Retired 08/01/2013. I've been a non-workaholic physician, specialized in Psychiatry with a bit of a focus in forensics. I worked for the state, in a public clinic. My time with patients had been gratifying. The bureaucracy, paperwork, IT, and soulless insurance companies, Hell.
I've just concluded 30 years of clinical work, and once I've gotten my "sea legs" (I keep discovering new little odd anxieties, such as that someone's going to realize I haven't been going to work and there will be consequences), my plans include building a house and completing a work of moral philosophy I've been laboring at for 40 years—though not before some more celebrating!
I am Funny, Analytic, and Open.
My openness encompasses honesty. About "My Details" to the right. I used to be 5'9", then multiple neck traumas—a couple in cars, numerous with patients—and age produced "shrinkage." I'm actually somewhere between the two heights now. You'll note the Body Type given is "overweight" because—I am, by contemporary health standards, overweight. The pictures which many provide, while describing their body type as "a little extra" or "curvy" suggest I may be doing myself an unnecessary disservice. Oh well, it won't be the first time and it won't be the last. I do not have any children. I love dogs that I love, and like most well enough, but I'm partial to cats and have only met one that I couldn't stand. I had high school French—or did it have me? I took three terms of Russian (I loved Dr. Zhivago) and these were the lowest three grades of my college career. So I'm not fluent in anything besides my native tongue.
OkCupid keeps urging me to expand my summary. If you would like more information, just walk the ground of the 2222+ answers I've given to the site's questions. I also 'splain a lot.
When I looked at the "Personality" section in my own profile, I howled. I admit to feeling a bit insulted. You should check out your own ratings, but first I need to take issue with a few of OkCupid's "off" results:
[One woman wrote me with "concern"—and since she didn't provide any details, I'm guessing that it was the section that follows which engendered that "concern." I will therefore remark for those who would need such a clue, that much of what immediately follows about my response to OkCupid's characterization of my Personality was written for fun—mine if no one else's.]
Most of the people I know regard me as substantially "more aggressive" than the average bear. Literally, a bear. I'm intense and interventionist, although focally so. I go after situations I think need going after in the manner of a pit bull, and I am no respecter of convention, position, or thuggery. Although if we're talking about knuckle-dragging and bar-shoving, that would not be me.
"More conventionally moral"—I'm hurt. I guess I cover a lot of that ground as well, but it's a point of personal integrity that I'm unconventionally moral.
OkCupid's rated me as a little "more organized" than average—I'm selectively organized to the minute and the millimeter. Admittedly, what I'm not concerned about I let take its own course (hence the more accurate sloppy rating, though I hardly think it stands out so prominently in my existence as OkCupid's Bar Graph tattles).
It's kind of OkCupid to rate me as only a little "more arrogant," because I'd suppose myself a worse offender, but I'll concede, for the sake of the site's credibility. Alternatively, if I really am only a little more arrogant than the average male, then I'm embarrassed for my gender.
Also rated as only a little "more experienced in love" than the average male. I've been in love at least three times, twice of the heart-wrenching, keep-bleeding-for-a-decade type. And I'm a shrink, so I've really really thought and thought and felt and felt and understood the shit out of those experiences. I also have a lot of professional vicarious "experience" of love relationships. If, on the other hand, this is only a euphemism for sexual experience, then I would have no complaint with their rating. I've been selective.
I'm actually "more ambitious" than anyone I've met, although it's intellectual rather than economic ambition—so again, perhaps a definitional difference.
We're then ok until the "Less Independent" rating. If OkCupid is referring to some quality of men in relationships to not care what the impact of what they're doing is on their significant other, or just "others," I am indeed not independent in that sense. But in the most plausible sense of the term, I am and have always been enormously and painfully independent. I always do what I decide I will do, and I don't give a crap about whether "it's done," or how it's seen, or what parts of the sky will fall on me. I don't look to others to decide what's right or what's enough.
As for "Less Adventurous," adventure is where you find it.
Finally, "Less Energetic." It's true that I don't feel any need to be up and running about like a headless chicken in order to feel productive, and my pleasures are more contained and attentional, but when energy is required in some pursuit, I'm dogged. The longest I was ever up at a task without sleep was 96 hours (1975) at the conclusion of which I drove 3 hours in a blizzard at night, the second longest was 72 hours (1985) writing a 43-page Policy on End-of-Life Medical Care, and while those were admittedly a while ago, within the last 5 years I've regularly done sleepless marathons of 48-56 hrs., doing things I've decided to address. During the July 2010 Holiday weekend I worked a full day Friday, had a few hours off for dinner and a movie and then worked at the hospital from 11pm Friday through Tuesday morning at 8am—and then went back to work at the clinic until 5pm Tuesday. Now it's true I did get to sleep when I had no patient to see, but we're still essentially talking about Friday + a continuous 89 hour shift. Is that really un-energetic? BBBTHTHTH!!!!—consider that a large raspberry blown at OkCupid's interpreters of chicken entrails.