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DemiPersona

32 M London, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:02pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
My name is Alastair, and I'm about to defy the popular myth that it's impossible to sum yourself up in one of these things.

Londoner with a propensity for wanderlust. Fortunately I've stumbled into a career that supports this impulse.

I see a lot of people describing themselves as 'sapiosexual' on here. I would too if I didn't think it would make me sound like a massive prick.

I'm told that OKC is primarily for hook-ups, but hook-ups with the respectability of dating attached. That's fine by me but I intend to be open and honest: I prefer my independence over romance, at least for the time being.

As such I'm mainly here to meet like-minds who also want to explore eroticism and intimacy, share experiences and make the most out of our fortunate but brief existence. That doesn't mean I'm a mindless, humourless, sex-addict... it just means that I know what I need right now, and what I need is a woman who finds the idea of destroying a bedroom with me appealing and whose post-coital conversation extends beyond how wasted they got last weekend.

N.B. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ONE NIGHT STANDS. Rather, something more lasting and intimate. Ideally some kind of friendship would co-exist with, and even feed into, our physical connection. Well, a man can dream...

I find that the best sex is a blizzard of intense carnality, a shifting balance of power and control, people working both together and for themselves. I'm rough within reason. Love toys and new experiences. I tend towards being Dom but am by no means set in that role and a certain amount of push-back from my partner is always welcome.

I'm not nearly as robotic and one track minded as the above might make me seem. I am a feminist. I value an intelligent, inquiring and open mind - but not so open that your brain has fallen out. Most of all, humour - preferably bone-dry and black as night.
What I’m doing with my life
Former money grubber, currently seeking atonement for my sins by reading difficult books in a variety of isolated locations.
I’m really good at
Almost everything. Terrible in bed though.
The first things people usually notice about me
Nothing. As long as I stay in the jungle and don't move, my freckles act as near-perfect camouflage.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
One of each to keep it simple (and avoid partaking in the high-brow pissing contest of intellectual worthiness).

Books: Mating - Norman Rush
Movies: Festen - Thomas Vinterberg
Shows: Girls - Lena Dunham
Music: Lucius - Lucius
Food: Fondant Chocolat - Me

Other sources of knowledge/entertainment (slight descent into aforementioned pissing contest; damn my hubris):

- Magazine type things: London Review of Books, The New Yorker, The Economist, Private Eye.

- Blogs and websites: The Conversation, Project Syndicate, Conscience of a Liberal, argh... so many; I'm constantly behind on my reading.

- Podcasts: Thinking Allowed, In Our Time, This American Life, This is... Interesting, RadioLab, Analysis, Left Right and Centre, The Partially Examined Life.

A note on TED talks: Once an addict, now reformed. If you're trying to learn from them, you're doing it wrong.
The six things I could never do without
Intimacy
Empathy
Eroticism
Paradox
The Unknown
Coastlines, The-Point-of-No-Return, Revelation, Deep-fried ice-cream - border-areas of stark transition.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Pushing as deep as you can handle while grasping your slender throat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There's a thin line between pleasure and pain, and in my quest for one I don't mind occasionally stepping into the other.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You have no fixed idea of what you want out of this except to explore eroticism and sensuality with someone of like mind (and have a laugh while you're at it).

or,

You like the content of my tumblr (NSFW): http://per-oculi-feminae.tumblr.com/

or,

You're Tilda Swinton, or a curiously attractive female version of Will Self.