59 Portland, OR
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My self-summary
*** Updated: 1/15 ***
I'm with a lovely woman now and we're looking for a bi-lady for occasional dating and adult play. She's aching for the touch of the right woman and I... well... I love to see her pleased :-) Will share more info shortly...

Refined, sexy gentleman looking to make sparks with women of substance. I'm generous, healthy, well-balanced, insightful, PLAYFUL, receptive, sensitive, sensual and love to laugh heartily. In the interest of full disclosure, I'm non-monogamous but thrive on deep, rich, nourishing and juicy relationships; Of course, you're welcome to try and convert me otherwise. I'd totally date me! :-)

I'm looking to resonate deeply with one or more who are equally well-balanced. I'd prefer those who are attractive yet not "caught up" in it. I'd be delighted to find someone unbelievably sexy but will settle for believably sexy ;-) Someone who knows what they have and makes good use of their potential. I gravitate to those with a strong will, yet receptive to the needs of their partner. If you're passionate, sensual, funny, unconventional, open, authentic, a little mischievous yet compassionate and if you live fully and consciously, I'd be very pleased to hear from you. Mutual evolution and pleasure: that's not asking for too much is it? They say, we ultimately get what we want. But they also say, we get what we put up with. I think we get what we need AND what we deserve. What do you believe?

While I make my living as a Tech Support manager, that doesn’t define me. I’m a sensualist at heart, with a hippie mindset. I love to cook and enjoy conjuring up rich, new full flavors. I make wine. And beer. I’m a liberal and have a very low tolerance for those who are not. I play ping-pong and would relish taking you down (though I would never admit to it and certainly wouldn’t be that overt to do so – at least not, initially…).

There’s something very appealing to me about mindfulness, subtlety and nuance. But boldness and intensity are an attraction as well. I’m simple, yet complicated. I’m learning to hang on and let go and I’m acquiring the wisdom to know when each is needed.

If any of this appeals to you and you enjoy the gaze of a handsome, considerate man oozing with adoration, we may be onto something.
What I’m doing with my life
Exploring. Aiming for clarity of perception. Enjoying the juice dripping off this luscious mango.
I’m really good at
Ping pong, gardening, making wine, reading people, expressing myself with clarity, being on time, cooking, riding horses, rhythm, making sweat, dancing, loving, hanging on, letting go, justifying and falling into temptation, growing plants, looking into your eyes, more than one, fixing things, deep appreciation, seeing motives, writing, fooling myself, driving, managing, feeling, laughing and playing
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes, hair, voice
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A Walk in the Woods (anything by Bill Bryson), Anything by Christopher Hitchens, The Last Barrier (Rashad Feild), Confessions of a Taoist on Wall Street (anything by David Payne), Ram Dass, Ethical Slut, Sex at Dawn
Movies: Shawshank Redemption, Benny & Joon, Pulp Fiction, Erotica, The Aristocrats, District B13, Amelie, Amadeus. Radio: Pandora: Nouvelle Vague Radio, Kelly Joe Phelps Radio,Emiliana Torrini, NPR
The six things I could never do without
Avocados & Artichokes
Red Wine
Breasts (natural)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Liberal vs. Conservative
Blindness of patriotism
My role in this life
My next affair
Deep delicious connections
My motives
My reactivity
Slowing down
The horrible beauty of unfulfilled longing
Karma & if we keep doing what we're doing, we'll keep getting what we got
The beauty & art of balance
On a typical Friday night I am
Wine tasting, discourse over beers, watching a movie, eating out at one of Portland's amazing restaurants, looking for the "perfect" date.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
OK. I pulled the fire alarm outside the Concord NH State Capitol building when I was 7. My hand was still on the lever when the building emptied and the cops, ambulance, fire-trucks and EMTs all arrived. I wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer - and it certainly wasn't one of my proudest moments - but I thought it was an automatic postal machine. It was hard to explain.
You should message me if
...you're an old soul, you like to play, you like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MyuL1z2tejs - you feel the pull & think we're compatible (& you don't watch Fox news)