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37 Tampa, FL Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 18–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 13
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Banking / Finance
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a hard-worker, anally organized, excellent listener, and a perfectionist.

I like all type of guys; nerds, dorks, musicians, hairy guys, gamers, wiccans, eclectic, sex enthusiasts, and the like seem to be pretty alright in my book.

Flute playing has taken me World Wide.
I've toured Internationally...
Canada, England, and Italy.
I've recorded for CD and National Public Radio.
I've played for places like the National Monument in Venice and the highlight at the Vatican for the Pope...
But it's never been my day job.

Work brought me to Tampa.
Life is good but there's something missing...
Hopefully one day I'll figure out exactly what that is.
I love PEANUT BUTTER, and the color BLUE...

I'm addicted to CRUISES. I'm always in the mood for a cruise. If you're looking for someone to share a cabin with I am seriously interested in talking it out. I have cruised with people I've only met for 30 minutes in person and we ended up having a great cruise.

Check me out on my other profile:

Want to know more? Keep reading...

I'm not actively searching for love, but I would be very happy to have it come into my life because I have a lot of love to give. I figure it it's right, "Love" will happen on its own.

Disclaimer: I actually consider myself polyamorous. To explain, polyamory means "many loves", or ethical nonmonogamy. I think one can love more than one person and have fulfilling relationships with multiple partners.
For example, an Open Relationship; that has to be honest, up-front, and mutual. (This is what usually works best for me.) Or, poly could be a multiple partner relationship (My most recent was a triad that lasted three months.). So, I'd be open to dating a nice couple also.
I, like most Poly people, work to put jealously out of the equation as much as possible...and be more open and frank about things.
I also think most gay guys would also find open loving polyamory an improvement on the typical anonymous hookup scene. (Not that there's anything wrong with it between consenting adults.) It's way more fulfilling. It's all about options that best fit and make you happy.

To me a relationship is whatever works for whomever is involved.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For work I am an analytics consultant.

When I'm not doing the 'day job' I am at some rehearsal or performing some where. I'm the Principal Flautist and former president of Fanfare Concert Winds. Former principal and one of the founders of South Shore Symphony Orchestra. Member of Flutes4, a professional flute quartet.

I'm not really religious but I do frequently play church services during high holy days and holidays.
My belief of choice is Wicca, Wiccan, Pagan, Witchcraft, etc... whatever you want to call it. I'm not a heavy-duty practitioner but if you're into in depth religious conversations you're more apt to have my attention talking about that instead of Christianity, though I have no qualms with anyone else's religious beliefs.

What I do with most of my free time is play board games and I am the organizer of the Tampa Bay board game group:
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
If I don't know how to do something I can learn it very fast and be extremely proficient at it...
When it comes to learning I'm a human sponge. Yea, it's a gift and it just comes naturally.

I love numbers and math (use to be like a human calculator), music (Professional Musician flute and piano), gymnastics (Former Gymnast, Coach and former 96' Olympic hopeful for floor exercise.), I used to love to do and teach line dancing, and I'm addicted to Microsoft Excel I'm a guru at it and I'm always willing to help people with Excel problems/projects.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My shaved head.

If I have a flute in my hand and I'm playing they usually notice my love for music and they way I express myself musically.

I can be very shy and quiet in social settings so I'm usually in the background just taking it all in. Conversation is not my strong skill.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Magic's Pawn and any of the Valdemar books by Mercedes Lackey also the Young Wizard Series by Diane Duane.
Any fantasy with magic in it. (I enjoy audiobooks.)

Movies: Anything with Jake Gyllenhaal in it.
Brad Pitt, Michael Vartan, Jennifer Garner, Tom Welling, Joseph Fiennes, Ryan Phillipe, Ryan Gosling, Daniel Radcliffe, Edward Norton, Richard Gere, Robert Pattinson, Brokeback Mountain, The Notebook, Camp, Threesome, Twilight Saga, Dark Crystal, Labyrinth, Legend, Mad Love, Lord of the Rings, Shortbus, and most of all Porn! Love me some NetFlix.

TV Shows: Big Bang Theory, Smallville, ALIAS, FlashForward, Glee, The Pretender, Charmed, Yu-Gi-Oh!, Will & Grace, Real World, and So You Think You Can Dance.

Music: Flute and Piano Music (Listening to and playing), Beethoven, Rachmaninoff, etc...
I love all kinds of music, I guess it comes from being a musician. But in my car I'm usually gravitating back to alternative. I also love to listen to latin pop music, Ricky Martin, Reik, and Camila. Other favorite artists:
Levi Kreis, Gavin Mikhail, The Script, STAIND, Incubus, YellowCard, Three Days Grace, Breaking Benjamin, Enigma, Kelly Clarkson, Justin Guarini, Keith Urban, Darren Hayes, Jim Brickman, Janet Jackson, Jonny Lang, Tori Amos, and Alanis Morissette. (As you can tell a wide range).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Obtaining and accomplishing my goals.
I've completed a lot of my life-long goals. 10/13/2010 I became debt free at 32 years old by paying off my mortgage!
I have a decent job, car, home, life, etc...
I've traveled, I'm financially stable, I literally have a perfect credit score, and I have decent friends and wonderful parents. (Momma's boy, miss you Momma.)

A recent thought... I would like someone to want to take "me" out on an actual date... it doesn't seem to happen too often.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually out playing Board Games, if you're interested in tagging along let me know.
Board games are my current addiction.
I literally want to play board games all the time, every free moment I can. (No lie!)
I currently would pick board games over sex. (That's saying a lot for me. Haha)
If you're not really into board games come on out and give it a try:
We're not talking Monopoly and Scrabble, but you have to check it out to understand.
If you're not into playing a lot of board games you're not going to see a lot of me. But I do exist. Haha
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm very honest, trust-worthy, romantically and sexually open-minded and I'm polyamorous.
I'm big on honesty, but that doesn't seem to be an easy thing to come by.

If you don't know what polyamory is you can google it or I can google it for you:
Feel free to browse around or talk to me about it. If you're open to the concept or you're at least non-judgmental then there's a better probability of being more than friends. Don't get me wrong I'm open to discussing/considering any view of relationships, depending on the vibe with the guy(s).

While I'm bearing all... Hmm... want to win me over quick, give me a foot massage, my feet are a hotspot and I also have a foot fetish. (But it's not a requirement.)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
~Any of my profile interests you. Who knows what could develop...

~You want to play Board Games!

~You're interested in making new friends, and possibly more such as you're interested in having a poly relationship. (Otherwise known as polyamorous or polyamory.)

Note: If you are interested in possibly developing a relationship with me, don't let the poly aspect scare you off. As I put earlier, I'm interested in exploring many aspects of a relationship. It all depends on the person(s) and what works for "us". Take a chance, get to know me. You'll be happy you did. :-)