Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


52 Ferndale, MI Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:01am
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First, the thing that could be a deal-breaker: I am Pagan. If you're curious as to my particular "brand", I'll be happy to give you more details. But if you're a serious Christian. Muslim, Jew, agnostic, or atheist, we likely won't have any common ground. (A relationship with an open-minded Buddhist or Hindu, or with someone who is "spiritual but not religious", might be possible, though.)

I'm a romantic idealist in search of a man who is interested in building a passionate, meaningful life with the right woman. You may be eligible if you:

are either widowed, completely divorced, or never married

live within 100 miles of Ferndale, Michigan, USA. (Yes, I'll even consider guys from Windsor, Ontario, Canada -- I have an enhanced driver's license and I'm not afraid to use it!)

do not smoke or otherwise use tobacco products, even socially or occasionally

practice or are open to nontraditional religion(s)

support equal rights (for example, marriage) for LGBTQ persons

are expressive, articulate, kind, affectionate, playful, outgoing, and comfortable in most social settings and with all sorts of people

are either child-free, or have grown children out on their own

enjoy music (especially the home-brewed local kind), books, movies, live shows, travel, and community happenings.

I am by no means an aspiring Olympic athlete, but I'm trying to fit more exercise into my life. A walking (and hopefully, in time, running!) buddy would be a great bonus.

A sense of mission/desire for involvement in a cause larger than oneself is an especially desirable trait for me! I believe that each one of us is capable of leaving the planet (and life on it) better than we'd found it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a steady day job, but play music and write songs in my "spare" time (I have two CDs out). Making music is definitely a passion of mine! A few of my male musician friends have wives who resent their musical activities -- hoped that they would "grow out of it" and consider playing out not to be for responsible adults. I would want for any potential partner of mine to be totally okay with my musical activities, and not consider them to be something interfering with our relationship.

I'm also involved in a few groups related to my spiritual practice (don't worry, we don't proselytize!) These activities feed my soul and I've made many good friends in the process; but the straight men I've met in these groups are pretty much all partnered up. That's where you (maybe) come in!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
harmonizing with other singers. I play guitar well enough to accompany myself and provide rhythmic back-up in ensembles. I'm also a good writer -- not so much with fiction, but with writing songs and step-by-step instructions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
are my hair and glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some books I've enjoyed include "The Fifth Sacred Thing", by Starhawk; "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola-Estes; "Strange Days : My Life With and Without Jim Morrison", by Patricia Kennealy-Morrison; "Eat, Pray, Love", by Elizabeth Gilbert; Jean Auel's "Earth's Children" series; and "God Is Not One: The Eight Rival Religions That Run the World--And Why Their Differences Matter" by Stephen Prothero.

In general, I enjoy movies with these kinds of themes: musicians/bands; science fiction (especially time travel); counter-culture; and environmental/social justice. Horror movies of the blood-and-guts variety completely turn me off.

I'm currently keeping up with "Reign" and "The Big Bang Theory". Other than that, I'll wind down late in the evening with whatever comedies are broadcasting on commercial television (I'm one of those folks who has a converter box and antenna instead of cable TV, Roku device, etc.)

I especially like music from the 60s and 70s, although I also enjoy some of the current stuff. In terms of general styles, I prefer rock, folk, and some country music.

Cheese is one food I could never give up. In terms of cultural cuisine, I'm open to pretty much anything. (Although if it involves eating bugs or something similar, you may want to postpone telling me what was in that great dish from last night until a couple of days later ....)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
are my glasses, my guitar, my laptop, my cell phone, coffee, and the summer season. (I don't consider my family, friends, and two cats to be "things". 8-) )
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I could simplify my life -- live comfortably while leaving less of a carbon footprint, and focusing on the things that matter (which aren't actually things).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out having fun with good friends or (if I have no such plans) catching up on chores and reading at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that, unlike the stereotypical woman, I crave salty snacks much more than I do sweets (even chocolate). Potato chips and dip don't last long in my house (which is why I avoid buying them!).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are self-sufficient; a little left of center politically; responsible but young in spirit; are open to new ideas; and believe that the best years of your life are yet to come! Preference is given to those who include a photo of themselves and whose profiles are completely filled out. (It's fine if you don't want to broadcast your income, though.)

I noticed that OKCupid has a new feature in "My Details", where one can indicate one's preferred relationship type as mainly or strictly monogamous, or as mainly or strictly non-monogamous. I picked "strictly monogamous"; but I want to make it clear that this is a status which I will assume once I'm serious about someone. Until that happens, I do plan to date more than one person at a time.