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Because_TheNight

43 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:12pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Judaism, and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I'm a man continually in the pursuit of the soulful; whether in it's my relationships, my work, or my art. I live to be wonderful for the people I adore and to be there when they need me most--without judgments.

I'm a dirty sweet champion of chivalry who knows an amazing woman when I encounter one and knows how to treat her accordingly. I love smart and loathe pretentious; reality, not theory; style, not trends; Goddesses, not princesses. Otis Redding, not Morrissey.

New York City, Rome, New Orleans, Paris, Big Sur and Burning Man (yes, Burning Man) are the places on earth that I feel most at home. I laugh often--deeply, irreverently, and sometimes profanely, and I'm a hell of a lot funnier in person, even when I'm being snarky. (And sometimes, especially when I'm being snarky.) I'm a very good man to have along for the ride and I've been around the block a time or two. And while I can be cynical about some things, I'm never cynical about the transformative power of love. Even when it hurts.
What I’m doing with my life
Starting my career as a commercial, fashion, fetish, burlesque and fine art photographer after twenty years in the record business. Making a beautiful home for myself in Brooklyn after a long time in the East Village. Being there for my beloved father as he deals with being 86. Creating my financial future. Finding the beauty and humor in as much of everything as possible, even (and especially) in the dark stuff.
I’m really good at
...driving (especially a stick shift), being a rock, listening, shooting pool, naming that tune, distinguishing the real in any situation, finding the humor in anything and everything, choosing friends, compiling a soul mix, spoiling a woman, knowing when to call someone on their bullshit, lighting, drinking whiskey, following energy, knowing when to be good and knowing when to be bad.
The first things people usually notice about me
My presence. The kindness of my eyes and my dimple. And the very mischievous twinkle in my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's just say life would be a lot less beautiful without the following: The Rolling Stones, Coleman Hawkins, Philip Roth, photo books by Walker Evans, Larry Sultan and Eugene Richards, Bruce Springsteen, "Dusty In Memphis," Joan Didion's "Slouching Towards Bethlehem," Count Basie, Sleater-Kinney, Hunter S. Thompson, anything with Monica Bellucci, Raymond Carver, "Casablanca," Sex Pistols, Taschen erotica, Violator, Woody Allen, Diana Ross, Duke Ellington, "The Godfather," Pavement, Al Green, Sinatra, Candi Staton, Billie Holiday, Bob Dylan, "The Great Gatsby," Def Jam 1984-1994 box set, Hemingway's short stories, "The Little Prince," "Dr. Strangelove," and last but certainly not least, "Airplane." Andrew Sullivan's blog is a mandatory everyday read.

Almost Definite Dealbreakers: You passionately loving the Dave Matthews Band, Broadway musicals and/or Ayn Rand. I find them each to be somewhere in between horrible and insufferable. No judgments, we're just almost definitely not a match.
The six things I could never do without
A good, vintage leather jacket.
A camera, preferably a Nikon.
Innuendo, preferably salacious.
Honor.
Soul.
Laughter--the kind that comes from deep in the belly.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Creating a signature style of photography.

How to decorate my new apartment.

In what way is my trainer going to kick my ass this week?

Sex and sexuality.

Becoming head-over-heels, crazy in love, and then becoming a very devoted husband and father.

How to continually open and follow my heart.

The possibility of living somewhere else other than New York.
On a typical Friday night I am
Avoiding the amateurs, wherever they may be.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've got a thing for heels.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...you love yourself (on most days, at least).
...you're connected to soul and spirit.
...you enjoy being cool, but you prefer being joyous and passionate.
...you're a loving, seductive, compassionate, and nurturing badass; enticingly feminine, who values elegance and vulgarity in equal measure.
...you're kinky and into (or open to) power exchange.
...you've been known to light up a room when you enter it.