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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:08pm
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I like to call myself eccentric and eclectic, but in reality, weird and boring is closer to the mark. I'd rather read than just about anything else.

That is a conscious decision, I've tried most things once and found that I simply prefer to read.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I majored in Space Science in college, but that didn't work out so well because math beyond Differential Equations is really hard. And I wasn't as good at it as I thought.

So I ended up fixing computers for a while. When my mother passed away a few years ago, I used the inheritance to try to become a writer. A few novels later, well, the writing part has been easy enough, but the selling them part has been hard. I've made some money, but not nearly enough. (And note that I said writer, not editor. I'm sure I've made a few typos on my profile. Especially when you re-write stuff they creep in)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading. Sort of a curse, actually, I read too fast. Takes me an hour or two to read a book, and that's just sort of my "cruise" speed. If I want to read faster, I can. Which is nice, but I tend to run out of things to read.

Though thanks to the Kindle, I'm not sure I can run out of things to read anymore. All pre-Mickey Mouse literature is now mine!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The uncanny resemblance to the 19th Century pre-Raphaelite painter Dante Gabriel Rosetti.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I've literally read thousands of books, averaging about 300-500 a year since I was 5 (Hey, my mother was a librarian.) My favorite genres are historical mysteries, noir, pulp, science fiction, and fantasy. Name an author in those genres and I've probably read him/her, at least once. I've also read most other genres, though some I won't admit least unless I know you well.

Movies: I like action, sci-fi and horror (the suspenseful sort, not sadistic or gory), as well as campy movies. Johnnie To and Ryuhei Kitamura are my favorite directors. Also love old movies, especially serials and pre-code stuff.

Although it's a bit hard to reconcile with my admiration for artistic creation, even badly done ones, I am a big MST3K/Rifftraxx/etc fan.

Shows: I generally only watch TV to watch the (baseball) Cardinals game or the History Channel and TCM. The last sitcom I liked was The Golden Girls, and the last drama...I don't know, I am afraid to watch them because they always seem to get canceled when I like them.

Music: I have a Last FM page -

Mostly a combination of '80s stuff, classic rock, and Electronic Dance Music (mostly trance). Led Zeppelin, Suzy Solar (her radio show), and A Flock of Seagulls are my top three.

I actually haven't liked a new rock song in almost 15 years (though I've tried to get into psychobilly), but on the flip side, there's more good music being produced today than I have time to listen to. It's all pretty much EDM, though. It's also nice looking back at music from the '70s and '80s that I missed at the time. (And yes, I really do like disco.)

Food: Pizza is my favorite. About the only great thing about St. Louis is the style of pizza, which I love. Faraci's on Manchester is the best, I can't even imagine a better pizza. Well, Farotto's is really good as well.

St. Louis has a lot of pizza places - do yourself a favor and don't eat at Imo's, or god help you, Cecil Whitaker's. They are respectively the McDonald's and Arby's of St. Louis style pizza

And while I'm being preachy about pizza, use your skillet to heat it back up, not a toaster oven. Just put some tin foil over it, put it on medium, and give it a few minutes until the cheese bubbles! Just try it. You'll kick yourself for not doing it earlier. I know I did.

Just to add my own categories:

Comics: Get Fuzzy, Drabble, Mother Goose & Grimm

Paintings: Et in Arcadia Eco by Nicholas Poussin, A Friend in Need by C.M. Coolidge, Flaming June by Frederic Leighton, and most landscapes by Caspar David Friedrich, but especially The Tree with Crows and A Couple Gazing at the Moon. Art is something I've grown to appreciate more as I've gotten older

Dr Whos: Jon Pertwee - he was the most stylishly dressed (even looking good in a cape) and flew an autogyro. And Leela would be my favorite companion, she's very...stabby.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I know it's trite, but really just the basics: Food, shoes without holes in them (especially the sole), clean drinking water, a roof over my head, heating in winter, a bathroom (and ability to take a hot shower). I've spent a (fortunately) brief time homeless, and really, those are the things you really really miss.

Seriously, who cares about an ipod when it's 30 degrees and pouring ice rain? Once you've lost everything, it's hard to get attached to mere possessions again...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Scenes from my current writing projects. I like to think about them and visualize them, then write them down when I get them worked out right in my head. Almost always ends up different in written form.

It's given me a much better understanding of Michael Bay. When you can't figure out how to develop a scene further, it's easy to just insert an action scene or explosion.

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exploring other planets, battling the forces of evil, solving a mystery, learning about the past, all the while fending off menacing wild beasts.

Or in more prosaic terms, reading a book while occasionally entertaining one of my pets.

Saturdays I generally go out, though it's usually to the library and then a pizza.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sheesh, these days I don't even get profile views anymore.

This new focus on photos does not serve me well.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I realize that women don't exactly dream about meeting a slightly balding, middle aged, slightly overweight plain looking guy with a goatee, so I don't expect a lot of email.

By and large, that has been the case. But what email I do get seems to be from women just looking for a warm body. I am more than that.

I've emailed women of every shape, size, and color on this site. What did they have in common? Well, besides not replying to me (heh), there was just something about them that I liked that made me want to get to know them better.

That's all I really ask.

(Well, okay, you also have to be single. I really don't understand people who are still married but separated and yet apparently have to run out and find someone else before they finalize anything)