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My self-summary
Intense. Surreal. Charming. Satirist. Sarcastic. Wise. Bold. Deviant. Loyal. Devoted. Curious. Tenacious. Hopeless Romantic. Smartass.

Whimsy ridden fantastical sort of lady with a strange life and stranger things to look forward to. Incredibly unconventional and NOT for the faint at heart. If there is a creative outlet, I jump on it.

Looking to meet the intellectually minded and overall stimulating folk who are honest, loyal, and follow through on their word. I enjoy other artistic types, musicians, creators, inventors, and people passionate about innovation and making some neat shit happen whether solo or collectively.

I'm eager for someone who shows genuine effort and interest in getting to know me and appreciating me. It's usually me that winds up maintaining most of the relationship with little reciprocation; I'm ready for a change here and with someone that I'm also just as interested in.

I have a sort of curse; It seems that if I find someone attractive I become invisible to them. True story.

I'm no longer willing to settle for mediocrity or anyone who half asses things.
With that said
...when did taking someone out to dinner no longer become an expected thing?

Appreciated and adored and not just being lusted after yet all three together is encouraged!

-Pansexual. I'm attracted to people, not genitalia.
-Monogamous however I like exploring other adventurous women with a certain understanding and maturity.
-Alpha and Gender Fluid. I'm not particularly girly and have a stronger libido than most women.
-INFP. Type 4 w/ 5 wing.
-Charmingly Neurotic
-Nervous in large crowds.
-Nocturnal and sleeps a lot.
-IQ-140. High Spatial. (By a Doctor, not the internet)
-Scorpio, Capricorn Rising, Moon in Pisces, Year of the Rat but this matters none at all.

Open mindedness is an absolute MUST!

I'm like marla singer meets amelie.
What I’m doing with my life
Embracing a long term goal and starting up a very unique sort of business where I can hopefully begin to show an aspect of human nature in a very real way. It also is my effort to create a place where women are given the freedom to present their sexuality as they want and offer something very true to them.

I have circumstances in my life that make things a considerable bit more difficult for me and most would find overwhelming. I've had to become very strong and resilient to handle things I've been through and situations I may not have had control over. Naturally, these things have shaped and affected me but in no way have broken me. I've found that people who tend to not understand struggle and the importance of introspection and accountability pass judgment on me and are put off. The lack of understanding and willingness to ask questions is bothersome but this is how some people are and assumptions are things I have to deal with more than I'd like.
I’m really good at
Self employment and creating new endeavors.
Which, UPDATE!...being I have a YouTube channel already I've decided to create a series of videos that will hopefully shed magnificent amounts of light to the people who use this site. The OkCupid Experience, explanations, reviews, and criticisms aimed to educate users on their possible lack of luck, things people really think are okay to say, and those who stand out epically as possible role models to the eager online dater.

Expect several videos that address the neverending confusion of why males on this site never have anyone respond to them even with years of dedication to woo the digital darlings. Sure, you may think you are Mr. Studly Muffinbuns but having only gym selfies and the inability to write a full sentence only really makes it obvious it's you that wants in your pants which is awesome because you are already wearing them!

Yeah...there are people who possess an air of confidence yet the personality of a potted plant and it's inspiring yet sad at the same time.

Listening to others and being a sounding board. Creating cathartic experiences for people to help them move through something or challenge themselves. (My job as a Top in BDSM)

Keeping my word.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am incredibly easy to talk to and quite often have total strangers opening up to me. I'm a gentle spirit even with my seemingly "intimidating" nature.

I'm kinda fucking hilarious.

That I'm tall and very noticeable in a crowd.
My intelligence and ability to carry on a conversation.
The fact I know way too much about random crap.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm a female that plays video games...a lot. I also stream them. I also enjoy MMOs and am a nerd fantasy. I like horror, adventure, indie, and puzzle types of games and had a skyrim addiction for a while. Total PC gamer, not into consoles so much.

Love this --->

I'll work on this. For the time being, I'm really into history and documentaries. I've been watching a lot of Louis CK, UK shows, Victorian-era romance/dramas, and documentaries on world culture. I don't own a television or watch TV but dig random indie flicks. I also don't really like American culture/media.

I also like industrial, experimental techno, heavy metal, 90's grunge, and drum and bass. I hate top 40's.

Food wise I eat mostly vegetarian but do need meat once in a while (once a week maybe). I'm all about trying new things and love cooking with someone. I abhor fast food.
The six things I could never do without
-The Internet.
-Music and other Creative Media.
-A place of my own where I feel safe.
-Snuggle buddies or basically having a meaningful connection with others.
-Hot tea.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why I've had such a hard time connecting with others at specifically this point in my life. I've been alone for a while and continually seek connection and then hope it stays consistent!

The fact it's rare to find women that view sexuality with the kind of tenacity and openness that I do. I'm capable of casual sex or can wear a bow tie if it's formal. I'm also capable of just having a strong platonic connection with someone however I've realized that many women have negative feelings regarding openly embracing their sexuality or expressing particular needs. Don't confuse this with me being careless or reckless sexually; I still am picky and have to be considerably attracted to someone. A pulse is not the only requirement I have and actually most people end up being a bit too vanilla or 'tame' for me.

If I'm the only actual altruist that exists or if someone else has it as a part of their nature to care for others without conscious thought or reward.

Why do people from other CONTINENTS send me a casual message as if that's going to go anywhere? I'm on here to MEET people in PERSON and if you are literally halfway around the world...why? Nothing will become of this unless for some reason you are obviously epic and we could be a single celled love amoeba. Unlikely so...why you do dis?!??
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably working unless someone suggests a fun idea then I will switch around my schedule.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am incredibly self conscious and my self esteem is barely above craptastic. Example...I am surprised when someone finds me attractive as I don't get hit on in public or even approached. And like many women, I'm hard on myself, appearance, and think I'm fat. I fear rejection and in the past have settled for mediocrity not going for those that I'm truly attracted to in fear I'm barking up a tree I got no business getting shade from.

That shit is about to change.

Also, I sleep with a teddy bear and have had the same one for 15 years.
You should message me if
You want to yet for some reason are scared/intimidated...FUCK THAT. Yeah, I'm assertive and brassy but I'm on this site to meet others also. So please, know I'm a person, and while intense I'm a goober with hang ups of my own. I'm lonelier than you think...

....Please write something significant so that's it's apparent you actually READ my profile. I know it's lengthy but it's like that for a reason. I don't want anyone's time wasted, yours or mine.
....Be concise, respectful, and have good intentions. Sending me a message that's 1-2 sentences gets deleted. Make an effort in writing me...this is, in fact, your first impression.
....A true person is what you are looking for. Someone that challenges you, inspires you, motivates you. I'm picky and look for those who push me to be a better person. This is why I dig the creative type, thinkers, movers, do-ers.

If I don't respond immediately, don't fret. I get a lot of messages and I try to respond to everyone who makes an effort.