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My self-summary
PLEASE NOTE: Technically single, but not looking for anything further than friendship at this point in time... Priority now would be to get to know more Christian friends, especially if you're not the "usual" variety... pls see the 'You should message me if' section below if you're interested~ ^^)

ALSO: Apologies if I appear two or more times in your Visitors list without leaving a message, there's only just so many Singaporeans here on this site and sometimes it's difficult to keep track of people with just that tiny thumbnail being suggested to me... I do make my decision to strike up conversations (or not) mainly based on what is written in profiles and questions answered though, so if you think I've passed-on on your profile in error, and you've read my profile and think you'd like to get to know me better, feel free to drop me a message and give it a shot. This is a dating/social networking site after all, no harm in taking initiatives =)

I was a member the St. John Ambulance Brigade (SJAB) for about a 14-year period; the first 4 years as a student & cadet member, then the next 10 years volunteering as a commissioned officer, performing staff duties with a focus on the training & development aspects of my Corps. During that time I worked closely with teachers & my fellow officers, hoping to make a difference in our students' learning journey. I've since taken a leave of absence from active duty to better focus on my work and family, though I still keep in touch with my junior officers in an advisory role. I love work that involves a deep thinking process, helping others to resolving issues, and the development of potential, character and values.

During my younger days I spent much of my time divided between official St. John activities, going out with friends from the Corps for sports, and meeting new people on IRC. These days I mostly spend my free time on my hobby of software development, and making the occasional blog post. I also meet up with close friends of mine every couple of weeks for meals or a cooperative computer game match.

As an individual I'm not really the sociable type and rarely takes the initiative to make new friends, but I do very much value friendship and kinship when I meet someone I develop an affinity to.

So that's me in a nutshell~ Would like to get to know you too if you're up for it. =)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently gainfully employed and doing well at my workplace, but I've always harboured a dream of running my own business with some close friends in an area that we are passionate about.

Not usually a major risk-taker (unless it's calculated and necessary), but have recently picked up stock-trading and putting in some effort to learn the ropes.

Also not great in photography, but started playing with the craft about a little more than a year ago... (now learning to love my new Sigma 50mm 1.4 DG HSM 'Art'~ *glee*)
I’m really good at
I've spent a number of years developing software, doing web and dynamic media design. I also have an interest in writing and poetry, and have extensive experience in public speaking and working with youths in my capacity as a St. John officer.
The first things people usually notice about me
People tend to notice me for how I carry myself; being confident, determined, and assertive while knowing when to have a sense of humour and fun at the opportune time is what I'm generally known for.

I also take friendship extremely seriously, eschewing casual acquaintanceship in favour of long-term serious ones. I believe a good friend is one who supports, exhorts and chastises as necessary; one who tells it straight if their friends are in error, in hopes that things can be better off in time, than one who prefers to say neutral or nice things in order to remain in on their friend's "good side". Friendship, like all relationships, isn't merely about nice feelings, but about caring about the other's needs, not just wants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Not so much into food, my favourite movies include the Korean fares "A Moment to Remember" (romance/tragedy), "Taegukgi" (a movie about brotherhood, using war as a more-than-effective backdrop), British buddy-cop action-comedy "Hot Fuzz", stylistic action movies like "300" and "The Matrix", as well as the recent Batman movie trilogy. I also enjoy shows like "Friends", "The Colbert Report", a few select Korean dramas, and classic and 3D animations including "Beauty and the Beast", "Batman: Mask of the Phantasm", "Chicken Run", "Wallace & Gromit", "The Incredibles" and "Up". A couple of movies concerning the Jewish Holocaust are also recommended: they are Roman Polanski's "The Pianist", and Steven Spielberg's "Schindler's List".

For books, I used to enjoy Stephen King's horror novels (they always seem to have a moral story hidden someplace within the tale), but these days I'm mostly into christian literature like those from John Piper, Dr. Dan Allender, Joshua Harris, Timothy Keller, James D.G. Dunn, and Blaine Smith. I also used to read literature on world religions, mythology, philosophy, and psychology, amongst others.

I don't have a specific genre of music preferred as I listen to a wide variety of genres ranging from country to pop to classicals, but I do often enjoy cinematic motion picture soundtracks.
The six things I could never do without
God, Family and Love. I'm quite content just with these. =)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Mankind's relationship with God, His will, the nature of the world, the evolution of society and and the possibilities that we each make of it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually chilling at home, relaxing after a week at work, doing things I enjoy. A co-operative video game with a close friend, some design or development work, trying my hand at writing, finally putting up a long-awaited blog post, or enjoying a good book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The day I truly found God was the day I originally chose to give Him up in hurt and anger. Despite our best efforts we often fall short of acting the way we should. Luckily while we let him down often, He never gives up on us. =)

That, and the fact that I'm an odd mix of a bit of a perfectionist (not that I believe perfection is attainable - but if you're going to do something, at least aim for it!); a bit of a procrastinator (but also can't stand inefficiency & ineffectiveness and is always looking to get things done; and in a better way); and my room and personal SOHO workspace is often a mess (although part of me also *loves* getting things in order - or just fixing things in general)
You should message me if
I would very much like to meet a fellow Christian who places God first, love and family second, followed by friends, before all else.

For various reasons, I don't go to church and hence do not have many friends who are Christian. I do however pray frequently, enjoy reading the Bible and other Christian literature, and enjoys discussing doctrinal matters with friends.

My ideal partner is naturally pleasant looking, with a good heart and personality. She should have a good balance between girlish sweetness & spontaneity, and mature femininity & strength. Someone who could keep my feet firmly on the ground, and yet propels my heart and spirit to soar. Someone for whom I would be her protector, but she would be my Strength.

She would be a Christian, or someone who is yet to be, but open to the idea and only staying away because she doesn't know enough about God or had bad experiences with other professing Christians, yet willing to hear out another one. Eventually, my wife would be someone who loves and prioritizes God above all things, followed by me, before all else. This is because placing God in first place changes our perspective and our way of living in life, and guides us in our relationships and dealing with others in every aspect.

I would like someone who does not smoke, drinking is fine if it's in the light, social way. I'm usually not the outdoors-y nor social type, but years of being a St. John officer has shown that I'm also pretty comfortable in public speaking and social settings, so someone with a good balance between introversion and extroversion would be great.

I welcome friends from all over the world, especially if you're a fellow God-believing brother or sister in Christ. For a potential partner however, you should be someone local, or who shares a common cultural heritage who will be better able to relate to myself, my family and friends; and for whom I can do the same for. Generally that means a Singapore-born (or at least raised) Chinese is preferred above all.

NOTE: Since I've been here I've received a number of messages that were just short "Hi" or "How are you?" type of messages. I've so far always taken the effort to reply to these messages, but the conversations usually wouldn't last long and would taper off after a few exchanges. I'm inclined to consider not replying to such messages down the road.

If you've honestly read my profile and is genuinely interested in becoming a friend, I'd like to request that you put in a bit more effort in your initial messages. A first impression that shows your honesty, sincerity and interest goes a long way. =D