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30 M London, UK

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  • Ages 21–33
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My Details

Last Online
Sep 13
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Dislikes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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You won't find me jumping headlong into a conversation with strangers, or dangling from the chandeliers at a raucous party. I'll be the slightly nervous-looking guy, nursing a drink, and observing; often in the kitchen, or hiding in the garden. Most people will look straight through me... but I don't want to meet "most people" so that's OK.

You'll see me and it'll cross your mind that I may be an enigmatic, quiet, soul who may be worth getting to know. Perhaps you'll wander over and we'll have a chat. Perhaps that chat will turn into a beautiful evening and be the catalyst for who-knows-what.

You'll find me generally dry and sarcastic, a great believer in dirty jokes and political incorrectness - but at the same time, old fashioned, poetic, serious, honest, dedicated; an old romantic.

I'm a Londoner born and bred; I like to travel (frequently to Japan) and I'll try anything once unless there's a damn good reason not to. Exploration can be very rewarding. I'm not some up-rooted lunatic hipster who lives out of a suitcase in anticipation of yet another poorly-planned travelling exercise... or somebody who is likely to suddenly move to Singapore "just for the sheer hell of it"... but I do enjoy looking at new places, experiencing different cultures, and meeting fascinating people. And I really, *really* enjoy coming home at the end of it, buying a gigantic bag of fish and chips from the local chippie, and sitting down in front of Fawlty Towers with a bucket of tea.

I tend to overdress for most occasions. I won't lie - I look pretty spiffy in a suit. Which is just as well because I wear one far too often for a man my age. I own several bow-ties and I'm not afraid to use them. And I had bow-ties *before* Matt Smith made them cool. I do not have a Fez.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working full time as a senior IT Engineer (fixing, building, software analysis, testing, development, and other crazily exciting things) at a South West London University. I've worked there for just over ten years now - steadily rising through the ranks and finally reached a place where I'm pretty happy but *not* stupidly overworked.

("Would you pop up and have a look at my computer?" is a permissible "end-of-date" question if you don't fancy going with the old cliche of "Why don't you come in for coffee?") Since I sometimes miss the finer points of subtext, I will most likely assume you are saying what you mean... so if you mean something *else* you might need to be a little more obvious... otherwise I'll drink your coffee, shake your hand, and stroll out...

I am a classical composer in my free time; I write music for short films and I'm currently working on a concept album of sorts, which I am planning to record next year or the year after in Macedonia. I scored a (terrible) short film called "Another Quiet Night In Hell" in 2005 and whilst the film was universally savaged (by all of the fourteen people who saw it) my music did receive a fair bit of praise.

I've finished three symphonic poems, a romance for cello and string orchestra, a cello concertino, a piano and flute duo, a string quartet, a piano concertino, and a few other odds and sods. I've been told I have mad orchestration skillz. I'm currently working on another symphonic poem called Ten and doing some orchestration work for a theatre company in Liverpool.

I'm currently trying to get into production an animated film I wrote based off a dream. The plan is that I'll score it myself and record the music at some point next year with a 40 piece orchestra.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making tea...

Cooking roast dinners...

LISTENING. I'm not saying I never talk, but I know when to shut up.

Remembering crazily small details about pretty insignificant things, but forgetting my own name and what colour my car is.

Empathising. I can usually figure out what's going on in your head even if you're not saying it or you're trying to deflect me. The eyes tell all...
The first things people usually notice about me
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Hmm, I don't know... I'm not "people". Perhaps if I could copy myself, erase my memory, and accidentally meet my clone down the pub, I'd be able to say. I would *guess* that people notice that I'm short and that I look gloomy. Sad, but true. Good things come in small packages, though...

Then they hopefully notice that I'm a good listener. You can get a word in edgewise. I like to listen to you talk. I'm not just waiting for you to shut up so I can start banging on about myself again.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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What a cornucopia... I've been less of a reader than perhaps I should be of late, although I have always considered 1984 to be an essential guidebook to life in the modern world. Orwell got everything right except the year.

I am a musician; classical, film, and television primarily, with occasional flying visits to jazz, swing, and various others. I'll try almost anything but I have no time for rap, hip-hop, dubstep (wub, wub, wub) or anything of that nature. To clarify, I like *music* - as a general rule of thumb, if it sounds like a broken record player I'll probably not like it.

