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Last online
Aug 10
5' 8" (1.73m)
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Might want kids
Has cats
My self-summary
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Art is my main religion, although I also practice Christianity and learn a lot from the Buddhists about how to be more sane. I tend to plan my vacations around the art I'll get to see. I love musicals, some operas, and paintings. I love church, mass, temple, what have you. I went Episcopalian because we're crazy liberal, and I get to cross myself.

I hope it's hard to offend me, I have worked on that over the years. I think if you can't laugh about money and death and religion, what can you laugh at?

I like to figure out why different pieces of art work, or don't work. I love DVD commentary tracks. Although I've written a little art criticism, I don't want to be a critic because I prefer to keep my mouth shut when I don't have anything helpful to say.

I'm always writing and making stuff. I've been published some, but nowhere amazing yet.

I'm conservative in that I love ritual and tradition, classic literature and art and practice and respect for elders and investment in family, but I'm very liberal politically, and open about what other people do and how they see the world and what might work for them, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

My favorite places in the world are Lawrence, Kansas, New York City, Disney World, and New Orleans. Still on my travel wish list I have Kenya, Istanbul, Egypt, and Vienna.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, sending out work, teaching high school kids and alternately loving them and having them drive me crazy, reading, meditating, watching documentaries and TV shows, talking politics and religion and art with my friends and family, traveling whenever, wherever I can, seeing art, going to the theater now and then, singing along at the piano bar.

Teaching and studying writing.

Learning from the people who drive me crazy (ideally).

Sleeping in. Drinking coffee and tipping my barista.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

Accepting people, especially creative people, and talking them through the neurotic and scary art-making process.

Sipping scotch.

Dancing like I don't care what anyone thinks.

Laughing at things that otherwise would be horrible.

Moving things that are heavy, even though I am a skinny thing.

Showing up.

Living well on not much money. Raving about my love for FDR, while keeping my Republican friends.

Finding cheap, safe, beautiful hotels all over the world.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I walk fast. That my footsteps are loud. That I eat plenty but I am still skinny. I don't know why my ancestors survived.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Shakespeare and the Bible, Natalie Goldberg, Annie Dillard, Madeleine L'Engle, Kathleen Norris, Anne Lamott, John Irving, Vendela Vida, Vonnegut. I've read most of The Classics, and liked most of them.

A representative sample: The Beatles, Stevie Wonder, Cee Lo Green, Radiohead, Mozart operas.

I love pasta, red wine, good bread, and good coffee. I like all the ethnic foods I can think of... except Japanese.

I'm a vegetarian, but I'm not an asshole about it. It's my choice (for ethical reasons), and I make it work.

30 Rock. Arrested Development. West Wing. The Wire. Mad Men.

Out of Africa. Back to the Future. The Jerk. Peter Pan. Moonstruck.

Into the Woods. South Pacific. The Tempest. The Magic Flute.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, furry pets, trees, churches, art museums, chocolate. I'd prefer not to go without red wine, either.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Education, writing, art, painting, American history, medicine, memoirs, religion, ethics, language, culture, travel, politics, race, class, stories, and, lest I become too heady: what am I going to wear?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At happy hour with fellow teachers, laughing away the annoyances of the week. If my students drove me really crazy, I'm watching TV and falling asleep very unglamorously.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I had a panic attack on an airplane about a year ago, which was a huge surprise. I've been on many flights since, and it's made me much more compassionate. And I like to talk about it, since people often feel relieved and share their own story of something that embarrasses them, and we all feel more relaxed.
You should message me if
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You might in any way remind me of Elvis Costello or Josh from "West Wing."