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32 M London, UK

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:02pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
... about to disprove the popular myth that it's impossible to sum yourself up in one of these things.

Londoner with a propensity for wanderlust. Fortunately I've stumbled into a career that supports this impulse.

I see a lot of people describing themselves as 'sapiosexual' on here. I would too if I didn't think it would make me sound like a massive prick.

They say - 'they' being the hardened veterans - that OKC is primarily for hook-ups, but hook-ups with the respectability of dating attached. That's fine by me but I intend to be open and honest: I prefer my independence over romance, at least for the time being.

As such I'm mainly here to meet like-minds who also want to explore eroticism and intimacy, share experiences and make the most out of our fortunate but brief existence. That doesn't mean I'm a mindless, humourless, sex-addict... it just means that I know what I need right now, and what I need is a woman who finds the idea of destroying a bedroom with me appealing and whose post-coital conversation extends beyond how wasted they got last weekend.

N.B. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ONE NIGHT STANDS. Rather, something more lasting and intimate. Ideally some kind of friendship would co-exist with, and even feed into, our physical connection. Well, a man can dream...

I find that the best sex is a blizzard of intense carnality, a shifting balance of power and control, people working both together and for themselves. I'm rough within reason. Love toys and new experiences. I tend towards being Dom but am by no means set in that role and a certain amount of push-back from my partner is always welcome.

I'm not nearly as robotic and one track minded as the above might make me seem. I am a feminist. I value an intelligent, inquiring and open mind - but not so open that your brain has fallen out. Most of all, humour - preferably bone-dry and black as night.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Former money grubber, currently seeking atonement for my sins by reading difficult books in a variety of isolated locations.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Almost everything. Terrible in bed though.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Nothing. As long as I stay in the jungle and don't move, my freckles act as near-perfect camouflage.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
One of each to keep it simple (and avoid partaking in the high-brow pissing contest of intellectual worthiness).

Books: Mating - Norman Rush
Movies: Festen - Thomas Vinterberg
Shows: Last Week Tonight - Jon Oliver
Music: Lucius - Lucius
Food: Fondant Chocolat - Me

Other sources of knowledge/entertainment (slight descent into aforementioned pissing contest; damn my hubris):

- Magazine type things: London Review of Books, The New Yorker, The Economist, Private Eye.

- Blogs and websites: The Conversation, Project Syndicate, Conscience of a Liberal, argh... so many; I'm constantly behind on my reading.

- Podcasts: The Bugle, Very Bad Wizards, Thinking Allowed, In Our Time, This American Life, This is... Interesting, RadioLab, Analysis, Left Right and Centre, The Partially Examined Life.

A note on the universally loved TED talk: Once an addict, now reformed. If you're trying to learn from them, you're doing it wrong.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Unknown
Coastlines, The-Point-of-No-Return, Revelation, Deep-fried ice-cream - border-areas of stark transition.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Pushing as deep as you can handle while grasping your slender throat.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
There's a thin line between pleasure and pain, and in my quest for one I don't mind occasionally stepping into the other.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have no fixed idea of what you want out of this except to explore eroticism and sensuality with someone of like mind (and have a laugh while you're at it).


You like the content of my tumblr (NSFW):


You're Tilda Swinton, or a curiously attractive female version of Will Self.