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My self-summary
"Seduction isn't making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already"

OK, time for the "sell yourself" portion of our evening....

Roller Derby, Burlesque, Rock-a-billy, Psycho-billy, Horror-billy, Polyamory, BDSM, Goth Culture, Philosophy, Humanism, Humanist, Tattoos, Piercings, Fetish, Counter Culture, Board Games, Role-Playing Games, Video Games, Roller Skating, Debate, Sapiosexual, Kink, Faith, Spiritualism, Geek, Freak, Sexuality, Music, Reading, Personal Responsibility, Self Actualization

Personality Type: ENTJ. It's pretty accurate, although I've worked a lot on the weaknesses, so they aren't nearly as pronounced.

This poem hit me straight between the eyes. There is so much of myself in these words and so much of what I want in another.

The Invitation by Oriah

It doesn't interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn't interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shriveled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn't interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn't interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the center of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,
from the book The Invitation
published by HarperONE, San Francisco,
1999 All rights reserved
What I’m doing with my life
9-5 grind. Trying to find a social circle of some sort.

Working on a few different business ideas and a non-profit business.
I’m really good at
Cooking. Sex. Talking. Math. Puzzles. Reading people. Rejection.
The first things people usually notice about me
My awful profile picture. I'm not very photogenic and my pictures never seem to look like me. Something always seems to be off.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I've read the "masters" and the "greats". I've spent years reading philosophy, literature, religious texts and intellectual treatise. Now I read for fun. Fantasy Fiction and Sci/Fi. (Anne McCaffery, Jim Butler, Anne Bishop, Issac Azimov, S.M. Sterling, Lloyd Alexander, Katherine Kerr, Raymond Khoury, Dan Brown, Jack Whyte, David Eddings, Wies & Hickman, R.A. Salvatore, Ed Greenwood....just to name a few)

Movies: "Spandex. It's a privilage, not a right."
"Check this out, each and every one of you. Compilation tape, of my own making. I call this the "Greatest Zooks Album". Featuring artists like, well I got some Hendrix on there, some Joplin, Mama Cass, Belushi... all great artists that asphyxiated on their own vomit! You won't find this in stores man!"

"1)Look up 'idiot' in the dictonary and you know what you'll find? 2) A...picture of me?
1) No! The definition of the word idiot! Which you fucking are!"

"You've got to ask yourself one question. 'Do I feel lucky?' Well, do ya, punk?"

Striker: "Surely you can't be serious." Rumack: "I am serious...and don't call me Shirley."

"Listen to them. Children of the night. What music they make."

"Heeeere's Johnny!"

"One morning I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got in my pajamas, I don't know."

"A census taker once tried to test me. I ate his liver with some fava beans and a nice Chianti."

(C) All time favorite TV show has to be Red Dwarf. Black Adder, Invader Zim, Ruby Gloom. Anything by Joss Whedon is tops with Me. Big Bang Theory is something I try to keep up with online and I love Scrubs. Truth is, I don't watch much TV anymore.

(D) Goth/Industrial/Metal and Rock-a-billy/Psychobilly/Horrorbilly, My favorite band is Seraphim Shock. VNV Nation, Lacuna Coil, Disturbed, Rammstien, BeBorn Betton, Creepshow, Horrorpops, Matadors, In This Moment, Hypnophonics, Grim Hymn, Apocalyptica, Dreadnaughts, NIN, Linkin Park, Depeche Mode, AFI, Carfax Abbey, Evanescence, House of Pain, Icon of Coil, Kaskade, Kidney Thieves, Korn, London After Midnight, Marilyn Manson, Ministry, Orgy, Rob Zombie, Alice in Videoland, Souxsie and the Banshees, The Cult, The Cure, Tool, Zeromancer, Papa Roach, Bif Naked, Gwar, Incubus, Cradle of Filth, Avenged Sevenfold, Snake River Conspiracy, Godhead, Rush, a lot of 80's pop/rock (hey, it's when I grew up.) Honestly, I like most everything(yes, that includes opera and classical). Just don't try to make Me listen to country, hiphop or rap.

(E) Porterhouse steak with mashed potato and grilled garlic asparagus (fried onions and mushrooms for the steak). Hey, I might be trying to back off on the meat but I'm still an omnivore!
The six things I could never do without
Books to read and music I like. Truthfully, I don't need anything past that. Everything else is just icing on the cake.

lol. I guess I'd do well in prison. :oP
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex. What I'm going to read next. How to get my hands on a fully electric vehicle. Where I'm going to hang my wall art/decorations in my new place. Sex. Why it's so damn hard to find kinky/poly people to hang with/date. The BDSM Lifestyle. My submissives. Writing a book. Collaborating on a Graphic Novel. Role-playing games. Collaborating on a list of video games. Philosophy. Sex. The foibles of Man. How I'm going to afford the new wardrobe I want/need. Sex. How I'm going to afford the new toys I want/need. Sex. Buying a bike. Killing off the oil industry. Bringing down the government and fixing the system. Sex. The zombie apocalypse. How to survive the zombie apocalypse. Sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Well, I don't have a typical Friday night. I try to get out every couple of weeks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like most Garth Brooks songs and a bunch of late 80', early 90's country. Don't tell anyone, they will revoke my goth-card. :oP
Also, I love Gillmore Girls and sports themed dramas (Remember the Titans, Rudy etc.)
You should message me if
- you made it this far without being offended and hurt
- you are actually looking to meet someone.
- you are a submissive and/or curious about BDSM
- polyamorous/poly friendly
- live near Me
- you like sex
- Also, if you are goth, geeky, and/or a freak that's a huge plus.

I don't mind corresponding with people outside of My area, but then, really, that isn't what people come to these sites for. At least, it's not what I'm here for.