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31 West Covina, CA Man, Genderfluid, Genderqueer

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  • Ages 25-35
  • Near me
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Last online
Yesterday – 7:07pm
Sapiosexual, Demisexual, Heteroflexible
Relationship Type
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Not at all
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello! Thanks for stopping by. Here is a brief list of things I am or am interested in. If you are interested in similar things, then we're off to a good start!

Songwriter/composer, cynic with a cartoon sense of humor, sex-positive, goth-ish, intersectional feminist, former sideshow performer, genderfluid, BDSM switch, improv accompanist, agnostically theistic with bouts of nihilism and slatherings of existentialism, introvert with social anxiety, amateur photographer, vegetarian, klutz with ironically good balance, formal education in world religion, cave-dweller, yoga teacher, and lover of puns, the like of which could make a stadium full of vaudeville comedians groan in agony.

When going out I like a symphony, ballet, burlesque show, occasionally a rock or electronic concert; I like zoos, aquariums, and museums; I also like being around trees and driving long distances. When staying in I like old cheesy movies, reading, playing frivolous card or board games; Not a big fan of bars, clubs, and other noisy, crowded places (unless I'm performing in them), although I will occasionally go to a goth club to dance.

I'm cynical, but I'm also a goofball. I'm misanthropic, but I believe strongly in the virtue of compassion. I'm not what you'd call a happy person, but I'll make you laugh no matter what mood I'm in. My heritage is primarily British, Russian, and Jewish... I mean, sweet Jesus, I never had a chance.

I've been studying religion for over a decade. I eventually got a B.A. in Comparative Religion. Conservative religious fanatics and people who hate religion to an ironically dogmatic degree (anti-theists) are both going to have serious problems with me. Getting rid of religion or everyone joining the same religion isn't going to solve our problems (nor is either a particularly realistic goal). Monkeys gonna monkey. As for my personal views, I believe in God (or Brahman, or the Dao, or whatever you may call it), and I actively seek to deepen my understanding of that great big universal... whatever it is... but I maintain an agnostic philosophy in that I don't believe in imposing any theology or belief on others, since nothing thereof can be proven. I'm a skeptic who prays.

I don't drink or use any drugs. Folks who drink the occasional beer or smoke the occasional joint are cool with me, but I don't put up with heavy users. They talk all stupid-like.

Play me off, Larry! *cue ragtime piano*
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Composing and recording music, and attempting to find artistic fulfillment while making money. It's tricky. Stereotypical starving artist right here!

Learning to navigate the raging cloud of pure evil that is independent marketing for my projects... so, so evil.

Currently working on scoring an amazing audio drama.

I play piano, bass, guitar, accordion, ukelele, balalaika, and trumpet passably well. I have a flute that I was thinking of giving a try...

I'm slowly but surely learning to speak Russian (I want to be able to tell Putin in the language of our people that he's a poo-head.)

I teach yoga and meditation occasionally, and I work at a yoga/pilates studio.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing music. Goofing around onstage. Memorizing random facts about animals, religion, sociology, and the dialogue from movies that I watch way too often. Seeing so many sides of an issue that my opinions and insights become neutralizing and pragmatically useless
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall and very thin. Hard to miss that.

Currently I'm clean-shaven, but when I have long hair and a beard, my friends say I look like Jesus... of course Jesus wouldn't have been 6'2'' with the ghostly white pallor of Northern Europeans and Slavs, but I digress.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Religion (academic and scriptural). Zoology. Sociology. Anthropology. Russian history. Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal. Harry Potter. The Millennium trilogy. LOTR. Calvin and Hobbes. Sherlock Holmes. Dracula. Neil Gaiman. Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Hellboy. Shakespeare, but preferably onstage.

I was practically raised on Star Wars and Star Trek... I'm grateful to my parents for this. British comedy (Richard Curtis, Monty Python). Kevin Smith. The Marx Brothers. Universal classic horror (Dracula, Frankenstein, Wolf Man). The Muppets (but NOT the Jason Segal movie. Don't bring it up... just don't...).

