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58 • New York, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 34–62
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 6:08pm
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- Graduated from masters program
- Rather not say
- Open relationship
- Has a kid
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Greek (Poorly), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)
I'm a writer, an inventor (the kind who gets patents) and an entrepreneur.
I am world traveled, multilingual, politically progressive, own my own business, and am very much my own man.
There is a Norwegian word that has no one-word equivalent in English: "Tøffelhelt." A tøffelhelt is the kind of guy your grand mother wanted you to marry. The guy your college friends married and then cheated on within a year or two.
A tøffelhelt is kind, reliable, supportive and harmless. He does not make any waves, he provokes nobody, he always agrees with you partly out of politeness and partly because there just isn't that much to him.
OKC is crawling with tøffelhelts. If you want one of these house-broken beta guys, click away now. I'm not who you are looking for.
Is that too vague? I suppose it is, but it is also rare.
And just about everyone notices that I smile quickly and laugh easily.
My TV is hooked-up to a DVD and a VCR, not to cable or dish or some other source of broadcast TV. So, as a practical matter, I watch no TV at all.
I eat all cuisines but cook mostly Mediterranean. I do not eat processed foods. In general I eat meat only once or twice a week, and I do not eat corn-fed mass market meat.
Kurosawa is my favorite movie director. I also love Italian cinema and have seen all or most of Fellini, Rossellini, Pasolini, Visconti.
I am not interested in spectator sports and could not care less if the Yankees go the World Series. I played sports when I was kid, and loved doing it. I'm an adult now and am not interested in spending my time watching 28 year-old jocks hit a ball with a stick, or toss a ball through a hoop, or carry a ball over a line, or kick a ball into a net. I do ski very well (double black diamonds are fine) and like to scuba and hike in the woods.
The fact that wisdom cannot be passed on, with the consequence that every generation makes the same mistakes, particularly with the objective horror of war.
If a new gizmo I'm designing will qualify for a patent.
The fact that we are living in an interregnum in which the ideas and symbols and norms that informed our culture for centuries are collapsing, and new ideas and symbols and norms are struggling to be born.
Which section of the Appalachian trail should I hike next. Im working on the New England portion a few days at a time.
We are not looking for a prurient ménage à trois, much less a "unicorn." And we will not do three just to do it. But, through experience, we know that three can be an augmentation of two rather than, as most think, a dilution.
You can see her profile under the OKC moniker artfire.
If you have read this far, I can add this: I am not your man if you find androgynous men, metro-sexual men or bisexual men sexy; if that's your taste you will almost certainly find me too unapologetically male.
By the way, I'm not only looking for eros. If you are an interesting woman with a subtle mind and a big heart, that's enough.
Finally, if you are a member of the GOP or the NRA, go away.
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