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Galvanic_Calm

41 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, French (Okay), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I noticed a while back that the strongest bar in my 'Personality' section is MORE SLOPPY! How did they figure that out??! I tried to skip all those questions! ... OKC is sorta amazing, ... except I don't think I'm very competitive at all, which is the 3rd bar ... Anyway, yeah, when I live alone, I am pretty sloppy. But when others are sharing my space, I work hard to respect their needs. And if you like organizing stuff, I'm always happy for help with that. OK, moving on. And forgive me, I'm pretty verbose.

I got home in early May from 15 weeks in Nicaragua. (After traveling around the U.S. for most of the Fall.) In Nicaragua, I was studying permaculture and teaching English. Now I have to get used to having good salads and a wide variety of beer again. I've also forgotten how to cross the street by the signal lights, because there are none in most of Nicaragua--please hold my hand if necessary.

Nonviolent/Compassionate Communication is an amazing relationship tool/technology that could change your life. (OK, that makes it sound like a cult, or like I'm selling something, but it's not/I'm not.) Seriously, check it out. It's a way to solve the hardest political negotiating problems as well minor personal stuff--really terrific. CNVC.org

I care a lot. About a lot of things. Maybe I could be called opinionated. I've limited myself to four bumper stickers because a wall-papered car dilutes the message.

However, I am also willing to listen--to ALMOST anyone--and I seek out opportunities to do so. I'm continuing to improve my emotional literacy, which comes in handy every day.

I wear my glasses nearly all the time because I like to associate myself with the stereotypes of people in spectacles. Seriously. I lost mine on the beach in Mexico and went without just fine for a month. But now they're back on.

When it comes to lots of subjects, I know just enough to be dangerous (or to provide help on pub trivia teams). Not sports though, aside from basic rules, I know almost nothing about team sports.

I try to be the most thoughtful, caring, ethical, spiritual atheist I can be.

The collections of attached photos also show a bit more about me...
What I’m doing with my life
For six years I taught 6th-8th grade science at a low-income school in Portland. I'm now at a super-exciting transition phase to perhaps a different sort of teaching career. I'm developing a pattern of spending my Summers in places where I can study/practice Spanish. (But not this year--I just got home!)

UPDATE: I've been teaching high school science since September. It's fun that the kids are asking deeper, more challenging questions. But new jobs are always tons of work.

I often forget/don't bother to log off OKC--so I'm not REALLY here 100 hours per week. Maybe 90.
I’m really good at
...explaining how the world works.

And listening. Well, I'm pretty good at listening and I'm working on making those skills even better.
The first things people usually notice about me
I can't even count the number of people who've written "I don't know, you tell me!" in this space. Maybe the question should instead be, "Which of your own personal characteristics do you cherish most?" to which I would reply "my open mind."

I've taken a few tests that appear inappropriate, such as "What kind of girl are you?" and "What kind of man turns you on?" ... But, see, if your answer matches what I've engineered my answer to show, that's a good sign.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Air, Blur, Cornershop, Dido, Ella Fitzgerald, Flaming Lips, Grateful Dead, Howlin' Wolf, Iris DeMent, J5, Kinky, Lyle Lovett, Macy Gray, New Order, Ozomatli, Pretenders, Q???, R. E. M., Steve Earle, They Might Be Giants, U2, Vega-Suzanne, Wilco, XTC, Yes, Zero 7 !!!

I made that list for some other profile YEARS ago from starred songs that were alphabetical in iTunes. So I'll add the Carolina Chocolate Drops as a single representative of the many great bands in many styles I've been introduced to since.

Great books:
The Life of Pi, Guns Germs & Steel, My Ishmael, James Clavell's stuff, The Am. Heritage Dict., Snow Crash, The Autobiography of Malcolm X, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy

Great Movies:
Midnight in Paris, Seven Samurai (1954), Amelie, Amores Perros, Bowling for Columbine, Harold and Maude, Children of Men, What the #$*! Do We (K)now!?, Thank You for Smoking, Shawshank Redemption, Why We Fight ... (If you know several of those movies, you can see I'm serious about facing and exploring reality, but also that I like artistic flights of fancy. I just watched the third 'Borne' movie for the first time; those provide a good testosterone rush and aren't totally brainless.)

Other stuff I like:
Following world events, bird & other animal watching, boats without motors, playing the Asian board game 'Go,' thunder storms--the lack of big lightning in PDX is one of its few drawbacks, but I got a good dose in Nicaragua.

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In this space, I used to have a complex, carefully-worded paragraph about sex. Then I realized nearly everyone in the country has read the same poorly-written book. So now I can just say that, EXCLUDING the extreme wealth, I share some important characteristics with Christian Grey. I'm talking bedroom persona only--arousal induces an altered mental state--not that life-contract nonsense. Tender, traditional romance can be nice too, but since I'm looking for long-term monogamy, I'm seeking some breadth in my one partner. And for me, power games are the MOST incendiary thing. But I always like cuddling/laughing right afterwards--apparently my "altered state" switches back again fast. Quite fascinating, humans are.

If you're uncertain about how to characterize your own inclinations, I'd suggest the Kink Spectrum Analysis test (the graphs at the end contain huge amounts of revealing data) and/or the different 'What's Your Sexual Style?' test (from which I'm a type O/P and prefer M, N, I or J). You can find links to these two tests under my Tests tab, above. Remember that right after taking a test you can go to your own test list and HIDE the results of the test from others if you're not ready to go public. :-] I also sometimes enjoy discussing these issues, even with people who I'll probably never meet.
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The six things I could never do without
Friends & Family
Web access
Conversation
Rain
PRI shows, TED streams, etc.
Mixed greens
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...how screwed up the world is. But I'm more into education and action than despair.
On a typical Friday night I am
Honestly? When I'm not seeing anyone, I'm often at home recovering after the week with 13-year-olds. But I could also be at a small concert or brew pub or dancing with a few friends (only some weeks require a recovery period). :)
I need to spend more nights sleeping outside again...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
One of my students asked me a similar question last year as part of an English assignment and I told him I pick my nose. That was about the perfect level of disclosure for 7th grade ... or dating profiles.

OK, actually, the bottom part of my "Favorites" section is way more private. Yep, I've out-ed myself ... but still, don't tell my parents.

Damn, I was trying to score "Ninja Warlord" on that one test. At least I didn't get "Cowboy Gunslinger," THAT would have been an embarrassment. Another test just revealed that my lineage includes a significant proportion of polar bears. That is good to know... Actually I cheated a bit on that one.

The "How White Are You?" test deals in racial stereotypes, but is still slightly interesting.

I just took "The Ultimate Answer to Life, The Universe, and Everything Test" and it was a really well done, in spite of having no Hitchhiker references. Lots of deep, debatable stuff in that test--not a light-weight diversion.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 33–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...you're really smart and you like to dance.
That's a great combo!!!