Documentaries on nature, religion, Russia; The Addams Family, Star Trek, 90s sitcoms (Titus, Dinosaurs, NewsRadio, 3rd Rock from the Sun, etc.), British sitcoms (Spaced, Coupling, The Good Life, Fawlty Towers, etc.). Sherlock Holmes (the Jeremy Brett series and movies). Bob's Burgers (can't believe I like something current!) 15 years later, I just started watching Buffy - I like it.

Some favorites: Tchaikovsky (favorite composer), Marilyn Manson (favorite artist), Nine Inch Nails, Depeche Mode, Rufus Wainwright, Scarling, Jack Off Jill, Shostakovich, The Cure, The Beatles, Scott Joplin, The Sex Pistols, Prokofiev, Rob Zombie, Run DMC, Tech N9ne, Yusuf (Cat Stevens), Squirrel Nut Zippers, Joby Talbot, Black Sabbath, Russian folk music, and a little bit of everything else. Yup, even country, before the great collapse of the post-Garth Brooks era.

Thai, Indian, Greek. I've been a vegetarian for 15 years, and that ain't gonna change. On top of that I have a pretty screwy digestive system, so I'm not a very adventurous eater.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends / family
The smell of trees
My instruments and something with which to record them
Spirituality / philosophy / utter existential misery
Decompression time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How Yoda came to sound like he was a peasant from Elizabethan England.

The ultimate answer: 42.

Is listening to Isaac Hayes while browsing OKCupid a bad idea?

Why so many people on this site think sarcasm is a skill. I mean, most people have mastered verbal irony by the age of 8 or 9.

Oh God, a bunch of apes escaped from the zoo and they're running around with guns!! Oh God, they've lost their hair! Oh God, they're standing upright!! ... Oh God.

When people say they should've been born in a previous era, I always want to ask, "Is it the cholera, the small pox, the lynchings, or the legislated sexism that you find most romantic?"

"Why the fuck is it so hard to make the cymbals sound right in this song? ARGH!!!"

The Oxford comma, and its usefulness.

Why I'm 31 years old and still think Beavis and Butt-Head are so damn hilarious.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Providing the musical accompaniment for an improv troupe, writing or recording new music, relaxing at a friend's house, roughhousing with my friends' kids (I'm the uncle that gets beat up a lot), seeing an orchestra or a ballet, staying in because I'd rather go out on weeknights when there are fewer people around, laying on my couch with a book or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have social anxiety and general anxiety. I also have depression (to make things even more fun!) Because of this, I need a little more downtime than most folks, and I need to decompress after socializing a lot, but I'm still a very sociable person when I've got the energy, and my friends seem to like havin' me around. (I just can't be "on" all the time).

I call myself "heteroflexible" because of the ambiguity of gender/sex norms in our society. I'm attracted to women, including people who are biologically female but identify as queer, agender, or fluid, and I'm also attracted to transwomen. Basically I'm just not into males or men. But this is also of course with the assumption that I'm into said person's heart and mind. Without intellectual and emotional attraction, there won't be much of a sexual attraction.
You should message me if
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-- You have a sharp wit, compassionate heart, and a goofy side.

-- You like skinny guys.

-- If you want to go see a ballet, opera, or symphony.

-- You're a feminist, sex-positive, kinky, and like to talk about your sexual preferences and desires before engaging physically with a potential partner (Communication! It's a good thing!)

-- You like guys in makeup.

-- You are genderfluid, queer, or understand and are embracing of gender fluidity

-- If I randomly yelled "Duck season!" and you know the appropriate retort to this... oh God, please message me.

--If you haven't stopped questioning things.

-- If you still possess some genuine compassion for other people and sentient beings, despite the fact that we all might be nothing but a bunch of meaningless amalgams of atomic stuff, haphazardly tossed across the void by the Watchmaker (...whoops, my cynicism slipped out there).

-- If you're intrigued, don't shy away from sending the first message. I like women who don't play by heteronormative society's rules (and plus, what with my social anxiety and all, you'd be doing me a a big favor on top of being a badass).