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37 Baltimore, MD Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:30pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Banking / Finance
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Sooo......I kind of like to think of myself as having a little bit of southern gentleman in me even though I was born and raised in the north. I am not at all into watching sports - but that's because I prefer to be "doing". I ran almost 900 miles last year - and that includes the Delaware and Richmond marathons. Although I have significantly eased up on the running this year, I am still not a couch potato and not looking to date one either. (Don't get me wrong, days on the couch are needed; just not every day.) The Muppet Animal and I would have a lot to talk about. I am long past my days of hanging out in bars on a regular basis - unless you consider every 4-6 weeks, when my band is playing, as a regular basis. (My group of friends has advanced to the "game night on a Friday" type crowd - and I'm okay with that.) For about three years I've been on a not-so-merry-go-round of serial dating and looking to get off of it. Some people will take my directness as a turn-off; they shouldn't. It just means I know what I am looking for. Booty calls / flings / anything of similar nature: that's not why I am on here. I am hoping to find someone interested in developing something of significance.

I have to say I am quite hesitant to continue this online dating stuff. The reality is, my experiences have pretty much mimicked some studies I have read - and that is the deck is stacked against guys. Why? Women are inundated with emails from d-bags who post shirtless selfies while perched on their motorcycle in front of their bathroom mirror. Said d-bag also can't be bothered to write a more meaningful message other than "Ur hot" or something equally neanderthal-like. So, messages from guys like me pretty much go unanswered while you only chose to engage the guys you email first. So, if I pop by your profile once or twice and don't email you, it might be just because I am exhausted by this whole process. And if there is an interest, just say hi.

I am also not going to continuously email you. If after a few emails you aren't comfortable exchanging phone numbers, or otherwise making plans to meet up, I'm checking out. This online-stuff doesn't really work unless you actually meet up. I "meet" an awful lot of text buddies.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being a dog dad / homeowner / realist / runner and trying to raise blueberries.

I spent the last bunch of years working as a mechanical designer and going to college part-time for finance. I left the full-time gig to focus on the education stuff. My career was stalled, the job was very stressful and taking a toll on my health so I decided to bolt.

I'm also a drummer in a cover band. This is our guy's night out type thing - just our way to blow off steam.

Other spare time activities are transporting dogs for a couple of rescues and running.

The breed of furry folks I help:
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking to my dog in goofy voices and opening jars
....oh and killing bugs....
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe my eyes - they are blue. I was told sometimes I have a very stoic facial expression.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Unfortunately I mainly read text books but try to read Grassroots Motorsports, Atomic Ranch, Wall Street Journal and Bloomberg Business Week.

Don't ask me about TV shows; I don't watch them.

Rock and Roll is pretty much my default setting when it comes to music. I wish I could lie and say I like some band you've never heard of (and hell, some of the ones I read sound made up anyway), but I can't. The classics like Led Zeppelin and Van Halen will always be close to my heart. I do enjoy playing the one-hit wonders like OK-GO's Get Over It and Teenage Dirtbag by Wheatus.

Food: I like Italian and Mexican. Hate eggplant.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dog Scotty - he gives me a reason to laugh nearly every day and a reason to drag my butt outta bed (mainly because I know he has to pee)
Music - love jamming with the guys & I dig my Sonor drums
A comfy pair of jeans
Chipotle - nothing beats a 3000 calorie burrito after a long run.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Graduation in May

Why it is there are a lot of women who say they are looking for a nice guy but then chose not to walk that walk; they stick with the assholes. As it turns out ladies, there are still some nice guys out there; you just aren't open to dating them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ghost ridin' the whip. Nah actually it's like what it says on a box of puddin: "cook and chill - and baby that's what I do every night, I cook - 'n then I chiiiilll." Saturday night is a little different.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was once set up on a blind date by a divorce attorney.
If you don't find that ironic and funny as hell, I'm not the guy for you. (Just for clarification - I've been engaged but never married. The divorce attorney just happens to live in my neighborhood.)
You should message me if
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Most importantly: you understand that the only way for dating to really work is that sometimes you have to be willing to be vulnerable....and you are okay with that. I'm not talking about being a little bit vulnerable so that someone will like you more. That's called manipulation. I'm talking about being vulnerable without expectation.

Nothing is a deal breaker but I would prefer:

You don't smoke, don't have kids, and are active. I would like a kid of my own (okay, this one is a deal breaker) and don't think I could be content being like my brother-in-law and being a step-dad. I ran 900 miles last year. If you can't walk up 4 flights of stairs, we probably won't get along.

Again, not a deal breaker but truthfully, tattoos are like bumper stickers on a Ferrari to me. I just don't get the appeal.

I find drunk people funny (even though I rarely drink to excess anymore) and stoned people absolutely annoying! If getting high is your thing, then rock on. But I don't want to date you.

Bonus points if you're a southern or mid-western girl. There is an intangible I can't really articulate other than to say, southern and mid-west girls just seem to be a lot more grounded and way more appreciative than others.

Also bonus points if you have an artistic streak.

I like to collaborate with people. Taking on a project is bonding. Painting a room. Making dinner. Doesn't matter other than being able to step back and say, "We did this together." That's important to me.

Please say something more than 'Hi" or "How are you?"