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Because_TheNight

44 Brooklyn, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight, Sapiosexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Status
Single
Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a man continually in the pursuit of the soulful--whether it's in my relationships, my work and art, or my fun. I'm very much a modern man with a lot of old school values; integrity, honor and dignity matter a hell of a lot to me, even if there's little that's conventional about me.

I'm a dirty sweet champion of chivalry who knows an amazing woman when I encounter one and knows how to treat her accordingly. I love real and loathe pretentious; reality, not theory; style, not trends; Goddesses, not princesses.

Rome, New Orleans, Paris, Brooklyn, Northern California and Burning Man (yes, Burning Man) are the places on earth that I feel most at home. I laugh often--deeply, irreverently, and sometimes profanely, and I can find the humor in practically anything. And while I can be cynical about some things, I'm never cynical about the transformative power of love. Even when it hurts.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Building my career as a commercial, fashion, fetish and fine art photographer after many years in the music business. Nurturing my connection to an ever-growing community of incredible people out west. Growing myself spiritually. Learning how to ski. Getting fit after a year of family stress hell. Maturing as a man while remaining very young at heart. Finding the beauty and humor in as much of everything as possible, even (and especially) in the dark stuff. Dancing. Moving my body and moving energy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...making images, listening, shooting pool, being there for my people, making the woman I adore feel beautiful and cared for, driving (especially a stick shift), choosing friends, kissing, sensing light and shadow, dealing with a crisis, knowing when to keep my mouth shut, hugging, compiling a soul mix, seeing through bullshit, explaining why Louboutins are far superior to Jimmy Choos, sensing energy, knowing when to lead, knowing when to follow and knowing when to walk together.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My energy. The kindness of my eyes and my dimple. And the very mischievous twinkle in my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Let's just say life would be significantly less beautiful without the following: The Rolling Stones, Coleman Hawkins, Philip Roth, photo books by Walker Evans, Larry Sultan and Eugene Richards, Bruce Springsteen, "Dusty In Memphis," Joan Didion's "Slouching Towards Bethlehem," Aretha Franklin, Count Basie, Lee Burridge, Hunter S. Thompson, anything with Monica Bellucci, Raymond Carver, "Casablanca," David Halberstam, Sex Pistols, Taschen erotica, Otis Redding, Woody Allen, Duke Ellington, "The Godfather," Pavement, Al Green, Robert Caro's books on LBJ, Frank Sinatra, Candi Staton, Billie Holiday, Bob Dylan, "The Great Gatsby," Hemingway's short stories, "The Little Prince," "Dr. Strangelove," and last but certainly not least, "Young Frankenstein." Andrew Sullivan's blog is a mandatory everyday read.

If you find this half as beautiful as I do, we might stand a chance: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_iLaKvsL-o

Loving this might help, too: https://soundcloud.com/robot-heart/lee-burridge-robot-heart-burning-man-2013 (It gets particularly great at around the 2hr15min mark.)

Food: Anything made with love. Except raisins. I hate raisins. Bad experience when I was 4. I never got over it.

Almost Definite Dealbreakers: You passionately loving the Dave Matthews Band, Broadway musicals and/or Ayn Rand. I find them each to be somewhere in between horrible and insufferable, and in my experience, they signify a major lack of compatibility. No judgments, we're just almost definitely not a match.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good, 70's style vintage leather jacket.
A top of the line Nikon.
Lasciviousness
Air Conditioning
A connection to Spirit, Magic, and Soul.
A future with some fun in it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Creating a signature style of photography.

Loved ones.

Sex, sexuality, poly and kink.

How to continually open and live from my heart.

Finding real love with the right woman and creating a beautiful partnership with her.

Living on purpose.

How to navigate a post-modern world when I don't really care much for post-modernism.

The possibility of living somewhere other than NYC.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Avoiding the amateurs, wherever they may be.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My father died in November of 2014. (On my birthday, no less.) We were very, very close; he raised me from the time my mother died when I was 6. It was his time to go (he was 87), but as you can imagine, I'm definitely going through something.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you love yourself (on most days, at least).
...you're connected to soul and spirit.
...you enjoy being cool, but you prefer being joyful and passionate.
...you're a loving, seductive, compassionate, and nurturing badass; enticingly feminine, who values elegance and vulgarity in equal measure.
...you're dirty and sweet, too.
...you've been known to light up a room when you enter it.
...you believe in magic.