change. On top of that I have a pretty screwy digestive system, so I'm not a very adventurous eater.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The smell of trees/the sound of leaves
My instruments and something with which to record them
Spirituality/philosophy/utter existential misery
Alone time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How Yoda came to sound like he was a peasant from Elizabethan England.

The ultimate answer: 42.

Oh God, a bunch of apes escaped from the zoo and they're running around with guns!! Oh God, they've lost their hair! Oh God, they're standing upright!! ... Oh God.

When people say they should've been born in a previous era, I always want to ask, "Is it the cholera, the small pox, the lynchings, or the institutionalized sexism that you find most romantic?"

The Oxford comma and its usefulness.

Why I'm 30 years old and still think Beavis and Butt-Head are among the funniest phenomena the world as ever seen.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Providing the musical accompaniment for an improv troupe, recording, relaxing at a friend's house, roughhousing with my friends' kids (I'm the uncle that gets beat up a lot), seeing an orchestra or a ballet, avoiding places that I'd rather go to on weeknights because there are fewer people then, laying on my couch with a book or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have bad social anxiety and general anxiety. I don't always hide it as well as I try to, and it can be a hindrance more often than I'd like to admit. Because of it I need a lot of space and a fair amount of alone time, and I tend to dislike crowds and parties full of strangers. That doesn't mean I don't go out, or that I'm neglectful or I ignore the needs of others, and it doesn't mean I never want to go anywhere new - just that I need to date a woman who can respect the needs of a cave-dwelling introvert and understands that when I need alone time it's not a reflection of my feelings toward her.

I love kids. All my best friends have kids and half of the time I go to their houses just to hang with the little ones. But right now I don't really see myself having my own anytime in the near future. I'm not ready to be a parent, and I don't know if I ever will be - but I am a terrific and enthusiastic uncle.
You should message me if
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-- There's nothing I adore more than a woman with a sharp wit, compassionate heart, and a goofy side.

-- If I randomly yelled "Duck season!" and you know the appropriate retort to this... oh God, please message me.

-- If you still possess some genuine compassion for other people and sentient beings, despite the fact that we all might be nothing but a bunch of meaningless amalgams of atomic stuff, haphazardly tossed across the void by the Watchmaker (...oh dear, my cynicism slipped out. Whoops).

-- If you're intrigued, don't shy away from sending the first message, or giving me that magic star to let me know you'd like me to look at your profile (a guy with any respect for himself and respect for women wouldn't approach a woman in public unless she smiled at him first, you know. It's nice to have permission to approach even on a dating site).