Because_TheNight
45 Brooklyn, NY
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My self-summary
**Note: I am planning to move out of New York City sometime in the late spring of 2016 to head west. Therefore, promising the possibility of a long term relationship is something I can't do right now. But I can offer the possibility of a very special, fun and impactful time together, no matter how long (or short) it is.**

I'm a man continually in the pursuit of the soulful--whether it's in my relationships, my work and art, or my fun. I'm very much a modern man with a lot of old school values; dignity, honor and integrity matter a hell of a lot to me, even if there's little that's conventional about me.

I'm a dirty sweet champion of chivalry who knows an amazing woman when I encounter one and knows how to treat her accordingly. I love real and loathe pretentious; reality, not theory; style, not trends; Goddesses, not princesses. (I very much revere and worship the Divine Feminine.)

Rome, New Orleans, Paris, Brooklyn, Northern California and Burning Man (yes, Burning Man) are the places on earth that I feel most at home. I laugh often--deeply, irreverently, sometimes profanely, and I can find the humor in practically anything. And while I can be cynical about some things, I'm never cynical about the transformative power of love. Even when it hurts.
What I’m doing with my life
Building my career as a photographer after many years in the music industry. Nurturing my connection to an ever-growing community of incredible people out west. Growing myself spiritually. Exploring the darkness, whether it's within or external. Working to become the man I want to be. Learning how to ski. Getting fit after a year of family stress hell. Maturing as a man while remaining very young at heart. Finding the beauty and humor in as much of everything as possible, even (and especially) in the dark stuff. Moving my body and moving energy.
I’m really good at
...making images, listening, shooting pool, being there for my friends, driving (especially a stick shift), choosing friends, kissing, sensing light and shadow, dealing with a crisis, knowing when to keep my mouth shut, hugging, compiling a soul mix, seeing through bullshit, detailing why Louboutins are far superior to Jimmy Choos, sensing energy, knowing when to lead, knowing when to follow and knowing when to go together.
The first things people usually notice about me
My energy and presence. The kindness of my eyes and my dimple. And the very mischievous twinkle in my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's just say life would be significantly less beautiful without the following: The Rolling Stones, Coleman Hawkins, House music, Philip Roth, photo books by Walker Evans, Larry Sultan and Eugene Richards, Bruce Springsteen, "Dusty In Memphis," Joan Didion's "Slouching Towards Bethlehem," Aretha Franklin, Count Basie, Television's "Marquee Moon," Anthony Bourdain, Lee Burridge, Hunter S. Thompson, Bernard Malamud's "The Fixer," anything with Monica Bellucci, Raymond Carver, "Casablanca," David Halberstam, Sex Pistols, Taschen erotica, Sam & Dave, Woody Allen, Duke Ellington, "The Godfather," Pavement, Al Green, Robert Caro's books on LBJ, "Box Of Rain," Frank Sinatra, Candi Staton, Billie Holiday, Bob Dylan, "The Great Gatsby," Hemingway's short stories, "The Little Prince," "Dr. Strangelove," and last but certainly not least, "Young Frankenstein."

If you find this half as beautiful as I do, we might stand a chance: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_iLaKvsL-o

Food: Anything made with love. Except raisins. I hate raisins. Bad experience when I was 4. I never got over it.

Almost Definite Dealbreakers: You passionately loving the Dave Matthews Band, Broadway musicals and/or Ayn Rand. I find them each to be somewhere in between horrible and insufferable, and in my experience, they signify a major lack of compatibility. No judgments, we're just almost definitely not a match.
The six things I could never do without
A good, 70's style vintage leather jacket.
A top of the line Nikon.
The energy of the Divine Feminine.
Air Conditioning.
A connection to Spirit, Magic, and Soul.
A future with some fun in it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Creating a signature style of photography.

Loved ones.

Sex, sexuality, and kink.

Living on and for purpose.

How to navigate a post-modern world when I don't really care much for post-modernism.

Leaving New York and heading west.
On a typical Friday night I am
Avoiding the amateurs, wherever they may be.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My father died in November of 2014. (On my birthday, no less.) We were very, very close; he raised me alone from the time my mother died when I was 6. It was his time to go (he was 87 and ailing), but as you can imagine, it's been an interesting and transformational period.

One other thing: When you click on the "personality" part of my profile, pay attention to it. I can't speak for OK Cupid's algorithm for everyone, but they sure got me pretty much right. Yes, that also means the "more kinky" part.
You should message me if
...you love yourself (on most days, at least).
...you're connected to soul and spirit.
...you enjoy being cool, but you prefer being joyful and passionate.
...you're a loving, seductive, compassionate, and nurturing badass; enticingly feminine, who values elegance and vulgarity in equal measure.
...you're dirty and sweet, too.
...you've been known to light up a room when you enter it.
...you believe in magic.
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