I get jealous because what's mine is mine. I'm stubborn as hell, I say sorry too much. I act like I don't give a fuck because I care to much. I over analyze the smallest of things and probably come off as a dick to simply guard myself.

Hahaha i love that kind of transparency, but I'm just kidding. i found that somewhere. Imagine..well if im being completely honest that has been me and if im not paying attention that shit will still arise. But fortunately for you and me im in the practice of paying attention. unfortunately, most of the people on here are probably like that. Good luck ladies;)

Ok true story... And maybe put this on to set the mood

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MjxA25Tj1Ks

Actually Im not a jealous person( I mean jealousy arises, but I don't take that shit personal) does that make sense? Im super laid back, I mean, suuuper laid back, almost to a fault. my excited face and sad face are pretty much the same expression lol!! we call that equanimity in my circle of friends. (internal and external emotional balance). ;) I have pretty good communication skills. Im in the practice of asking for what I want and talking about how I feel. Watching what emotions arise, pausing, landing in my body, taking a breath and choosing to respond rather than react, and all that jazz...shit actually works in creating and maintaining healthy relationships; who would of thunk? Im super gentle with myself which in turn allows me to be kind to others. Its a trip, the kinder i am the happier i am...its wild. Aldus Huxley, this great writer and huge intellect was interviewed on his death bed and asked. After a lifetime of life and thinking, what would you say or leave this world. " I don't know? Be a little kinder" ha! Any way I digress. Although most people don't act right in my world, I try not to attach my happiness to the way others act... phewww. Im fucked when i do. I care and it shows. Low brow. I enjoy the simple things in life. I don't take myself too seriously, (obviously). I can be super silly and a goofball sometimes, especially with the ones I love the most. With new people i can be a lil shy, but depending on the person, it doesn't take long for me to warm up. Im not your average guy. I love all animals. I love the outdoors, nature is medicinal to me. I love those moment when there is no inside nature or outside nature, but just nature. *deep exhale and big smile* I feel that. You know that feeling when you let go of all the edges? I love hiking and running. I've been running marathons for 5 years. Big Sur is one of my favorite places to go camping and hike. There is this amazing 23 mile hike(round trip) that lands at these natural hot springs. aw! id love to take you some time. Looking forward to finding some new amazing places to go hiking up here. I have a small family and I'm the closest with my mom. You can thank her for my amazing manners;)

I am continuing to evolve as a man. Thank goodness right? Evolve or die. ( Paraphrasing Darwin a lil) Always growing, turning inward and learning more about myself; my habits and patterns and letting go of what is not useful. I am masculine, but soft spoken. Confident and, living my life the way I want to, and with as much integrity as possible. I have found my purpose in life and feel really blessed to have done so. I am sensitive,(yes, sensitive, but not in some new aged wimpy kind of way) I have a rugged exterior,lots of tattoos, worked out and bearded ha! But I know that those things don't make me, me. Some people say I look intimidating, haha, at least when im not smiling, but ive also heard that just 2 seconds with me and you realize that I have a heart of gold. Even though ive had a challenging life, I have been able to place some really deep meaning behind it all. I get to sit and close my eyes and make everything relevant. I now get to experience life fully in each moment, no longer postponing life, allowing for all the possibilities. Full contact living!! Feel me??

And I know this goes without saying but just incase I haven't made it clear I still fuck up. I am not perfect. Sometimes the best I can do is cereal and milk. Sometimes the best I can do is call you back tomorrow. Sometimes I need to close my eyes in public places. Sometimes doing laundry is out of the fucking question. Sometimes i just need a hug. And that's OK too.

Oh and I want to travel!!! Haven't done much yet. But Peru and Thai land are first on my list.

Any way I Just moved to Oakland from LA. I love Oakland!! I'm getting to work for this amazing non-profit Buddhist meditation center opening up in the City and I am super excited to start this new chapter in my life and a little nervous about leaving home and community...but thank goodness that home is where the heart is and i will always have my community in L.A. and get to create a new one in The Bay.

When it comes to what im looking for… well, someone
who I'm physically attracted to. Inner beauty, very important. Outer beauty also very important. Someone who is healthy and takes care of themselves physically, and spiritually. I want someone who is introspective, that can be intimate and vulnerable. I love that word intimate, it means to get really close. Can you get really close? Even if you have been betrayed in your past. I dont care what you do for a living or how much money you make, or what your fucking sign is. I do want to know what you love most and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing. I want someone who can be faithful. Someone who can communicate there wants and needs, share my curiosity and insatiable appetite for knowledge & personal growth. Compassionate. Similar fundamental values is somewhat important, and you should be able to keep up with my lifestyle; which is super slow pace. hahaha. I want to inspire and be inspired. Someone with a sense of humor. I am rarely serious...except when I am being serious. Like now. Looking for someone I can have meaningful, intellectual conversations with and act hella silly and stupid with. Oh and I like girl that swears.

I do have an interesting career. As a teacher, part of my higher learning and continual education is that I'm required to go on 1 to 3 month long silent retreats, basically temporarily ordaining. Like this year I'll be gone for 1 month on a silent retreat in the winter. No communication for a month. Now this is not for the rest of my life but for the next 2 to 5 years. So someone who is super secure, has the own life and friends and passions is important. I would need my freedom in that way, and when I am with you, I would be with you! Fully present. This is the gift I can bring. (we've all got gifts;)

I'm open to short term or long term relationships or just casual fun. Monogamy or non monogamy just as long as we are honest with each other. Now you might be saying to yourself " he has no idea what he wants". Not true. I just know not to be closed off. Who knows who im supposed to meet here or how its all supposed to turn out. I dont like to be bound down by societal conditioning. I just want to stay open and always, at the same time being true to myself, which I feel I am.

