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44 Vienna, VA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Dec 4
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
[Update 5 Dec 2014: Recently returned back to Africa from my R&R in the States. Back in Africa for about 6 more months before I return to the States for good! Hope you all are having a great holiday season!]

[Update 6 Nov 2014: ...Still in Africa]

[Update 20 Sep 2014: Still in Africa]

Hi! I'm naturally inclined to not talk too much about myself and prefer to ask the questions ((he turns on the interrogation lamp and shines it back at you)) I'm more interested in others than myself and I tend to overlook my accomplishments because of a sense of imbued antipathy for resting on my laurels. I am in no rush (I'm out of the country til summer of '15) for a physical relationship and need to figure a few things out on where I stand with relationships in general. If you ask me a question I will be 100% honest bc being anything other is not what I want to be. ((and being 100% honest is like mental exhibitionism))

I've been successful with my career and most other pursuits in life. My life has been more interesting than I set out to make it...some days I believe I don't really understand how driven I am. I could be considered a recovering workaholic...could be, but some days I don't believe I have grasped the concept of a recovery stage. ((maybe it's because you have not admitted there is a problem with working a lot..))

I want to find someone who knows how to stop the insanity for a little while. Humor and a great smile, personality, intelligence and healthy.

Okay, if you need more of a summary - I've lived on four continents, three of them more than once; single malt scotch, no blends; red wine; smart humor with the occasional physical; my television is ostensibly turned off unless I really care to watch something; war zones, yeah I've got my t-shirts; it takes a lot for me to get upset (recent travel issues in Africa almost did it); I like to get dressed up, but not all the time because I am most comfortable in jeans or khakis and a long sleeved shirt; snow over a sandy beach; dark leather and wooden furniture; and there is nothing uglier to me than ignorance coupled with arrogance. I appreciate confidence.

...I have single here, but there was no selection for "Separated with intent to divorce."
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Serving overseas, thinking grand thoughts, and trying to put the finishing touches on a project that should provide a nice transition to my next career...though I won't call it a career as much as a great paying intellectual pursuit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people laugh at the humor of the situation. I'm the man you want to be with when something unfortunate, awkward, or bizarre happens. (Or whenever you just want to laugh)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Tall, dark and handsome?

Maybe my contagious and ever present smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Catch-22, Siddhartha, The Great Gatsby, Freakonomics, New York, Hitch-22, Brideshead Revisited, Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep. I read a lot, so there are likely 10+ more books that I would say are my favorites. I work hard to pick great reads.

My tastes in movies run the spectrum. However I am not a fan of horror movies. Baraka, Vanilla Sky, Her, Bourne Identity series, Bladerunner, X-Men, The Day After Tomorrow, Amelie, Dazed and Confused, ...and where my childhood movie watching first really started - Star Wars. I recently watched The Secret Life of Walter Mitty and realized my life has been full of adventure throughout that I don't dream of adventures bc I don't have to. ((that sounds so cocky and yet it's not))

I rarely come across a style of food I do not enjoy ((just don't top it all off with mushrooms, zucchini or cauliflower)). I prefer to eat healthy, but enjoy the diversion into the relatively unhealthy. To wit shish-kabob goose liver in Tel Aviv. So ridiculously good but not good for the cholesterol levels.

I will listen to most music except for any form of country and western that discusses the merits of a pick-up truck, a hunting dog, or drinking cheap beer. If stranded on a deserted island (with a plentiful source of solar power for my iPod) I would thrive on Dave Matthews Band, The Bare Naked Ladies (who I just found out are ALL back together again), and Motley Crue. (Yeah, I still don't understand that last one either...I'm a relatively refined man but somehow need my metal). I know there are 10 more groups I would gladly accept onto my iPod...I'm just stating the bare essentials.

(And if you recognized that I switched the order of music and food, two points for you)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter
Coffee/espresso based drink
Something to read (or to write about)
A challenge
My mind
Friends and family (or Framily as the clowns on Madison Ave have coined it)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Transitions, my past relationships and future plans.

What's beyond all the known solar systems.

The waste of religion based war. (Count 'em up...)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Recovering from the week - I run a pretty fast and intense pace most weeks. Plus I am working basically every day while overseas, so taking a breather is required.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm no longer sure what I care to keep private...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to start with a friendship and go from there...or you just want to bounce some thoughts off on me. I enjoy having friends who I can say (or write) the most outlandish things or, at times, naughty thoughts, and not need to worry about judgment or hurt feelings.

You can appreciate a zero judgment zone

If you wish OKC would use the phrase, "Women who like Men" instead of "Girls who like guys."

If you want me to review your OKC profile. I'll give you my perspective, maybe a little critique. Recommend to you what to drop, what to discuss and what may be something that should not be listed on-line ever ((ever)). I'll tell you what I like about it too. Most importantly, I'll let you know how you come across. ((honest broker))

[And I would always welcome your critique of mine.]