I am an experienced Dom seeking a partner who would like to submit to me in the bedroom.
Outside of the bedroom, I work full time at a job that I enjoy, bicycle, read, watch plays/movies, attend jazz performances, play Scrabble, cook, travel, visit art museums and hike. To add a dimension to the places I visit, at night I often read stories about the areas. Although, I don't own a TV, I sometimes watch movies on my heavily customized Mac.
All year I love hiking. In the area, I especially enjoy exploring Mt. Tam and Yosemite. When I'm not outside you can often find me in a museum. I'm a member of the De Young and the Academy of Sciences. I have lived in two other countries, which has provided a valuable external perspective, especially for understanding issues like healthcare in the US. I love SF's blend of ethnically distinct neighborhoods, topographically rugged parks, accessibility to great views and proximity to places that at least feel like the wilderness. That's why I settled here.
I have a liberal political view, read the Op-Ed page of the New York Times almost every day and am environmentally/health conscious. Twice a week you'll find me in the gym on the elliptical and lifting weights. Once a week I meditate with a Buddhist group.
I seek a partner who wishes to be submissive with me in the bedroom. In terms of D/s, my partners always have a great deal of power and likewise, I have a lot of power. When playing, I do not feel that they give me their power. Instead they give me the authority to direct that power or surrender that power to me. There is a subtle but important distinction between "power exchange" and what I'm describing. It's like when riding a horse, the horse is still powerful but the horse is allowing its rider to direct its energy or giving the rider part of its agency.
In addition to theory, I have also had a significant amount of experience. I've been in the "scene" since May 2004. Since then I've been in two successive, exclusive, long-term relationships for a total of more than four years. Both of the women submitted to me in the bedroom only. My former partners and I still communicate and occasionally see each other but not to play.
To learn about BDSM, I attended numerous classes and events. After classes I practiced what I learned. I've also been bound, caned, flogged, hooded, mummified, spiced (as in spice play), etc. This has given me a perspective on what the bottom is going through.
In addition, I took a male Dominant intensive taught by pro female Dominants. Much of the intensive was hands-on and the pro-Doms critiqued the student's technique, energy and awareness. I learned that being emotionally/mentally present during play is more important than technique. The feedback during the class was often harsh but I learned a great deal and am glad that I did it.
In August of 2015 I taught a class for Society of Janus on the subject of online dating. Although I'd been in the scene for more than 11 years it felt odd to me because I still feel like a beginner.
I take D/s and BDSM fairly seriously. I don't take myself very seriously though and when I make mistakes, I readily apologize. I always play with safe-words, use condoms, wash my toys, respect limits, etc. Also, I'm a member of The Society of Janus and had a mentor during my first year in the scene. References from women I've played with are available.
Photos are available upon request.