I've learned that it can sometimes take me a long time to find a new relationship (after a 10 year relationship it took about 3 years to find my next significant relationship, which lasted 3 years, and now I'm at the start of my next search).
So as well as looking for a long-term partner, I'm keen to find some new friends. I'm answering all the questions honestly - but answering them with what I would like from a friend, not a life partner (for instance I don't mind a friend having young children but that would not work for me in a relationship).
I've also learned that life is full of surprises. Perhaps by being far more open in who I'm willing to meet with this profile I'll end up meeting someone whom I otherwise would not, and we might end up happily ever after!
So where did my profile name come from? I write a website (and are writing a book) about a technique called Devotional Sex, and I’m hoping to find someone to explore this with me.
Devotional Sex has three main components. The first is from Tao where the man does not ejaculate most times he has sex. The second is a touch of Tantra - with no rush for the man to reach his end-point, what happens becomes slower and more sensual. And the third component is that the woman is given the power to control all sensual and sexual activity.
As well as working wonderfully in a relationship (I’ve lived this way with several partners) Devotional Sex opens up new possibilities for those who are not in a relationship.
Intimacy, sensuality, erotic fun, and sexual pleasures are such an important part of life that single people should not miss out. But convention is that either singles remain chaste, find a friend with benefits and do everything, or have a series of dates which are often disappointing sexually and emotionally.
Devotional Sex provides a new option - Devotional Friends. By agreeing that we will never go all the way (no intercourse) and that I will never ejaculate when with you, a whole new playground opens up for exploration. The woman decides which mix of intimacy (cuddles), sensuality (massages), erotic fun, and sexual activities take place. Things can remain mild, or it can include lots of adventures - you decide!
In a relationship there needs to be some equality. But with a Devotional Friend I'm happy for things to remain unequal. So, for example, I'm happy to give you oral sex without you ever returning the favour.
Of course Devotional Sex includes intercourse in relationships (and it can even be enjoyed with friends if both want).
This probably all sounds very strange, but I know from personal experience that it really works! With you in charge a foot massage can safely be enjoyed without going any further. I can suggest what might happen next - but you decide what, if anything, we do. Not only does Devotional Sex create a very relaxed dynamic, but after just an hour or so it all feels very natural.
I'm happy to answer any questions about Devotional Sex (even if you’re not interested in meeting me).
I'm also interested in teaching people about this technique. As you are in control of what happens you can feel safe exploring this with me without any pressure to go further than you find comfortable. And as teacher I’m very happy to meet people even if it is clear that we are not suited for a relationship.