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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 4
Open relationship
Relationship Type
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Not at all
Buddhism and it’s important
Might want kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Non-monogamous. There, I said it! That can mean a lot of different things (and does not necessarily mean promiscuous). If it's not a red-flag deal-breaker right off the bat, and you'd like to discuss the details at the appropriate time, please read on.

I'm unusual, and I expect you will be unusual, too. I'm super-smart, for better and worse. I am contemplative, kind, deliberate and impulsive by turns, cerebral, intense, generous, and sometimes moody if I don't get my introvert recharging time.

I believe a long-term relationship has three elements:
1) we enjoy spending time together, day to day,
2) we are compatible in sex,
3) we want to build a joint life together.

"Dating" is the process of working from the first element toward the last. I have been in relationships that combined #1 and #3 (long marriage), and #1 and #2 (hot girlfriend), but the trifecta has so far eluded me.

So I'm looking for a woman with whom I can start at the beginning and see where it leads!
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm semi-retired and spend my time doing community organizing for emergency preparedness. I sing a bit, in a couple of community choirs.

At home, I track world affairs on a daily basis from the comfort of my kitchen, using the amazing devices they give us nowadays. I take care of my cat. I'm about to paint my living room.

I like to explore the world, but I don't like to do it alone. I love to go out and see something on the stage, walk around downtown and watch the people, come home and watch "Game of Thrones" or "Foyle's War." I'd like to travel: to see the Northern Lights and the Milky Way galaxy in a sky unobscured by stray light.
I’m really good at
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I wield a sharp spreadsheet, when necessary. Some people find my conversation interesting.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I am pleasant and polite: a good conversationalist, interested in other people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Blogs every day: Krugman, Greenwald ThinkProgress, Mondoweiss.

In literature: Conan Doyle is my all-time favorite. I love Holmes with his brilliant, anti-social, amoral, supremely penetrating mind which he deploys on the side of the angels.

Also: Dickens, Tolstoy, Dorothy Sayers, Conrad, Fitzgerald, Orwell, William Gibson, various sea and spy stories. Alan Watts for philosophy. Numerous translations of the Tao Te Ching and some Buddhist scripture.

Movies: Matrix, Fargo, Cabaret, Lion In Winter (O'Toole/Hepburn, not Stewart/Close), Repo Man, Philadelphia Story, Godfather (1 & 2) and, at Christmas, It's A Wonderful Life (I always shed a tear, though I know it's corny).

Music: I like live singing. I don't listen to a lot of recorded music. My formative influence was the Beatles, who occupy a special place in my personal universe.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dogs (other peoples', nowadays).
The Internet.
Comfy bed (flannel sheets).
Sunlight in the morning, when available.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The seed of light at the heart of darkness. The weird currents in the tides of history. When's my next rehearsal? Do I have a date? Is there any food in the house?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going out to see a movie or a play, jamming with my buddies, or watching something on the iPad. I have rehearsal several nights of the week, so a lot of my free time is during the day.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a good cook when I put my mind to it, but I don't give it enough effort.
You should message me if
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You know yourself pretty well and you want a new friendship with a mature, considerate man.