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53 Ferndale, MI Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:51am
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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First, the thing that could be a deal-breaker: I am Pagan. If you're curious as to my particular "brand", I'll be happy to give you more details. But if you're a serious Christian. Muslim, Jew, agnostic, or atheist, we likely won't have any common ground. (A relationship with an open-minded Buddhist or Hindu; or with someone who is "spiritual but not religious", might be possible.)

I'm in search of a man who is expressive, articulate, kind, affectionate, playful, outgoing, and comfortable in most social settings and with all sorts of people. Like me, you are open to new experiences (within reason; please don't surprise me with a parachuting lesson!); environmentally-minded; and a bit left of center politically.

Geographically, I'm focusing my search on men in southeast Michigan. I'm also open to meeting someone who lives in Windsor, Ontario (I have an enhanced driver's license and I'm not afraid to use it!).

I enjoy traveling -- I haven't been out of the country (except for Canada) since my undergrad days, but would like to rectify that in the future. At the same time, I'm not a fan of cold weather. If I had the chance to relocate (for work or with the right partner), it would definitely be further south!

I'm non-smoking and child-free. I would like a partner who uses no tobacco products at all ("vaping" has some health risks as well) and who is either also child-free or whose children are grown and out on their own. I also prefer that any prospective partner be either widowed, completely divorced, or never-married.

To learn more about whether we'd be compatible, check our answers to the questions that OK Cupid offers. For now, I'll just sum up by saying that I'd like a man who is self-sufficient and responsible but young in spirit, with a sense of mission or desire for involvement in a cause larger than oneself.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have a steady day job, but play music and write songs in my "spare" time (I have two CDs out). Making music is definitely a passion of mine! I'm working on playing out more frequently, both locally and long-distance.

I'm also involved in a few groups related to my spiritual practice. These activities feed my soul and I've made many good friends in the process; but the straight men I've met in these groups are pretty much all partnered up. That's where you (maybe) come in!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
harmonizing with other singers. I play guitar well enough to accompany myself and provide rhythmic back-up in ensembles. I'm also a good writer -- not so much with fiction, but with writing songs and step-by-step instructions.
The first things people usually notice about me
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are my hair and glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some books I've enjoyed include "The Fifth Sacred Thing", by Starhawk; "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola-Estes; "Strange Days : My Life With and Without Jim Morrison", by Patricia Kennealy-Morrison; "Eat, Pray, Love", by Elizabeth Gilbert; Jean Auel's "Earth's Children" series; and "God Is Not One: The Eight Rival Religions That Run the World--And Why Their Differences Matter" by Stephen Prothero. I'm currently reading the book "Runestone" by Don Coldsmith.

In general, I enjoy movies with these kinds of themes: musicians/bands; science fiction (especially time travel); counter-culture; and environmental/social justice. Horror movies of the blood-and-guts variety completely turn me off.

I'm currently keeping up with "Reign" and "The Big Bang Theory", and have recently become completely drawn into "The Flash" and "iZombie". Other than that, I'll wind down late in the evening with reruns of whatever comedies are broadcasting on commercial television (I'm one of those folks who has a converter box and antenna instead of cable TV, Roku device, etc.)

I especially like music from the 60s and 70s, although I also enjoy some of the current stuff. In terms of general styles, I prefer rock, folk, and some country music.

Cheese is one food I could never give up. In terms of cultural cuisine, I'm open to pretty much anything, except meat that came from any creature I might consider to be a pet.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
are my glasses, my guitar, my laptop, my cell phone, coffee, and the summer season. (I don't consider my family, friends, and two cats to be "things". 8-) )
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I could simplify my life -- live comfortably while leaving less of a carbon footprint, and focusing on the things that matter (which aren't actually things).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out having fun with good friends or (if I have no such plans) catching up on chores and reading at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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is that I will check Wikipedia when I'm curious about a book that I won't get around to reading, or about a movie that I'm not sure I'll get to see. (Don't worry, I don't give away any spoilers unless asked!) Recently, I think that saved me from the nightmares that almost surely would have resulted had I read all the way through the book "Bird Box" by Josh Malerman.
You should message me if
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you have checked our answers to the questions that OK Cupid offers and can surmise that we are similar enough in terms of temperament and values to consider going out together. Preference is given to those who include a photo of themselves and whose profiles are completely filled out. (It's fine if you don't want to broadcast your income, though.)

I noticed that OKCupid has a new feature in "My Details", where one can indicate one's preferred relationship type as mainly or strictly monogamous, or as mainly or strictly non-monogamous. I picked "strictly monogamous"; but I want to make it clear that this is a status I will assume once I'm serious about someone. Until that happens, I do plan to date more than one person at a time.