I've led a pretty good life so far, but there's no reason it can't get even better.

I'm a cis guy attracted to men, and I've been completely out for five years. Physical stats are in the sidebar if they matter, though I'm more likely to be into you if they don't. I don't have any physical requirements when it comes to guys I'm attracted to, as long as basic hygiene, etc. are up to snuff.

In terms of personality, I like lots of different types of guys there. Confidence or cockiness can be a plus (as long as it doesn't come with arrogance) self-assurance and self-confidence are sexy, and while a good sense of humor's great, just being caring and attentive is just as nice.

I'm a chameleon when it comes to activities - I'm just as likely to enjoy a night out dancing as a movie night at home, or a hike in the mountains, or a session of window shopping. SoCal's got plenty to do, and as long as I've got good company, I'll probably be having fun.

If you're interested and you think we'd hit it off, don't count yourself out based on anything I've written here or how I've answered any questions. Give me a chance to decide. :) The only caveats are that I'm not looking to be monogamous, and I'm not looking for anything long-term (past six months or so), so if you're looking for the one true love of your life to have all to yourself until the end of time, I'm not who you're looking for.

I graduated from UC Irvine in 2010 with a degree in psychology, and while I still have a passion for the subject, I think my future lies in writing. After mulling the possibility over for years, I now have my sights set on becoming an author (most likely in science fiction and/or fantasy). Right now I'm employed part-time in retail, but I'm looking for a better day job in addition to trying to finish some writing I can make money from. In the long term, I want to be able to write full-time, partly because day jobs suck and partly because I'd like the option to live anywhere I want to.

I'm also considering getting a TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) Certification over the summer, with the goal of finding a teaching job in Japan for a while. Nothing's final yet, but it's an option.

Aside from that, I want to do what I can to make a good life for myself, learn as much as I can about as many things as I can, and ultimately be a good person and live a good life with the people I love.

Though I discovered it later than I would have liked, and I have yet to produce a finished work I'm ready to show to a wider audience, I love (and have been assured I'm at least somewhat competent at) writing. I feel like there's a lot of room for a gay man to break through in genre fiction, and with some luck, some skill, and a lot of hard work, that'll be me.

I'm also a language geek: my minor is in linguistics, and I've taken classes in Spanish, Japanese and Russian in the past, and I'm currently working on getting my skill in Japanese back. I've lost most of them since, though I'd love to learn them back someday. I love listening to music in other languages as well. I've even created a phonetic profile, a grammar, a few hundred words, and a handwritten script for a constructed language, though I don't know if it'll ever get used in any of my stories.

I've been a real couch potato for much of my life, but during college I became an avid biker, and I'm looking to start that up again, along with some other cardio (like hiking) and strength training (as much as I can without a gym membership). I don't have a specific goal weight in mind, and I like my body well enough the way it is, but I also want to improve my overall fitness.

All in all, I like to do a lot of different things, and even if I've never done it before, I'll probably try it without much convincing. I'm always looking to make life more interesting, and I'd love to meet someone who can expand my horizons.

I tend to come across as quiet or even shy when I don't know someone well, though if it's a topic I'm interested in, I'll usually jump right in, and once you get me going I can be hard to shut up.

For books, I'm pretty big into science fiction and fantasy, though I'm fairly picky now and I don't read nearly as voraciously as I used to. I like stories that are less about the strangeness of the setting and more about the characters' reactions to it and to each other. Orson Scott Card played a major formative role in my taste in books, especially his older works like Ender's Game and Songmaster, though I can't stand the man himself anymore because of his anti-gay activism. I'm also a big fan of William Gibson's Neuromancer, Steven Brust's Dragaera books, Harry Potter, Terry Pratchett's Discworld, and a few other series. Recently I've been trying to catch up on the classics as well, and I've got some Ray Bradbury, Jules Verne, and H.G. Wells queued up to read.