I have an embarassingly large record collection (the oldest going back to 1917) and I'm proud to say I still have a turntable, cassette deck, and CD player. MP3s be damned.

I also have a bit of a soft spot for Harry Nillsson.

I enjoy Japanese anime, television, and film. It has so much that I feel is missing from modern Western cinema. It gets a bit of a bad reputation (from people who think it's all porn and Pokemon) but there is so much that is emotionally rewarding.

Character development, plot, artistry, and good music; all missing from the majority of mainstream cinema. I am trying to learn Japanese (albeit slowly; it's one of those "hobbies" that gets pushed back and back and back until it almost disappears) and get the opportunity to practice it every now and again when I head over to Japan for my holidays. A wonderful country with wonderful people, clean streets, plentiful and tasty beer, and great food. And you can get a pint of London Pride and a pretty good roast dinner (or an even better fish and chips) if you know which back street to meander down.

(And yes, I'm a geek (or is that nerd...?) and fiercely proud. I don't go to work dressed as a Gorn, build scale models of the USS Enterprise, or own a set of Spock ears. I just like it - although I will participate with gusto in the Picard vs Kirk argument if pushed! Picard all the way. Bugger the Shat.)

I'm also a rather big fan of cult Sci-fi sitcom Red Dwarf. (To the extent of complete 100% recall of every line from every episode...)

It's been something of a big influence on my sense of humour and general outlook on life.

I've never had a great deal of time for Star Wars, though... This surprises most people who think that "loser sci-fi nerds" are all head-over-heels in love with Princess Leia. George Lucas has done a lot of great things... but one of them, Star Wars is not.

Other favourite films, in no particular order - The Sound Of Music, The Snowman, When The Wind Blows, Nineteen Eighty-Four, Donnie Darko, Space Firebird 2772, almost anything by Hayao Miyazaki, A.I. Artificial Intelligence, Gojira (the original 1954 Japanese film), Metropolis (1927), Tenshi No Tamago. (You'll notice a certain bias towards animation, music-related, and Japanese films.)

On the slightly more-mainstream side, anything Simon Pegg related, Die Hard (1-3), Indiana Jones, Back To The Future, etc, etc...

I love traditional British food (and if you're very, very lucky, I'll cook you one) - with Italian cuisine coming up a close second. My great grandfather was (allegedly) from Napoli so I suppose you could say spaghetti and pizza run in my veins.

Cooking is something of a hobby which I've pursued on and off; just lately it's been more on. I'm currently discovering a gender-stereotype-challenging penchant for baking.

I also have a great affection for Japanese food; I can't say I'll be trying Chicken Gristle with Boiled Milk Skin (seriously) again, but 99% of what I've eaten has been really, really lovely. My flaky language skills usually mean I get something other than what I ordered when I'm over there - but it's all the more fun if I get something odd. I've even developed a bit of a taste for Sushi after steadfastly refusing to go anywhere near it for a few years.

And, of course, I love a nice curry. And I know where to get the best ones. And I'm not telling you where until at least the third date. A gentleman never kisses and tells. I need a hook. I need to keep *something* back so that you'll want to see me again...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(In no particular order...)

Green tea ice cream.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...stuff to write on this profile that might convince some sweet lady out there to drop me a line.

...whether this is making me look like an absolute jackass.

...who I'd chose if my only choices were Wilma or Betty.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...sometimes to be found relaxing in the pub with some workmates. Often, I'll be heading home to work on some new project; or just putting my feet up, listening to some good music, and sipping a good British ale.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a fairly intense foot fetish. This could work to your advantage. I'm not a creep, but I am what I am.

And yes, there are other private things... and no, you won't be hearing about them on the internet.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. don't mind working through a little social awkwardness, for the reward is a genuine, old-fashioned, funny chap who'll do his very best for you.'ve got this far and you're intrigued.

I spend rather a lot of time sending messages - genuine, personal, respectful, friendly messages (not "YO WANNA SHAG?!") to people on here and rarely, if ever, get a response - even if it's to tell me to get knotted.

If you message me, you *will* get a response - I only ask that your message is in English (ie, not txtspk) and has something to it beyond "hi how u doin?" etc... I don't bite (unless you want me to) and I won't ignore you or send back some offensive brush off.