Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First, the thing that could be a deal-breaker: I am Pagan. If
you're curious as to my particular "brand", I'll be happy to give
you more details. But if you're a serious Christian. Muslim, Jew,
agnostic, or atheist, we likely won't have any common ground. (A
relationship with an open-minded Buddhist or Hindu; or with someone
who is "spiritual but not religious", might be possible.)
I'm in search of a man who is expressive, articulate, kind,
affectionate, playful, outgoing, and comfortable in most social
settings and with all sorts of people. Like me, you are open to new
experiences (within reason; please don't surprise me with a
parachuting lesson!); environmentally-minded; and a bit left of
I enjoy traveling -- I haven't been out of the country (except for
Canada) since my undergrad days, but would like to rectify that in
the future. At the same time, I'm not a fan of cold weather. If I
had the chance to relocate (for work or with the right partner), it
would definitely be further south!
I'm non-smoking and child-free. I would like a partner who uses no
tobacco products at all ("vaping" has some health risks as well)
and who is either also child-free or whose children are grown and
out on their own. I also prefer that any prospective partner be
either widowed, completely divorced, or never-married.
To learn more about whether we'd be compatible, check our answers
to the questions that OK Cupid offers. For now, I'll just sum up by
saying that I'd like a man who is self-sufficient and responsible
but young in spirit, with a sense of mission or desire for
involvement in a cause larger than oneself.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a steady day job, but play music and write songs in my
"spare" time (I have two CDs out). Making music is definitely a
passion of mine! I'm working on playing out more frequently, both
locally and long-distance.
I'm also involved in a few groups related to my spiritual practice.
These activities feed my soul and I've made many good friends in
the process; but the straight men I've met in these groups are
pretty much all partnered up. That's where you (maybe) come in!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
harmonizing with other singers. I play guitar well enough to
accompany myself and provide rhythmic back-up in ensembles. I'm
also a good writer -- not so much with fiction, but with writing
songs and step-by-step instructions.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some books I've enjoyed include "The Fifth Sacred Thing", by
Starhawk; "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa
Pinkola-Estes; "Strange Days : My Life With and Without Jim
Morrison", by Patricia Kennealy-Morrison; "Eat, Pray, Love", by
Elizabeth Gilbert; Jean Auel's "Earth's Children" series; and "God
Is Not One: The Eight Rival Religions That Run the World--And Why
Their Differences Matter" by Stephen Prothero. I'm currently
reading the book "Runestone" by Don Coldsmith.
In general, I enjoy movies with these kinds of themes:
musicians/bands; science fiction (especially time travel);
counter-culture; and environmental/social justice. Horror movies of
the blood-and-guts variety completely turn me off.
I'm currently keeping up with "Reign" and "The Big Bang Theory",
and have recently become completely drawn into "The Flash" and
"iZombie". Other than that, I'll wind down late in the evening with
reruns of whatever comedies are broadcasting on commercial
television (I'm one of those folks who has a converter box and
antenna instead of cable TV, Roku device, etc.)
I especially like music from the 60s and 70s, although I also enjoy
some of the current stuff. In terms of general styles, I prefer
rock, folk, and some country music.
Cheese is one food I could never give up. In terms of cultural
cuisine, I'm open to pretty much anything, except meat that came
from any creature I might consider to be a pet.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
are my glasses, my guitar, my laptop, my cell phone, coffee, and
the summer season. (I don't consider my family, friends, and two
cats to be "things". 8-) )
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I could simplify my life -- live comfortably while leaving less
of a carbon footprint, and focusing on the things that matter
(which aren't actually things).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out having fun with good friends or (if I have no such plans)
catching up on chores and reading at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that, unlike the stereotypical woman, I crave salty snacks much
more than I do sweets (even chocolate). Potato chips and dip don't
last long in my house (which is why I avoid buying them!).
You should message me if
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you have checked our answers to the questions that OK Cupid offers
and can surmise that we are similar enough in terms of temperament
and values to consider going out together. Preference is given to
those who include a photo of themselves and whose profiles are
completely filled out. (It's fine if you don't want to broadcast
your income, though.)
I noticed that OKCupid has a new feature in "My Details", where one
can indicate one's preferred relationship type as mainly or
strictly monogamous, or as mainly or strictly non-monogamous. I
picked "strictly monogamous"; but I want to make it clear that this
is a status I will assume once I'm serious about someone. Until
that happens, I do plan to date more than one person at a time.
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