To be honest, I'm perfectly happy being single. While I am a romantic at heart, and the idea of having a partner....in crime, someone to stand in the fire with me and fight for what we know is right, sounds lovely, I'm also very pragmatic. I have a wonderful life. I've worked very hard to be able to lead a life of leisure with the freedom to focus on the things that I'm truly passionate about. I'm not here because I'm bored or looking for companionship. I have plenty of friends, and hobbies I'm not lonely. Shit, I can obviously keep myself endlessly entertained.

i love meeting and connecting with new people. and im just curious to see what's out there, and of course allowing for all of life's possibilities.

Working for a non-profit. I'm a teacher and a student. Just finished assisting a month long mindfulness workshop at Esalen. I'm living in a dream, I really cant believe it sometimes. I feel suuuper blessed. I get to work with a regular population, recovering addicts and teens. Working with adolescents in recovery is what really brings me the most joy. "Sometimes it is necessary to reteach a thing its loveliness" And now moving to a new city, and starting a new chapter in my life. Bring it on!! Cause in the end the questions will be how well did you love? How fully did you live? and How deeply did you let go?

I also run marathons. It's so fucking rad, its like one big love fest out there with all the volunteers. This is my 5th and it's an unreal experience. Physically challenging, mentally challenging. I litteraly feel like im not going to make it every year, but i finish and its amazing. Sometimes the moments that challenge me the most, define me. Marathons are like life... your going to have ups and downs, struggles, pain, but its how we meet those struggles and how we get through them. At some point in the marathon the distance is greater than the humans ability to physically transcend it. Its wild what the mind and body can do. And when you cross that finish line no matter how fast or how slow, it will change you life for ever.

Im a good teacher, friend and listener. Good at not getting involved in drama. Laughing and smiling. Hitting snooze. Good at running Marathons, Bikram Yoga( yoga in general) procrastinating, eating late at night, parallel parking, dominoes, dancing, talking shit and of course eating.

My smile. If im not smiling, my tattoos and or beard.

Don’t do a lot of recreational reading with all the assigned reading for school but I am enjoying the stuff I get to read for that.
Love 80's, 90's, and oldies. Also but not limited to, Alexi Murdoch, The Drums, Red Hot Chili Peppers, agent orange,Carina Round, Daughter, Damien Rice, Carina Round, Jonsi,The National, Bon Iver, Santi Gold, Phoenix, Radio Head,Common, De La Soul, Nas, Mos Def, Sade, Erykah Badu, The Roots, Missy Elliot, Joss Stone, Frank Sinatra, Curtis Mayfeild, Etta James, Lauryn Hill, Tina Turner, Astrud Gilberto, Sarah Vaugh, Loui Armstrong, Billie Holiday, Carol King, The Cranberries, Adele, Marvin Gaye, Alanis Morrisette, Janis Joplin, Jill Scott, Ray Lamontange, Diana Ross & the Surpremes, John Mayer, Coldplay, Tori Amos, Jimmi Hendrix, Iggy Pop & The Stooges, Gorilla Biscuits, The Doors, Otis Redding, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Wonder, Fiona Apple, Modest Mouse, Luther Vandross, John Legend, G&E and on and on and on.

Big labowski, Amadeus, pulp fiction, (most anything Tarantino) Rob zombie flicks. Eternal Shunshine of a spotless mind.
Seinfeld, Curb your Enthusiasm, The office(I enjoy the older seasons more) Southpark, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Modern Family, Family Guy, Parks and Recs, Sons of Anarchy, Walking Dead.

Really this is a question??
Community
Exploring new places to eat with my friends
My iPhone/ipod...music
Big Sur and Esalen(nature in general)
Intimacy
Running shoes
Showers
Women
Beauty
Sleep
Sarcasm
Dancing
Kissing and sporking
Service
I know it said 6 but I'm not big on following rules.

Women

And

"We can travel a long way and do so many different things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. It's born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home. True happiness may not be at all far way, but it requires a radical change of view as to where to find it."
Sharon Salzburg
Lovingingkindness

And

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right qwrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
“
Let our scars fall in love.”
― Galway Kinnell

And the civil rights movement

Social injustice and A spiritual Revolution

And

Mental development

And

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Mark Twain

Urban Dharma in the city
Hangin with friends finding new spots to eat and kickin convo.
Live shows
Movies
At home chillin, perfectly content with not doing anything on a Friday night.

I take my pleasure seriously. Oh and its taken me about 3 years to write this profile. That's why its so amazing.

This is a pretty pointless section sense 99.9 percent of women don't initiate contact first. But if your the 1% then fuckin right on to you!

If you want to be friends.
If you want something more
If your a runner
Practice yoga
Easy on the eyes
Down for the revolution
Don't take shit to seriously
Don't mind beards or tattoos

My oh no no's. (You should not message me if)

You wear Sketchers Shape ups... Sorry...I just...can't
Watch Toddlers in Tiaras
You are rude( I have to surround myself with kind people)
Consumed by tabloids and gossip
Think T.V. Is the new music.