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Because_TheNight

43 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Judaism
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I'm a man continually in the pursuit of the soulful and the intimate--whether it is in my relationships, my work and art, or my fun. I live to be wonderful for the people I adore and to be there when they need me most--without judgments.

I'm a dirty sweet champion of chivalry who knows an amazing woman when I encounter one and knows how to treat her accordingly. I love smart and loathe pretentious; reality, not theory; style, not trends; Goddesses, not princesses.

New York City, Rome, New Orleans, Paris, Northern California and Burning Man (yes, Burning Man) are the places on earth that I feel most at home. I laugh often--deeply, irreverently, and sometimes profanely, and I'm a hell of a lot funnier in person, even when I'm being a wiseass. (And sometimes, especially when I'm being a wiseass.) I'm a very good man to have along for the ride and I've been around the block a time or two. And while I can be cynical about some things, I'm never cynical about the transformative power of love. Even when it hurts.
What I’m doing with my life
Building my career as a commercial, fashion, fetish, burlesque and fine art photographer after many years in the music business. Making a beautiful home for myself in Brooklyn after almost two decades in the East Village. Being there for my father as he deals with being 87. Developing my skills as an intuitive, energy worker and healer. Creating my financial future. Finding the beauty and humor in as much of everything as possible, even (and especially) in the dark stuff.
I’m really good at
...making images, driving (especially a stick shift), solidity, listening, shooting pool, naming that tune, making a woman feel beautiful, distinguishing the real in any situation, finding the humor in anything and everything, choosing friends, compiling a soul mix, spoiling, knowing when to call someone on their bullshit, lighting for photography, drinking whiskey, following energy, knowing when to be good and knowing when to be bad.
The first things people usually notice about me
My presence. The kindness of my eyes and my dimple. And the very mischievous twinkle in my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's just say life would be a lot less beautiful without the following: The Rolling Stones, Coleman Hawkins, Philip Roth, photo books by Walker Evans, Larry Sultan and Eugene Richards, Bruce Springsteen, "Dusty In Memphis," Joan Didion's "Slouching Towards Bethlehem," Count Basie, Sleater-Kinney, Hunter S. Thompson, anything with Monica Bellucci, Raymond Carver, "Casablanca," Sex Pistols, Taschen erotica, Violator, Woody Allen, Diana Ross, Duke Ellington, "The Godfather," Pavement, Al Green, Frank Sinatra, Candi Staton, Billie Holiday, Bob Dylan, "The Great Gatsby," Def Jam 1984-1994 box set, Hemingway's short stories, "The Little Prince," "Dr. Strangelove," and last but certainly not least, "Airplane." Andrew Sullivan's blog is a mandatory everyday read.

Food: Anything made with love. Except raisins. I hate raisins. Bad experience when I was 4. I never got over it.

Almost Definite Dealbreakers: You passionately loving the Dave Matthews Band, Broadway musicals and/or Ayn Rand. I find them each to be somewhere in between horrible and insufferable. No judgments, we're just almost definitely not a match.
The six things I could never do without
A good, vintage leather jacket.
At least one great camera.
Innuendo, preferably salacious.
iPod.
Soul.
Laughter--the kind that comes from deep in the belly.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to continually open and follow my heart.

Creating a signature style of photography.

Sex and sexuality.

Where I want to adventure with my new bicycle.

Falling head-over-heels, crazy in love with the right woman and then becoming a very devoted husband and father.

How to navigate a post-modern world when I don't really care much for post-modernism.

How to decorate my new apartment.

The possibility of living somewhere else other than New York.
On a typical Friday night I am
Avoiding the amateurs, wherever they may be.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've got a thing for heels.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...you love yourself (on most days, at least).
...you're connected to soul and spirit.
...you enjoy being cool, but you prefer being joyous and passionate.
...you're a loving, seductive, compassionate, and nurturing badass; enticingly feminine, who values elegance and vulgarity in equal measure.
...you're kinky or are very open to it.
...you've been known to light up a room when you enter it.