Happy to interact with people who are different to me - life is interesting, but dull when driven by narcissism and needing to "belong" only through mirror images. Except for right-wing people. You can all get fucked. By someone else.
To be honest, I don't hang out with gay men much - at all - and generally find them far too willing to make a life out of their trauma. I like being kind to myself. And I also like being kind to others. I'm grateful I have this emotional capacity. I'm not perfect, but I try to be the best I can be, and constantly evolve.