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43 F Raleigh, NC

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Dropped out of space camp
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Has kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Okay)

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My self-summary
Instead of the narrative, I came up with a few key words and brief accompanying descriptions that seem to represent me, and what I'm looking for:

Affectionate - I like to cuddle, and physical contact is important
Intelligent - I like to figure things out and discuss complexities
Delicate - I can be hurt. I do like to be cared for
Extroverted - I enjoy time with people
Creative - I like to make things, and think of ideas
Romantic - Little cute things can mean the world to me
Passionate - I pour myself into what, and who, I'm interested in
Dorky - I like silly jokes and puns and can be goofy at times
Monogamous - I am a pair-bonder, and prefer 1:1 romance
Queer with Kids - I do have kids who are my priority always
Femme of center - I've some tomboy traits, but am quite girly
Switch - not just in the bedroom, I need to lead and be led some
Emotional - I have very strong feelings, about everything
Fierce - I will fight for my identity, my beliefs and my loved ones.
Sensitive - I feel. I am intuitive. I care a lot, about many things
Feminist - if you don't know why then you're the reason
Nerdy - I love scifi/fantasy type of things and can really geek out
The little spoon - metaphorically as well

Obviously chemistry is chemistry, but here are some of the attributes I would choose were I to design a partner:

Intelligent - you make connections, and figure things out
Affectionate - touch is important part of your communication
Emotionally honest - you are aware of your feelings
Dorky - silly and goofy at times like me
Good with kids - mine are 6 & 9 and you accept that
Queer - have a non-binary concept of gender and orientation
Feminist - same as me but for your own reasons?
Good conversationalist - you thrive and bond on a good talk
Switch - you can lead, and be led, and require both.
Monogamous - you like to be the one single target of affection
Ambitious - you have desires, dreams and goals.
Sensitive - you can feel. You can also be hurt.
Creative - you're clever and have ideas about things.
Passionate - when you're into someone or something
Snuggler - you want and need close proximity and contact
The big spoon - :)
What I’m doing with my life
I work with the Trans Group at the Raleigh LGBT center.

I like most sciences and love learning how things, and people, work.

Playing guitar and singing a little. Writing songs.

Parenting two kids (6,9) who live with me 50% of the time.
I’m really good at
Over thinking
Over complicating
Over dressing
Under dressing
Missing cues
Improvisational rhyming
Becoming emotionally invested
The first things people usually notice about me
I haven't conducted a poll.

I'm tall. I have multi colored hair. I can be kinda loud and obnoxious, especially when drinking.

or could it be my +3 aura of awesomeness?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: No sugar, no carb omnivore. everything else is on the menu
Books: Yes, science mostly with occasional fantasy.
Movies & Shows: I don't watch broadcast TV except for Doctor Who. I like most scifi, fantasy and Anime and crazy martial arts movies.
Music: yes lots. I have a wide range of tastes, mostly, within the greater Rock genre, some examples, in no particular order, are: The Distillers, Stars, Carbon Leaf, Misfits, Blood Stained Child, The Parlotones, Boom Boom Satellites, Strike Anywhere, Angels & Airwaves, The Naked & Famous, and my favorite band is AFI.
More important than liking the same music, is that we like music with similar intensity, and for similar reasons.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Transgender things
Social Justice things
Parental things
Musical things
Nature things
Gender things
My friends and their situations
Also: what to put after the also
On a typical Friday night I am
Most weekends I have my kids and I can often be found at a local Raleigh or Durham restaurant trying to keep them seated long enough to enjoy a meal and a coffee.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm actually really open. possibly too much so. Especially regarding gender issues I've no problem sharing and answering questions. Once I know and trust you, I don't really have a TMI line.

I have a weird thing where sometimes my skin is like screaming out to be touched...but only someone special can do it.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
-You're Gender non conforming queer seeking long term pair-bonding and adorableness
-You think I'm reasonably attractive or interesting or both
-You are reasonably attractive or interesting or both
-You are dorky and/or socially awkward
-You like AFI
-You want to start a trans/queer punk band
-You were sad when Yagami Light died
-You've *respectful* questions about trans or gender issues

NOTE: I identify as Pansexual in that I am attracted to all genders and presentations, for different reasons. My favorite is masculine-of-center AFAB (including butches and trans guys) but I can honestly be attracted to anyone - its the inside that matters most to me. (or as the Pansexual mantra goes: "hearts before parts")

Its also ok just to msg be about how awesome I am.
Or about how awesome you are.