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30 Portland, OR Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 7
Sapiosexual, Pansexual, Queer
White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Used up
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and very serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of space camp
Entertainment / Media
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Intense. Surreal. Charming. Satirist. Sarcastic. Wise. Bold. Deviant. Loyal. Devoted. Curious. Tenacious. Hopeless Romantic. Smartass.

Whimsy ridden fantastical sort of lady with a strange life and stranger things to look forward to. Incredibly unconventional and NOT for the faint at heart. If there is a creative outlet, I jump on it.

Looking to meet the intellectually minded and overall stimulating folk who are honest, loyal, and follow through on their word. I enjoy other artistic types, musicians, creators, inventors, and people passionate about innovation and making some neat shit happen whether solo or collectively.

-Pansexual. I'm attracted to people, not genitalia.
-Monogamous however I like exploring other adventurous women with a certain understanding and maturity.
-Alpha and Gender Fluid. I'm not particularly girly.
-INFP. Type 4 w/ 5 wing.
-Charmingly Bipolar (Type 2)
-Nervous in large crowds.
-Nocturnal and sleeps a lot.
-IQ-140. High Spatial. (By a Doctor, not the internet)
-Scorpio, Capricorn Rising, Moon in Pisces, Year of the Rat but this matters none at all.

Open mindedness is an absolute MUST!

I'm like marla singer meets amelie.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Embracing a long term goal and starting up a very unique sort of business where I can hopefully begin to show an aspect of human nature in a very real way. It also is my effort to create a place where women are given the freedom to present their sexuality as they want and offer something very true to them.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Self employment and creating new endeavors. Being an autodidact I always have something new I am teaching myself and it's often for a useful reason.

Listening to others and being a sounding board. Creating cathartic experiences for people to help them move through something or challenge themselves. (My job as a Top in BDSM)

Keeping my word.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am incredibly easy to talk to and quite often have total strangers opening up to me. I'm a gentle spirit even with my seemingly "intimidating" nature.

I'm kinda fucking hilarious.

That I'm tall and very noticeable in a crowd.
My intelligence and ability to carry on a conversation.
The fact I know way too much about random crap.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Love this --->

I'll work on this. For the time being, I'm really into history and documentaries. I've been watching a lot of Louis CK, UK shows, Victorian-era romance/dramas, and documentaries on world culture. I don't own a television or watch TV but dig random indie flicks. I also don't really like American culture/media.

I also like industrial, experimental techno, heavy metal, 90's grunge, and drum and bass. I hate top 40's.

Food wise I eat mostly vegetarian but do need meat once in a while (once a week maybe). I'm all about trying new things and love cooking with someone. I abhor fast food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-The Internet.
-Music and other Creative Media.
-A place of my own where I feel safe.
-Snuggle buddies
-Hot tea.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I've had such a hard time connecting with others at specifically this point in my life. I've been alone for a while and continually seek connection and then hope it stays consistent!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably working unless someone suggests a fun idea then I will switch around my schedule.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am incredibly self conscious and my self esteem is barely above craptastic. Example...I am surprised when someone finds me attractive as apparently I am considered such. Compared to most I've had a very hard life and it's left some scars and bruises. I fear rejection and in the past have settled for mediocrity.

That shit is about to change.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
....Please write something significant so that's it's apparent you actually READ my profile. I know it's lengthy but it's like that for a reason. I don't want anyone's time wasted, yours or mine.
....Be concise, respectful, and have good intentions. Sending me a message that's 1-2 sentences gets deleted. Make an effort in writing me...this is, in fact, your first impression.
....A true person is what you are looking for. Someone that challenges you, inspires you, motivates you. I'm picky and look for those who push me to be a better person. This is why I dig the creative type, thinkers, movers, do-ers.

If I don't respond immediately, don't fret. I get a lot of messages and I try to respond to everyone who makes an effort.