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Because_TheNight

43 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 29–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:50am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a man continually in the pursuit of the soulful--whether it's in my relationships, my work and art, or my fun. I'm very much a modern man with a lot of old school values; integrity, honor and dignity matter a hell of a lot to me, even if there's little that's conventional about me.

I'm a dirty sweet champion of chivalry who knows an amazing woman when I encounter one and knows how to treat her accordingly. I love smart and loathe pretentious; reality, not theory; style, not trends; Goddesses, not princesses.

Rome, New Orleans, Paris, Northern California and Burning Man (yes, Burning Man) are the places on earth that I feel most at home. (New York used to be at the top of that list, but my relationship with the city is changing.) I laugh often--deeply, irreverently, and sometimes profanely, and I can find the humor in practically anything. And while I can be cynical about some things, I'm never cynical about the transformative power of love. Even when it hurts.

To make it very simple, I'm just looking for my best friend who I can be really fucking sweet and strong and loving with in the pursuit of building an ever more intimate and amazing life together. And to whom I can also make a very large contribution to her shoe collection.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Building my career as a commercial, fashion, fetish, burlesque and fine art photographer after many years in the music business. Making a beautiful home for myself in Brooklyn after almost two decades in the East Village. Being there for my father as he deals with being 87. Developing my connection to Spirit. Creating my financial future. Finding the beauty and humor in as much of everything as possible, even (and especially) in the dark stuff. Continually evolving and growing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...making images, driving (especially a stick shift), listening, shooting pool, naming that tune, making the woman I adore feel beautiful, distinguishing the real in any situation, choosing friends, dealing with a crisis, compiling a soul mix, seeing through bullshit, sensing energy, knowing when to lead, knowing when to follow and knowing when to walk together.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My energy. The kindness of my eyes and my dimple. And the very mischievous twinkle in my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Let's just say life would be significantly less beautiful without the following: The Rolling Stones, Coleman Hawkins, Philip Roth, photo books by Walker Evans, Larry Sultan and Eugene Richards, Bruce Springsteen, "Dusty In Memphis," Joan Didion's "Slouching Towards Bethlehem," Count Basie, Lee Burridge, Hunter S. Thompson, anything with Monica Bellucci, Raymond Carver, "Casablanca," David Halberstam, Sex Pistols, Taschen erotica, Violator, Woody Allen, Diana Ross, Duke Ellington, "The Godfather," Pavement, Al Green, Robert Caro's books on LBJ, Frank Sinatra, Candi Staton, Billie Holiday, Bob Dylan, "The Great Gatsby," Def Jam 1984-1994 box set, Hemingway's short stories, "The Little Prince," "Dr. Strangelove," and last but certainly not least, "Airplane." Andrew Sullivan's blog is a mandatory everyday read.

If you find this half as beautiful as I do, we might stand a chance: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_iLaKvsL-o

Loving this might help, too: https://soundcloud.com/robot-heart/lee-burridge-robot-heart-burning-man-2013 (It gets particularly great at around the 2hr15min mark.)

Food: Anything made with love. Except raisins. I hate raisins. Bad experience when I was 4. I never got over it.

Almost Definite Dealbreakers: You passionately loving the Dave Matthews Band, Broadway musicals and/or Ayn Rand. I find them each to be somewhere in between horrible and insufferable. No judgments, we're just almost definitely not a match.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good, 70's style vintage leather jacket.
A top of the line Nikon.
Innuendo, preferably salacious.
Something and someone to be passionate about.
Dignity.
A future with some fun in it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to continually open and live from my heart.

Creating a signature style of photography.

Leaving New York.

Sex and sexuality.

Going back to Bikram.

Falling head-over-heels, crazy in love with the right woman and creating a beautiful partnership with her.

How to navigate a post-modern world when I don't really care much for post-modernism.

How to decorate my new apartment.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Avoiding the amateurs, wherever they may be.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a unicorn.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you love yourself (on most days, at least).
...you're connected to soul and spirit.
...you enjoy being cool, but you prefer being joyful and passionate.
...you're a loving, seductive, compassionate, and nurturing badass; enticingly feminine, who values elegance and vulgarity in equal measure.
...you're dirty and sweet, too.
...you've been known to light up a room when you enter it.