With TV, I'm not nearly as picky. I watch and enjoy shows as diverse as Futurama, The Venture Bros., Frasier, Firefly, Raising Hope, Eureka, Once Upon A Time, and The Amazing Race, to name a few. I'm also into anime, with some of my favorites including Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex, FLCL, Eureka Seven, Cowboy Bebop, and anything by Studio Ghibli or the late, great Satoshi Kon.

As for movies, I'm up for just about anything, though I have a soft spot for gay flicks (even terrible ones), character comedies, and - of course - sci-fi and fantasy.

If I had to pick a favorite genre of videogame, it'd definitely be RPGs, both Western and Japanese. Dragon Age is one of my favorite series, and I like everything else I've played from Bioware nearly as much. I love a few Final Fantasy titles (despite having yet to finish any), Golden Sun, The World Ends With You and most Pokémon games. Outside of RPGs, I'm big into Assassin's Creed, The Legend of Zelda, Metroid, Paper Mario, Ōkami, and a bunch of indie games by Anna Anthropy and Christine Love. And I'll give nearly anything multiplayer a try with some friends.

I'm a longtime lover of music, and though these days I usually listen to rock/alt stuff (along the lines of 98.7 FM or 106.7 FM in SoCal), I can listen to and enjoy basically anything. I don't own a lot of music, and what I do have is mostly soundtracks (with Yoko Kanno's work taking up most of that space). I don't listen to a ton of classical nowadays, but I definitely have an appreciation for it.

When it comes to food, I'm not a picky eater, though lately I've been cutting down on soda, red meat, and a few other things just for the sake of feeling better. The one major exception is that I don't eat fish that isn't deep-fried beyond recognition. Despite that, I'm a sucker for California/Baja Mexican food (Chronic Tacos especially), and I'll still never say no to Japanese as long as they've got something other than sushi. I don't drink coffee, but on some days my blood's more tea than plasma. I'm not always adventurous at restaurants, though I can usually be persuaded to try anything once with enough prodding.

> My curiosity. If something exists, it's worth learning about. Given that I'm aiming toward making a living as an author, I can't afford to judge any topic worthless, and so over the years I've basically become an information junkie. Current events, historical facts, biographical tidbits, etc. - everything I learn, no matter how small, is fascinating and potentially useful.

> My family. I'm kind of a homebody, and up to now I've spent all the major holidays with my family if I could manage it. My parents were a key part of why I'm so optimistic and open to experience, and coming out to them was almost a non-issue.

> Music. Like I said above, I'm not very focused about it, but I couldn't imagine not having music in my life. In my opinion, it's an inherent part of being human. If there's something playing, I have to move some part of my body with the rhythm, even if it's just tapping a foot.

> The internet. That might sound a little nerdy, but hey, it's true. My life as I know it wouldn't be possible without it. It connects me to my friends and loved ones, and enables me to constantly learn more about the world and expose myself to anything I might ever want to know in the blink of an eye. And that's pretty damn cool.

> Stories. Whether on paper or on a screen, passive or interactive, fixed or mutable, I love stories. Even if I weren't planning on creating them myself, I'd still feel a little bit less human if I didn't have traces of all the stories I've ever experienced stored away in my head.

> My people. Whether intimately involved or not, whether in person or online, I value everyone who claims me as a friend.

Just about anything. I'm a daydreamer and a fantasizer, so don't be surprised if I zone out every once in a while trying to work through a question or flesh out a potential plot point that suddenly popped up in my head. I also tend to make weird leaps in conversation when my thoughts make connections I haven't said out loud.

One specific thing I put a lot of thought into, though, is how to show affection to the guy(s) I love. I'm a fan of the romantic gesture; from holding hands to surprise gifts to whatever else, I do what I can to make my guy(s) feel special. :)

Lately I've been kind of a homebody, but I'm definitely up for going out trying new things.

I'm reluctant to ask for help even if I know I really want or need it.

you want to chat for a bit, you want to be friends, or you're interested in me romantically (and you're fine with sharing me with others). If you think we'd click and want to go out on a date, or just hang out as friends, drop me a message. I'd love to hear from you. :)