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49 F Concord, CA

I’m looking for

  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 43–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 15
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Hi! I'm nice, I think. Funny sometimes. I'm not a genius, or an imbecile. I love animals, and have a dog now. I'm real lucky in that I have loads of good friends and a family that's very close. In fact, my life is full. Now if I can find a guy who makes me laugh hard enough to give me a sideache I'll be GOLDEN.

Probably a good idea to mention that I am looking for a partner - not a buddy to play around with sexually. No judgement. Promise. I'm just looking for the whole package, not JUST sex, yeah? - So seriously, if you're twenty two, twenty three, or twenty....anything, really I am too old for you. If you're even younger, well, maybe I'm a friend of your moms, so probably better to pass me by, yes? Please, I'm askin', don't write to see if I want to "hook up", "get a massage", "take your virginity" or any variation thereof. I'm so sorry, I know this might come across as bitchy, although at the moment I am kinda laughing about it, but I've just had - one - too many of those and it's just a bit much. Yikes!

Conversely, if I've looked at your profile and have not written it doesn't necessarily mean I'm not interested. It could mean that I've seen the age range you're looking for and I fall outside of it. If that's the case I'll probably keep quiet. Just so you know.

Believing the best about people is easy for me. Gets me into trouble sometimes, but I'm sure that's true for a lot of us, right? I like that I do this, and I feel that with the right guy believing the best is gonna be the right thing to have done. So I'm going to keep doing it. Nyah.

I'm pretty typical in lots of ways. Maybe less so in others. Just looking for the right guy now. It would make me real happy to have someone I can't wait to see when my work day is over.

....and for him to feel the same way about me.

When it comes to who I'm looking for it's pretty basic. A super good, warm hearted guy who I think is cute, and who doesn't take himself too seriously. Irreverence is big with me. I'd love to meet someone who will help me relax and get out of my head.

Would be better if you are not a couch potato. Likewise, I don't need a guy who's doing triathalons every weekend. But I am pretty healthy, and it would be great if you could run up a flight of stairs without falling down and wetting yourself.

I'm not obsessed with whether or not you know a lot about wine, the "finer things in life", whatever those are, or whether or not you're rich. - That stuff is all wonderful. I'm not knocking it at all. It's always good to learn new things. It's just not necessary for me to be happy. Like I wrote above, I just want someone I think is cute, funny, and who can help me lift really heavy things sometimes. Oh, and be available to have dinner with me on my birthday.

So there ya go. Lemme know if you think any of this sounds good, yeah?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm self employed. A homeowner (hopefully that will never change). I pretty much work, and spend time with friends and family. I'd love to travel, but like so many at this time I'm focusing on the basics.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Pretty good at my work, which includes gardening, painting, picture framing, some interior decorating. Basically all sorts of unnecessary things that make life prettier. Oh, and I think I'm good at making people feel welcome.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm funny, I think. Loud sometimes. Here's a joke; Why are there so many tree lined streets in Paris? Answer.... Because German soldiers like to march in the shade. If you're too young to get that joke, you are probably too young for me.... but thank you for reading. I'm guessing that American, Australian and English guys will like that joke. French guys, probably not so much. Sorry French guys.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books; The Historian (don't be impressed, it's a book about Dracula... creepy), and Team of Rivals (about Abe Lincoln and his cabinet. REALLY good). Frankenstein is heartbreaking if you've never read it. Letter to a Christian Nation is great. Just read The Psychopath Test, which was fun. I finished Breakfast of Champions a while ago. Good, and kinda sad.

Music; The Beatles, Bach, Beethoven, Mozart, Debussy, The Black Keys, One Eskimo, BRMC, Black Crows, Anjulie, Led Zeppelin, Corrine Bailey Rae, old Elton John, Tool, Stevie Wonder, Foo Fighters, Marvin Gaye, Crowded House, Lynyrd Skynyrd (yeah.... I said it - go ahead and make fun). I want to learn more about jazz.

Movies; To Kill a Mockingbird, Iron Giant, Sense and Sensibility, The Departed, A Christmas Story, Time Bandits, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Seabiscuit, Spinal Tap, Star Wars and Empire, A Midsummer Night's Dream, The Hangover. I love scary movies. True Grit was terrific, as was the King's Speech. Larry Crowne was darling. I loved The Help. Drive was good. Crazy Stupid Love was a lot of fun. Midnight In Paris was lovely! Loved The Avengers, Batman was fun. The Most Exotic Marigold Hotel was sweet. Loved Star Trek and am excited to see the new one. Iron Man 3 was a lot of fun! Argo was very good. Godzilla was a really good time. American Hustle was great, and I liked Rush, too. Missed out on most of the movies nominated for best picture this year.

On TV I like Archer, The Daily Show, Colbert Report, American Dad. I watch a lot of BBC America. I like Game of Thrones on HBO. Oh, and am very sad that the first season of True Detective is about to end! Have to admit, I do like The Big Bang Theory.

Food; I love Italian, Thai, burgers and fries. Pizza is great. Real Mexican food is delicious (mom is Mexican, so I know that real Mexican food is not tacos and burritos). Some friends took me to Michael Mina for my birthday, OH MY GOD..... best meal I've had in my LIFE.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music in the car.
My garden.
Science fiction movie references (my brother told me not to mention Star Wars, but I think those references are funny, so there).
Lulu, my doggy
Ricky Gervais (I hope he lives forEVER).
My mom (I hope she does too!!!! - in fact I could do without all the other things if I could make that last one happen).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to solve problems. Why OKC has women listed as potential matches for me (is there something I do not know about myself?) - and WHY one of them (who is lovely) is giving the finger in her primary picture. Also, what I'd do if I won the lottery. I would take one LONG trip to Italy, or Spain, or Ireland, oh! - or GREECE (clearly I need to win the lottery) because they all seem wonderful and I've never been to any of those places. And since I'd have money left over I'd buy a PONY! And get a bigger garden. Mmmmmm, nice.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home working (please don't be disappointed), or occasionally out with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I get embarrassed if I cry in front of people. I'm a sucker for crew cuts with sideburns. - And sometimes when I'm laughing really hard I do that snorty thing. So there you go...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. want to find someone to be nice to, and who will be nice to you. And guys, I know this is a long profile, sorry, but here's the thing, I do want someone who makes me feel like I'm the girl. - Not saying you have to be some super macho guy who's completely out of touch with his feelings and never cries. That would be bad. I'm just a little tomboyish and somehow it seems like I've met lots of guys who are "tomgirlish" - which leaves me feeling like a (very small) lumberjack. If you worry about your diet, breaking a sweat, or the color of your jeans more than I do.... that could be a thing. Doesn't mean you aren't a GREAT guy - just probably not my.... great guy. - But still GREAT!