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Dilectus

25 / M / Straight / Single

Cleveland, Ohio

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:16pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and very serious about it
Sign
Libra
Education
Two-year college
Job
Other
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm an active humanist and passive misanthrope. I'm very opinionated. If you're reading this now and you don't personally identify as a feminist, then you needn't waste your time reading any further because I'm not interested. I have high standards and I have a pretty specific type. Need someone exceptional who can make me laugh and engage me in intelligent conversation.

I don't speak from a script and I guess some people don't like that. I have done a little traveling in my time and I want to travel again. I'm a little bit of a nerd. I watch a lot of cartoons, play video games (albeit I don't have as much time for games as I once did), and I have a really big toy collection (seriously, it's quite spectacular). I try to dress fashionably but I admittedly do not understand the rules of fashion, so when I shop I always need a friend on hand to approve my outfits or else I will chicken out and go home empty-handed. I love making new friends and meeting new people. I love to joke around and my sense of humor ranges from childishly immature to cleverly sarcastic. I find great humor in awkward situations. I also enjoy a deep conversation here and there. I live in Cleveland Heights but I came from the Akron area so I have a lot of friends from both locations. I really don't like summarizing myself in an impersonal medium such as this because it just comes out as an unstructured list of trivial facts about me.

I'm pretty smart. I can go on forever about social justice, the prison/military industrial complexes, patriarchal white supremacy and its connection to American media and institutions, and for this reason people always react with shock when they meet me in person and discover that I am very outgoing and fun.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a freelance videographer and I have a handful of clients ranging from doctors to lawyers to chefs to mobile developers.

One of my big clients is a civil rights lawyer, and being as passionate about social justice as I am, this is a very gratifying and eye-opening job. I also have video editing job that is regular hours. (Dependable income!)
I’m really good at
I'm skilled in the field of video production. I am also a good conversationalist and I am good at saving money. And I'm good at whistling, which I do often, and some people hate that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm the moon.

No, I'm not. But people often tell me that I remind them of Stephen Colbert, partially because of my looks and partially because of my personality.

But I am complimented from time to time about my hair, my teeth, and the way I dress.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Shows: I have a love/hate relationship with TV. I really do think TV is a superior storytelling medium to movies, because TV shows are better able to develop characters and make the viewer become invested in the characters and the plot, but I also think TV is the source of so much anti-intellectualism in our country. So much of it caters to the lowest common denominator. Favorite shows are: Breaking Bad (favorite), The Wire (other favorite), Game of Thrones, Treme, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Mad Men, Cowboy Bebop (obsessed), Firefly, Venture Bros., Childrens Hospital, The Office (UK version, and early seasons of US version), Community, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock, Arrested Development, Party Down, Avatar - The Last Airbender, Legend of Korra, Luther, Daily Show, Colbert Report, Tim and Eric, and various cartoons from the 90s.

Books: Mostly I read nonfiction nowadays, because my love of good narrative is slightly overpowered by my desire to learn. I read some Hedges here, some Chomsky there. Also, I understand that there is no way to enforce required reading among adult Americans, but I firmly believe that every American should read Michelle Alexander's The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness, as it is probably the most socially relevant contemporary book on the market

Movies: I'll spare you my long list of movies and just say that I am obsessed with Pixar. I could write volumes of praise for each Pixar movie. They are brilliant on so many levels and are too often under-appreciated by average movie-goers. I really love animation. I also like films by Wes Anderson, Akira Kurosawa, Quentin Tarantino, the Coen brothers, Miyazaki, etc.

Music: I have very diverse taste in music, ranging from a lot of hip-hop to folk and everything in between. Just a few examples are: Busdriver, Paul Barman, Beastie Boys, The Pharcyde, Nocando, Open Mike Eagle, The Roots, TiRon & Ayomari, Blu, P.O.S., Pharoahe Monch, A Tribe Called Quest, CunninLynguists, Wu-Tang Clan, The Budos Band, Ab-Soul, Big Baby Gandhi, The Morning Benders, Raphael Saadiq, Nina Simone, Yoko Kanno, Sam Cooke, Billie Holiday, The Avett brothers, Fleet Foxes, First Aid Kit, Os Mutantes, Rage Against the Machine, Kids These Days, Chance the Rapper, Soil and Pimp Sessions (ridiculous name, amazing band), Santigold, TV on the Radio, Sharon Jones & the Dap-Kings, Phil Ochs, Nick Waterhouse, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Mark Ronson, Buena Vista Social Club, Architecture in Helsinki, The Bamboos, The Go! Team, The Black Keys, Lee Fields and the Expressions, The White Stripes... Honestly I could go on forever, so I'm just going to stop here. I'm very passionate about the music I like and I love to share music. If you share music with me or ask me to share music with you, you'll have won some serious points. Also, as you may have noticed, I enjoy a lot of rap. Ironically, I generally find white guys who emphatically talk about rap to be problematic, even though I technically fall into that category. This is an interesting topic of conversation.

Food: I like it.
The six things I could never do without
My camera

My toy collection

Naps

My computer (for personal and professional reasons)

Occasional solitude

Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about social/political issues. I firmly believe, as Chris Hedges said, that human moral progression is nonlinear. I spend a lot of time contemplating the many widely believed myths, such as American exceptionalism and post-racism, and how they are propagated through the media.

I often think about what I would do if I had super-powers, and how I would use them to pummel the establishment into submission.

I think a lot about my short film idea, and whether or not I'll ever finish it.

I'm very discouraged by the number of girls on this site who claim to be more offended by flag-burning than by book-burning. Really?! That's a sad testament to the pro-censorship, dangerously nationalistic society we live in.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching a movie, at the bar, who knows?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I used to be a conservative. My upbringing is to blame.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
I'm disappointed by the overwhelming number of all-around awful girls on the site.

I'm not here for the god-fearing "traditional" white girls with their country music and their subtle racism. Also not here for the hipster racists. I lived with one for an entire year. There's nothing worse.

I'd love to meet someone who's independent and intelligent and successful and challenges whatever remains of my patriarchal conditioning.

Feminists/activists/nerds are all welcome. If we have similar taste in music then we will probably get along well, but it's definitely not a necessity.

And by all means, if you can help me think of a name for my blog, please message me.