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58 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 34–62
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Has a kid
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Greek (Poorly), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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House keeping note: I have the OKC app on my phone, so my profile indicates that I'm on the site 24-7-365. I'm not.

I'm a writer, an inventor (the kind who gets patents) and an entrepreneur.

I am world traveled, multilingual, politically progressive, own my own business, and am very much my own man.

There is a Norwegian word that has no one-word equivalent in English: "Tøffelhelt." A tøffelhelt is the kind of guy your grand mother wanted you to marry. The guy your college friends married and then cheated on within a year or two.

A tøffelhelt is kind, reliable, supportive and harmless. He does not make any waves, he provokes nobody, he always agrees with you partly out of politeness and partly because there just isn't that much to him.

OKC is crawling with tøffelhelts. If you want one of these house-broken beta guys, click away now. I'm not who you are looking for.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
What am I doing with my life? I'm trying to live it in accordance with my nature.

Is that too vague? I suppose it is, but it is also rare.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can write an essay very fast. I can whip-up an a good meal in a jiffy (my mother was a chef). I can fix anything: the washing machine, the toaster, the leaky pipe, the car. In fact, I can and have built an entire house but have not done that for years. I've now directed my tinkering toward a second career as an inventor.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The sensitive ones notice that conversation with me comes easy and is interesting.

And just about everyone notices that I smile quickly and laugh easily.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have hundreds and hundreds of books, but I'm transitioning to e-readers. One American book? Moby Dick. It's a touchstone for me. I love Dostoevsky. I love Kazantzakis. I love Kierkegaard. I love Unamuno. I love Theodore Roethke. I love Juan Rulfo. I love Rumi. I've read most of Michael Polan whose books are important but badly written. I think Oran Pamuk is a genius. I love Plato. I love Nietzsche. I love Lorca. I love Mark Twain. In my early twenties Pauline Reage revealed to me that generations of seekers in the realms of power and eros had followed their atavistic appetites just as I was beginning to follow mine.

My TV is hooked-up to a DVD and a VCR, not to cable or dish or some other source of broadcast TV. So, as a practical matter, I watch no TV at all.

I eat all cuisines but cook mostly Mediterranean. I do not eat processed foods. In general I eat meat only once or twice a week, and I do not eat corn-fed mass market meat.

Kurosawa is my favorite movie director. I also love Italian cinema and have seen all or most of Fellini, Rossellini, Pasolini, Visconti.

I am not interested in spectator sports and could not care less if the Yankees go the World Series. I played sports when I was kid, and loved doing it. I'm an adult now and am not interested in spending my time watching 28 year-old jocks hit a ball with a stick, or toss a ball through a hoop, or carry a ball over a line, or kick a ball into a net. I do ski very well (double black diamonds are fine) and like to scuba and hike in the woods.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is a silly question. I live in NY and have a wonderful rich life while 40% of the world's kids go to bed hungry every night. So, the suggestion that you or I could not live without certain material comforts strikes me as an overly-pampered and absurd vaporing. That said, life has no meaning outside of relationship. This applies to everything, not just eros. You can't build a business without relationships. You can't drive a car safely without the cooperation of other drivers. We are always and everywhere interrelated. I wish for fine relationships, that's what is most important to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How strange it is that the vast majority of people seem to feel that their symbols and values are the true way; and that the biggest problem in the world is that others have not yet seen their light.

The fact that wisdom cannot be passed on, with the consequence that every generation makes the same mistakes, particularly with the objective horror of war.

If a new gizmo I'm designing will qualify for a patent.

The fact that we are living in an interregnum in which the ideas and symbols and norms that informed our culture for centuries are collapsing, and new ideas and symbols and norms are struggling to be born.

Which section of the Appalachian trail should I hike next. Im working on the New England portion a few days at a time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Making pizza from scratch. Driving up to my farm (I'm partners in an organic farm.) Having dinner out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I came to NYC at 22 with a degree from a top college. A year later I ran out of money and the apartment I had arranged fell through. I was too proud to ask for help from my parents, so I slept on the #1 subway train for almost a week. 8 weeks later I had two employees and an apartment. If you meet me, and you ask, I'll tell you the whole story.
You should message me if
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You do not care about conventions generally. You think for yourself and have interesting things to say. You are interested in the world generally and respect all real human enterprise: spiritual and scientific and artistic. You are grounded in a practical way, yet are still artistically and spiritually sensitive and have no truck for religious fanatics or new-age myrmidons. You know in your marrow that living a deeper life means having an inner struggle and that spiritual evolution has as its cost some suffering. It is important to you to be a fine human being.

If you have read this far, I can add this: I am not your man if you find androgynous men, metro-sexual men or bisexual men sexy; if that's your taste you will almost certainly find me too unapologetically male.

By the way, I'm not only looking for eros. If you are an interesting woman with a subtle mind and a big heart, that's enough.

Finally, if you are a member of the GOP or the NRA, go away.