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28 Oxford, UK Man


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  • Ages 22–34
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Last online
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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
A little extra
Atheism, and very serious about it
Working on Ph.D program
Less than $20,000
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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*I find these hard to write without either being totally bland or sounding like a pretentious asshole. After years set to bland, I have now moved this summary to pretentious instead....*

Intensely intense.

I'm a grad student in philosophy, with a talent for pessimism, honesty, and asking the awkward questions, as well as a pop music obsessive and a very guilty meat eater.. If you're the sort of person who gets annoyed by people who can't distinguish between agreeing with someone's conclusion and thinking that they're argument is a good argument, and rages against the state of the world, but you also try to be decent and kind and unpretentious, dislike cruelty and love music/films/poetry with geeky, embarrassing, unpretentious passion, we'll probably get on well.

Note: OKCupid says that I'm 'more capitalistic' than other people,but I don't think that's really true. It's true that I'm not a socialist (except in the American sense where if you believe in government provision of healthcare, than your clearly a socialist, and probably a communist as well), and that a certain sort of dogmatic left-wing activist type of person annoys me, but I'm not gung-ho for free markets as the answer to everything either. I actually loathe the Conservative party and the current government, and am probably slightly to the left of Labour on most issues. Mostly I just think economics is really complicated and no one actually understands it well.
What I’m doing with my life
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Finishing my philosophy PhD. After that, I'm not sure what I want to do, since I'm no longer sure that I want to be an academic. Some of the other philosophy grads have founded an 'ethical careers organization', so I might go to them for advice. Might also teach English abroad for 6 months at some point, maybe in Japan, since I've had a friend who's doing that with his life at the moment, and he's become a super-interesting, person and had a great time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being honest with myself and others, writing philosophy, talking about the arts, getting drunk really fast at grad student house parties.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I smart and serious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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*Edit* Have noticed that this is a very *male* list, with a distinct lack of female artists in all categories. And very white as well, apart from the music. Oh well.

Books: The Brothers Karamazov

Pop: llmatic Bob Dylan Astral Weeks Kanye West Rolling Stones Marquee Moon, London's Calling, The Velvet Undergound, Ready to Die, Belle and Sebastian, The Beach Boys, The Beatles, Cry Me a River (the Timberlake song I mean), various amazing 60s pop songs (Be My Baby, Sittin' on the Dock of the Bay, Waterloo Sunset, She's Got You, Different Drum, Pressure Drop, Strychnine, etc.)
Classical: Mozart, Beethoven, The St. Matthew Passion, some Schubert songs.
Life of Oharu, Citizen Kane, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Passion of Joan of Arc, Persona, Annie Hall, This is Spinal Tap, Jules and Jim, Vertigo, The Godfather, Pulp Fiction, Goodfellas.

TV: The Simpsons (well, the first 7 seasons or so, before it became terrible), The Wire, The Sopranos (All American, don't let anyone tell you British TV is better, people who say that are usually Americans who a) never watch non-trashy stuff at home and b) haven't had to actually put up with the 'entertainment' offered by bbc one on any random night).

Food: I'm very, very fond of the Szechuan beef and glass noodle broth they do at Sojo, near the train station in Oxford. Also the giant bowls of Szechuan spicy pork noodles they do at the Red Star on Cowley. I'm sensing a theme here...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Laptop, ipod, cd collection, mp3 collection, Norton anthology of English lit vol.2 (I did at bit of Eng Lit at undergrad and we had to buy this-Loads of great poems, Wordsworth, Keats, Yeats, Eliot etc.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The philosophy of perception. What I should be doing with my life. How awesome X piece of music I just heard is. That I should be doing more work. What's 'the point of it all' (though this emphatically isn't the kind of philosophy I do for my PhD.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In the pub talking with either other philosophy people in Oxford, or my old friends from high school when I'm at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Think I'll leave this one ;)
You should message me if
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Your a woman of about my age, you live near Oxford, your honest and and you can hold an interesting conversation about art, politics, and the world around us.