I care a great deal about rejecting sexism. I'm the kind of guy who would take offence if somebody called me "masculine."
I am a strong proponent of open relationships. Although I don't like either term, you could call me polyamorous, or (maybe more precisely) a relationship anarchist. I have quite a lot to say for that, but let it suffice to mention three things: First, I don't think all that fuss about sex is in any way justified. Why can't grown-up people just have sex if they like (and refrain from it if they don't)? What concern is that of third parties? Second, I fail to see how arbitrarily confining your partner's freedom can be a proof of love (if love is to be a good thing, that is). Third, intimate relationships are one-of-a-kind individuals. I don't care if a relationship conforms to this or that stereotype, or pre-conceived notion of how a certain kind of relationship (romance, friendship, affair...) should look like. Relationships should be about what makes sense for the unique persons involved in their specific situation.
I never use emoticons, and I and never go swimming dressed. These two basic rules of life are the closest thing to a religion I have.
I also work part-time editing a left-wing newspaper.
I'm somewhat lazy. In fact, I see moderate laziness as a progressive virtue: What could contribute more to the general improvement of human living conditions than the continuous struggle to minimize the burden of labour?
Some movies I love are Solyaris, Nausicaa, Teeth, There Will Be Blood, Bladerunner, The Godfather Part I and II, The Fountain, Gone With The Wind, The Wizard of Oz, Shame (2011), The Women, Alien quadrology. I appreciate the work of Akira Kurosawa, Stanley Kubrick, Sofia Coppola, Woody Allen, David Lynch, David Cronenberg, Billy Wilder, Takeshi Kitano, the Coen Brothers, Frank Capra, Howard Hawks, Sion Sono, Mamoru Oshii. I also have a taste for "Naked Gun"-style comedy.
Some music I like: Swans, PJ Harvey, Barn Owl, Silver Mt. Zion, David Bowie, Nirvana, The Cure, The Angels of Light, Jesse Sykes, Chinawoman, HGich.T, Mogwai, Neurosis, The Yardbirds, Ladytron, The Fall, Tricky, Portishead, Massive Attack, Arcade Fire, Coil, Nine Inch Nails, Johnny Cash, Blur, Fever Ray, The Flaming Lips, Nick Cave, Devendra Banhart, Anna Calvi.
For dancing, I mostly indulge in techno.
I also love Bach, Mahler, and Shostakovich, but I have to admit that as of late, I rarely find the time and interest to listen to that kind of music. Maybe this is how growing old and dull starts.
I don't like jazz. There, I said it.
In personal exchange, I try to be as open as possible with so-calles private information. I think it's generally a good idea not to be ashamed of anything, especially not my weaknesses, flaws, and failures. The effort people put into hiding those things (or maybe are rather: hiding from those things) would better be spent overcoming them, or at least coming to own them.
...you want to write a book with me.
...you are looking for a companion to see some movie or other at Arsenal cinema. They have a retrospective of screwball comedies in December and January!
We have a gender problem here. Many women get more messages than they care to answer (or so I've heard) and I am not eager to join what can hardly be perceived but as a crowd of testosterone-intoxicated spammers. Men, on the other hand, rarely get messaged. Surely this is a sexist state of affairs which each of us should strive to change!
(Of course, men are welcome to write me as well.)