I am only interested in connecting within an intentionally non-monogamous framework. I am not here to date towards a goal. I am loving and respectful but not romantic. I seek connection, sensation, pleasure, sex, sensuality, and power play. I seek to better myself and learn through experience.
My intention is to build serious friendships/relationships based on shared interests, desires, pleasure, and respect.
Let's create intentional vulnerable intimacy. With words... to start. No tiptoeing around with unverbalized expectations. I'm sick of all the bullshit.
There are many versions of me. One is happy and optimistic. One is dark and anxious and fearful. One is sweet and loving. One is aware of all the others.
Today's desire: I live near 32nd and Adeline in West Oakland and it would be lovely to meet new friends who live nearby.
I like polka dots and freckles, girls who resemble Justin Bieber, and women who love their bodies.
The hottest thing in the world is to be approached by a woman who enjoys the exhilaration of choosing to be vulnerable. The best man I can be is the most open form of myself. My intention is always to play fully in myself and my desires. I'll show you all my cards. I flirt a lot. I will always state my intentions upfront. Consent is very important.
I'm kind and loving. I'm socially conscious. I prefer to think of myself as queer, because there isn't a box for me, but the truth is I pass for straight. I'm too honest for the mainstream. I have no particular style. I'm addicted to coffee. I smoke a few cigarettes per day. I think about life creatively. I like to clean and cook. I have few possessions and don't need much material to be happy.
You should send me a message. Say hello and say something true. You should probably ask me out. I won't think you want to fuck me unless you say that you do, explicitly. We should probably meet for coffee, beer, whiskey, a walk, a bike ride, frisbee throwing, or the petting of doggies.
I am looking for women who are available to hang out M-F during the day in the East Bay and SF. I work many evenings and nights all week long. I can meet up some evenings too.
John Oliver and Russell Brand are generally emblematic of my moral compass.
Sometimes, I'm sexually dominant and am looking for submissive women who want to play. I'll qualify this by saying that there needs to be so much respect, trust, and chemistry for any power play to occur.
If you can be honest with yourself, and if you can be honest with me, I can hold space for you emotionally, and from that, if you articulate your desires, then I can handle you physically. This goes both ways.
I'm interested in meeting and playing with women who are confident and love themselves. I tend to date women who are older than me. I am attracted to women who are a bit androgynous.
I love holding hands and making out. I think tattoos are very sexy but I have none. I recently realized that my two favorite styles that women wear are soft butch and skirts with sneakers.
I communicate my feelings and expect you to be mature enough to communicate yours. I'm confident. I respect people. I love myself.
I have many friends with whom I share a wonderful love and respect. I love meeting new people. I like exploring new places. I believe a cafe is a much better place than a bar to meet a stranger.
These are my current practices and things that turn me on in other people:
- If it's not a 'Fuck Yes!,' then it's a 'No.'
- choosing the scariest option will probably yield the most positive change.
- Say 'Yes' to everything, within reason.
- Ask for what you want.
- Say what you mean. Fuck euphemisms, unless of course it could be funny.
New York transplant. Ithaca College graduate. Professional people person. Photographer. Theater usher. Driver.
I am a photographer and I love people. These are my Photos.
Above all, I love and respect women.